Too embarrassed to talk to your friends about your furry fetish? Not sure when to tell your partner about those, um, nasty genital warts? Are your friends sick and tired of you running to them every time that frenemy of yours pisses you off? Not sure how to get your foot in the door of that fab new career you want? I got you covered. Miss Truth Hurts is here to answer all of your love, life, sex, career, and relationship questions. Ask anything. I've been there/done that (except for the warts) and I've dished out advice to readers just like you through the pages of my advice book/lifestyle guide, Cherry Bomb: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Flirt, a Tougher Chick, and a Hotter Girlfriend, and to Living Life Like a Rock Star.

Send your questions, dilemmas, and conundrums to misstruthhurts@suicidegirls.com. Alternatively, SG members can send a message via the site to MissTruthHurts.



Q: My boyfriend cheated on me three times, but I love him and he's a better boyfriend after each time he cheats. His apologies always get me, but then he does it again. We live together and he seems to really need and love me. But, how do I get him not to cheat?

-Cheated on in California


A: Are you serious? Three times? Dump the dude! And get some therapy. Code word: Co-Dependency!



Q: Aside from ad spaces on blogs and using my non-existent contacts in the literary industry, how can I get a gig doing freelance non-fiction essays for publications like The New Yorker or even get a column like you?

-Troubled in Tampa


A: Buy this book: 2009 Writer's Market This was my Bible when I started out. It lists every publication and gives explicit instructions on how to approach them for work. Follow what they say to the T. The book also has examples of query letters and other useful information on breaking into magazines, newspapers, and books. It's mostly for writers, but photographers can use it for the contact info as well. Other than that, I say, write every day like Hunter S. Thompson did. You need to hone your craft and get published a LOT before you will ever be considered for a column. You should offer up your stuff for free at the beginning just to get a collection of clips for your portfolio. Once you get good clips, then start to sell your work. It's exactly what I did.



Q: I'm interested in being a freelance photo journalist so any advice or help you can offer would be greatly appreciated!

-Occupationally Challenged in the O.C.


A: The answer for Troubled in Tampa works for you too. But you should also shoot as much as you can and submit your stuff per the Writer's Market guidelines. If it's bands you want to shoot, you can start with small, local bands that will let you shoot and possibly even want to use your images for their websites and/or press kits.



Q: Is it true that you can have an orgasm without even touching? If so, how do it you do it?

-Curious in Colorado


A: I'm going to let one of my favorite sexperts answer this one for you. In my book, contributor Dr. Ava Cadell refers to it as the “Mind Over Body Orgasm” and apparently it works for some women. She writes: "Since the brain is the most erotic organ in the body, it should be no surprise that you can think your way to orgasm. Sexual thoughts can activate the brain just like sexual touching does. If you've ever enjoyed looking at porn, you'll know what I'm talking about. Visuals of people having sex can automatically trigger your body into a state of arousal, making women wet and giving men erections. If you continued to watch erotica without touching yourself, you could still experience a full-blown orgasm. Even if you're not into porn, you can achieve a mind over body orgasm by tapping into all of your five senses. To begin, wet your genitals with your own saliva or some lubricant, and then using only your imagination; think about what your lover's tongue would feel like between your legs. What he or she smells like when fully aroused, visualize what they look like naked, imagine touching, kissing, licking and tasting his or her body. Hear them moaning with pleasure. Become aware of your own feelings as you let your excitement build. The trick here is not to touch yourself, but to let the ebb and flow of your orgasm take you on a mental journey to sexual ecstasy. This can also be fun to do with a partner as a safe sex activity."




Carrie Borzillo-Vrenna is Suicide Girls' sex, love, and life advice columnist. She is an entertainment journalist, rock wife, and author of Cherry Bomb: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Flirt, a Tougher Chick, and a Hotter Girlfriend, and to Living Life Like a Rock Star and Eyewitness Nirvana: The Day-by-Day Chronicle.

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