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  • WEDNESDAY AUGUST 25 2010 2:40 AM

Discourse of a Rogue Nerd: The Power of Self-Respect

by AJ Focht

SPOILER ALERT!: First and foremost I warn all who have not seen Scott Pilgrim VS. The World or read its comic counter parts, I will be using spoilers to get my point across; if you haven’t seen the movie (or read the comics) perhaps you should wait to read this.


An interesting change from the comic to the film adaption of Scott Pilgrim VS. The World was the use of the “Power of Self-Respect” sword at the end of the film. In the comics Scott ended up with the “Power of Understanding” sword, which he used to defeat Gideon. In the movie, Scott realizes that he needs to fight Gideon for himself and not for Ramona. This grants him the “Power of Self-Respect” that helps him in his defeat.



While the movie risked fan-boy rage to make the change, I think they made the right decision. The message that it delivers to the viewers is much more powerful and meaningful, than the original message in the comic books. Self-respect is something that is clearly lacking in the geek world.

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Most geeks don’t have much trouble with supplying the romance portion of the relationship. Enough video games and movies have taught us how to treat our “princesses” well. The sad part is a good portion of our romance is affected by our self-respect. Many geeks are overly romantic, on the way to full on clingy, because they fear losing their love. We could attribute this one back to video games, and the fact that Mario and Peach have not had an uninterrupted moment since 1981, but more realistically it is because we are afraid if we lose our love we may never find them again.

Truth of the matter is, most all geeks have large self-respect issues, often going back to high school. We all remember a time when it was not cool to be a geek. We were ridiculed and picked on throughout high school and for some college. Being a geek was hard and the idea of getting the girl (or boy) was a far off fantasy.

For many this changes after high school. In college geeks are given a lot more reign, especially in today’s society. In most cases this is where most geeks get their first taste of the “Power of Love.” This is also where all those nasty self-respect issues kick in. We start to remember every time we were turned down in high school, bullied, picked on, and laughed at. This causes us to try harder to please our lover and often times can lead to suffocating the relationship. Once that happens you are right back at square one with no “Power of Love” and lots more self-respect issues.

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The key is to do as Scott Pilgrim did and find your self-respect. You can’t expect it to happen in a perfect movie instant but it is something to work on. If you don’t have the “Power of Self-Respect” to back up that “Power of Love” you will always end up drowning. There are a lot of ways to help build your self-respect but a key one you need to remember is: do things for yourself.

Just like in the movie, you need to make sure that you are doing things for you. Don’t expect your love to overcome all obstacles if you can’t overcome your own personal obstacles. You need to make sure that you are focusing on fulfilling your own needs and not always fulfilling the needs of others. Focus on your own needs and then help other out where you can. Do what you need to in order to be happy with yourself. I know this sounds really cliché but how can you expect to win the heart of your Ramona Flowers if you don’t even like the heart you’re offering her in return.

 
Comments
PointBlank

PointBlank

New York, NY
November 2004

AUG 25, 2010 07:12 AM



Most geeks don’t have much trouble with supplying the romance portion of the relationship. Enough video games and movies have taught us how to treat our “princesses” well.


Maybe the problem with "geeks" is that they act like it's a boys only club? Like a frat with less date rape and more furtive masturbation and video games.

Morgan

Morgan

SUICIDEGIRL

Illinois, USA

AUG 25, 2010 09:11 AM

PointBlank said:


Most geeks don’t have much trouble with supplying the romance portion of the relationship. Enough video games and movies have taught us how to treat our “princesses” well.


Maybe the problem with "geeks" is that they act like it's a boys only club?



Yup. Or act either amazed that a girl could be a geek too or act condescending towards her, like she's not a "real" geek. Or assume that if a girl geek manages to enter their circle she is up for dating and is a bitch if she doesn't want to, or...well, I could go on and on about how frustrating it can be from a female geek perspective.

Sal_

Sal_

USA
October 2009

AUG 25, 2010 10:14 AM

I'm not really sure about using the term "geek" as a catch all descriptor for a group of people. If you are talking about the stereotype definition for what a geek is then maybe.

Regardless of the label, i think it's better to put it that there are those of us that weren't as socially accepted as others and our social skills were affected due to it.

I always judge a person by who they are and not what label society attaches to them or what stereotype they might closely resemble.

PointBlank

PointBlank

New York, NY
November 2004

AUG 25, 2010 10:27 AM

Sallen said:
i think it's better to put it that there are those of us that weren't as socially accepted as others and our social skills were affected due to it.


That's sort of a chicken/egg thing, isn't it?

Sal_

Sal_

USA
October 2009

AUG 25, 2010 11:58 AM

PointBlank said:

Sallen said:
i think it's better to put it that there are those of us that weren't as socially accepted as others and our social skills were affected due to it.


That's sort of a chicken/egg thing, isn't it?



How so?

Also, I am typing this from my phone so pleas excuse any typos as this stupid thing won't allow the whole text window to be shown.

I should put I don't buy into this modern social concept of "geek" cool. From my experience and observations it's just a style that is being consumed by the cool kids. A popular/socially accepted person dressing or thinking it's trendy to act like a geek does not equal real"geeks/nerds" being accepted. It just means the cool kids have another fad to play around with while still hassling therhe real fraKs and geeks out there.

PointBlank

PointBlank

New York, NY
November 2004

AUG 25, 2010 12:11 PM

Sallen said:

PointBlank said:

Sallen said:
i think it's better to put it that there are those of us that weren't as socially accepted as others and our social skills were affected due to it.


That's sort of a chicken/egg thing, isn't it?



How so?


You might not be socially accepted because you didn't have good social skills. Or you might not have good social skills because you weren't socially accepted. What comes first?

Sal_

Sal_

USA
October 2009

AUG 25, 2010 12:32 PM

PointBlank said:

Sallen said:

PointBlank said:

Sallen said:
i think it's better to put it that there are those of us that weren't as socially accepted as others and our social skills were affected due to it.


That's sort of a chicken/egg thing, isn't it?



How so?


You might not be socially accepted because you didn't have good social skills. Or you might not have good social skills because you weren't socially accepted. What comes first?



I pretty sure social skills are acquired through peer interaction and observation of adults(I am not entirely sure on that though).

I think we would actually need to better understand what makes kids exclude tcertaim other lids at early development ages first. Don't know if that made sense. Can't really see what I am typing.

_margot_

_margot_

Los Angeles, CA
December 2007

AUG 25, 2010 12:32 PM

Morgan said:

PointBlank said:


Most geeks don’t have much trouble with supplying the romance portion of the relationship. Enough video games and movies have taught us how to treat our “princesses” well.


Maybe the problem with "geeks" is that they act like it's a boys only club?



Yup. Or act either amazed that a girl could be a geek too or act condescending towards her, like she's not a "real" geek. Or assume that if a girl geek manages to enter their circle she is up for dating and is a bitch if she doesn't want to, or...well, I could go on and on about how frustrating it can be from a female geek perspective.



Without a doubt. When I talk about the things I like with some male, "geeks" I get lots of questions about how I got into comics, or gaming. Usually with the assumption that a boyfriend or brother introduced me to it.


Cherry2000

Cherry2000

Calgary, AB
July 2009

AUG 25, 2010 01:00 PM

Also note that in the movie, you don't get the Power of Love sword and the Power of Self-Respect sword at the same time. Choose one.

SPOILERS! (Click to view)

I thought the moral was better in the comics.



fleshandbone

fleshandbone

United Kingdom
December 2009

AUG 28, 2010 03:22 PM

This struck a chord with me, although I've been working on self respect and self esteem issues for a while and after being a fan of the books for a while the film is now ranked in my top five movies.