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Q: I'm a straight guy but one of my closest guy friends is gay and when he gets drunk, he hits on me. He even kissed me once and I just brushed it off. He's been doing this for a while and I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to make a big issue of it, but I'm not gay, so, how do I tell him to stop?
-Dong Dread in Detroit
A: Hmmmm. He kissed you and you just brushed it off? And, you let him continually hit on you? Are you sure you're not curious perhaps? Maybe you have some soul-searching to do here. If not, then it's simple: Just tell him nicely to stop hitting on you. He won't be upset. He'll probably be surprised that you haven't said it sooner and is expecting you to put the brakes on this behavior anyway.
Q: I'm a 25-year-old female and I'm dating a 25-year-old guy. While we have a ton of fun together, it seems like the relationship is automatically doomed because I definitely want to get married and have children by my mid to upper thirties. But, he might not be ready for that kind of thing for a while. All these gorgeous, fun guys are awesome in the short term, but heartbreak is looming on the horizon. How do you decide when it's right to start a relationship (or not) in a situation like this? I don't want to bag it this quickly since we're having such a great time, but when do I have to put the future first?
-Anonymous in Anywhere, America
A: "Heartbreak is looming on the horizon." Damn, been listening to a lot of Joy Division lately? Chill for now. You are young. Have fun. Now is not the time to worry about such things. Mid to upper thirties is a decade from your ripe young age of 25 and, trust me, you will grow and change more than you can contemplate right now. I know I did. If you were in your thirties and wanted marriage and kids and were dating a guy who wasn't ready, I'd say kick him to the curb and find that baby daddy of yours. But at 25? Nope. You're a-okay. Enjoy this gorgeous, fun guy you have.
Q: My new boyfriend recently told me he's a virgin. My "number" is somewhere closer to a baker's dozen. How can I be both a good lover AND a good "teacher" simultaneously without making him think he's being graded?
-A Banging Babe in Berwyn, Illinois
A: Here's what you do: Hit up TrashyLingerie.com and buy one of their sexy school teacher's outfits (accessorized with an old-school ruler of course) or a dominatrix outfit (with a whip or riding crop, naturally) and literally play teacher and student with him. Role-playing is hot. He will love it and you will get to school him on what really turns you on and how to make love to a woman in a way that is fun and playful.
Q: I have a friend who became addicted to meth, cocaine, and Xanax. She unexpectedly left her home state and ignored her good friends who were there to support and help her. For a year, she ignored our text messages and e-mails. Now she's back home -- and clean -- and wants to resume our friendship where we left off. Those months of hurt and betrayal still play on my mind, especially if she doesn't return my e-mail for a day or two. It makes me worried she's left again or high in a gutter. What do you think I should do? Should I take the high road and stick by her? Should I trust that she's clean and just busy if she doesn't return my e-mail? This girl is like a sister to me.
-Anxious in Arizona
A: First and foremost, put your feelings of betrayal aside for a moment -- natural as they may be -- and do everything you can to get in touch with her to make sure she is not "high in a gutter" somewhere. That is your first concern. Second, forget about the ignoring of texts and emails. Think of it this way: If your friend had cancer and didn't answer emails in a day, you'd understand, right? Like cancer, drug addiction is a disease and the normal rules of friendship do not apply. If you need more help, check out Co-Anon, which is for people whose lives are affected by a friend or family member's cocaine use. Al-Anon would work too, even though it says it's for friends of alcoholics.
Carrie Borzillo-Vrenna is Suicide Girls' sex, love, and life advice columnist. She is an entertainment journalist, rock wife, and author of Cherry Bomb: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Flirt, a Tougher Chick, and a Hotter Girlfriend, and to Living Life Like a Rock Star and Eyewitness Nirvana: The Day-by-Day Chronicle.
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