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  • THURSDAY DECEMBER 13 2007 4:00 PM

The Saddest Hero Story You'll Ever Read



This story is getting linked all over the place, mostly lauding the seven-year-old who saved her mother's life by throwing herself in front of mama's murderous ex-boyfriend's gun as a heroine.

Which I guess she is, but goddamn, this is one appalling story to a mama.

A 7-year-old-girl is being hailed as an "angel from heaven" and a hero for jumping in front of an enraged gunman, who pumped six bullets into the child as she used her body as a shield to save her mother's life.

Alexis Goggins, a first-grader at Campbell Elementary School, is in stable condition at Children's Hospital in Detroit recovering from gunshot wounds to the eye, left temple, chin, cheek, chest and right arm. The girl's mother, Selietha Parker, 30, was shot in the left side of her head and her bicep by a former boyfriend, who police said was trying to kill Parker. . . . Police identified him as Calvin Tillie, 29, a four-time convicted felon whom Parker had dated for six months.


Just, holy fucking crap, you know? Mama and child got shot in their fucking heads by some motherfucking asshole. Thank God they're both alive. Seriously, thank God.

Still, this entire story is so, so depressing.

Parker called (her friend Aisha) Ford and asked if she and Alexis could spend the night at Ford's home.

"She said she had no heat and they were very cold, and I said , sure I'll come and get you," Ford said.


Jesus Christ. Mama with a baby and the fucking heat's been cut off. Or maybe they can't afford to fix the furnace. That shit pisses me off, man. Yeah yeah, the utility folks want their bills paid, but you know, heat is a *necessary service* in Detroit in the winter. I mean, have some fucking humanity.

Ford said she drove her burgundy 1998 Ford Expedition to Parker's home on Dwyer. She said as Parker and Alexis walked up to her vehicle she saw a man on the porch, who she assumed was a furnace repairman. She said Alexis, who walks with a limp, slipped momentarily on the icy sidewalk and as she helped the girl up, she saw the man and recognized him as Tillie. He was holding a gun.

Tillie ordered them into the vehicle, cursed at the women and angrily told Ford to drive him to Six Mile Road, she said.

"He looked like he was enraged and didn't care what he did. I knew if we went to Six Mile, he would kill us," Ford said. Instead, she told him she needed gas and drove to the Fast Stop Gas station in the 5000 block of East Seven Mile Road, a station that requires customers to pay the attendant inside.

"I figured if he got out to pump the gas, I was going to take off," Ford said.


Smart, smart lady. Would that we all had friends like this.

Instead, Tillie gave her $10 and told her put in $5 worth of gas.

Ford said she dialed 911 on her cell phone as she walked into the station.


The first person I hear saying that poor people should be paying their utility bills rather than owning cell phones gets slapped.

"The first operator clicked off


The holy fucking, what did you just say?!???

and I dialed again and told that operator a guy with a gun was holding me hostage with a mother and baby and threatening to kill us. I told her the name of the gas station and then she said they didn't have a unit to send."


Dear God in heaven. Let's assume that the dispatcher isn't just being an asshole here; let's assume that the problem is that the Detroit police force is seriously underfunded and undermanned. Still and all, holy crap, people: let's have some priorities here. How about some federal funding for cops when cities are too poor to fully fund their local police departments? Maybe our elected assholes will get on that now that they're done voting about whether or not they support Christmas.

Ford said she paid for $5 of gas and slowly returned to the vehicle, stalling for time as she handed Tillie the change. She said she kept stopping and starting the pump, hoping the police would show up.

"I told him I needed more gas and took money out of my purse and went back into the station," she said. The attendant, Mohammad Alghazali, 30, said he noticed Ford was crying and she told him what was happening. He called 911 as he heard shots coming from the vehicle.


Third time was the charm, I guess, since the cops will show up here in a little bit. (BTW, I was recently in a really bad accident--not my fault, and I wasn't hurt--and called 911. Five fucking times before I got through. So it's not just Detroit.)

"It was very scary. She (Ford) was scared and screaming when the guy was shooting. I was scared, too. I was on the phone talking to the police when he started shooting," he said

Parker told police that Tillie said Ford was taking too long

She said she pleaded with him but he pointed the gun at her and shot her in the side of the head. She told police she was shot in the arm as she lunged at Tillie.


Brave woman. But I bet almost anyone would lunge at a man with a gun if their child was in the car.

Before Tillie could fire again, Alexis jumped over the seat between her mother and the gunman and begged him not to shoot her mother.


Oh my God. That poor, terrified little girl.

The police report said Tillie "without hesitation" pumped six shots into the child.

As police arrived, they saw Parker, covered in blood, running from the truck, screaming, "He just shot my baby."


Gosh, it's nice that they finally showed up. Isn't it?

The officers said Tillie came out to the vehicle holding a blue steel 9 mm semi automatic and dropped the weapon when ordered to do so. Officers said they found Alexis huddled on the floor under the steering wheel, covered in blood, surrounded by spent cartridge casings, a spent bullet on the floor and teeth on the seat. There were bullet holes in the windshield and blood inside.

Alghazali said a police car on a street nearby arrived in less than a minute after his call.


I'm glad they showed up before he managed to run down the mama and execute her while the child bled to death on the floor of the car.

The little girl underwent six hours of surgery. She still can't speak, and has lost her right eye, though a medical supply company has donated a prosthetic eye for her. She already had epilepsy, which had given her a stroke and some resulting weakness even before the shooting.

Selietha Parker, her 30-year-old mother, stayed by her daughter's bedside until around 10 p.m., when numbness in her own left arm, which still had a bullet lodged in it, forced her back to Detroit Receiving Hospital's emergency room.


If you possibly can, it would be a mitzvah to try to help that little girl and her mother pay their medical bills, get the heat turned back on, and maybe even have some presents under the tree for Christmas. All About Race provides the address (and a phone number). Checks should be made out to the Alexis Goggins Hero Fund and sent to

Campbell Elementary School
c/o the Alexis Goggins Hero Fund
2301 E Alexandrine St
Detroit, MI 48207.

For information, call (313) 494-2052.



Bitch_PhD hopes her own child never, ever has to even think about being that brave.

 

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thefreak

thefreak

NEWSWIRE

Gardner, MA

DEC 13, 2007 08:32 PM

Flux said:

thefreak said:
instead of taking a step back and taking a look @what they were saying, people come up w/things like "blaming the victim" this, "asshole" that, and "Die in a fire" (seriously, WTF?) then yes, IMO that leaves a lot to be desired where people's knee-jerk attitudes are concerned.



Uh, how is responding to a woman getting shot while trying to protect her daughter (and the even more shocking and horrific subsequent occurrence) by saying that she shouldn't have been hanging around the shooter not victim-blaming?


I'll answer that when you answer the hypothetical I posed to you in my first post.

What can I say? Having a mother that beat me and taunted me about how she could've gotten an abortion makes me a little bias. I'm kinda big on parents looking out for their kids. Discussing the chance, repeat, chance of neglect in parental responsibility shouldn't be responded to with vicious personal attacks and all around jackassery.

But, what do I know? Apparently I'm just a fucking fuckwit who doesn't deserve the time of day.

Let me reiterate my overall opinion. This was a horrific crime, the 911/police response was appalling, and I wish Alexis nothing but a speedy recovery.

-TM

Flux

Flux

SUICIDEGIRL

Georgia, USA

DEC 13, 2007 08:32 PM

varukasalt said:

Flux said:

varukasalt said:

AshenLight said:

varukasalt said:
Pubic records are accessible through local governments, and online and even if you have to hire someone, the cost for a basic background check is less than $50 and easily accessible online. Even if you don't own a computer, almost all public libraries offer some form of free internet access.



A background check on a potential mate? You hopeless romantic you...



It's not that uncommon these days. All the major dating sites do it. Many people "google" their potential partners to see if they are who they say they are.



You don't think that's a little ridiculous for an individual who can't even afford her heating bill?



Hoky shit, there are free public records available FREE!!! Is that cheap enough ? And yeah, I know what poor is. Try supporting a family of 4 on $15 grand a year for 10 years. I have. I started out here 14 years ago with a fucking backpack and slept in a garage for 7 months,which was a lot better than the homeless I was before. So yeah, I know what poor is.



Okay, so poverty-stricken single mother with a child with a serious medical condition is supposed to know that these records are available free and take time to go hunt them down for everybody in her life when she (as it appears likely) doesn't have a car?

Really?

8Reales

8Reales

I'm lost
June 2006

DEC 13, 2007 08:35 PM

Maybe there was no kidnapping and the evening started out friendly.

Flux

Flux

SUICIDEGIRL

Georgia, USA

DEC 13, 2007 08:38 PM

thefreak said:

Flux said:

thefreak said:
instead of taking a step back and taking a look @what they were saying, people come up w/things like "blaming the victim" this, "asshole" that, and "Die in a fire" (seriously, WTF?) then yes, IMO that leaves a lot to be desired where people's knee-jerk attitudes are concerned.



Uh, how is responding to a woman getting shot while trying to protect her daughter (and the even more shocking and horrific subsequent occurrence) by saying that she shouldn't have been hanging around the shooter not victim-blaming?


I'll answer that when you answer the hypothetical I posed to you in my first post.

What can I say? Having a mother that beat me and taunted me about how she could've gotten an abortion makes me a little bias. I'm kinda big on parents looking out for their kids. Discussing the chance, repeat, chance of neglect in parental responsibility shouldn't be responded to with vicious personal attacks and all around jackassery.

But, what do I know? Apparently I'm just a fucking fuckwit who doesn't deserve the time of day.

Let me reiterate my overall opinion. This was a horrific crime, the 911/police response was appalling, and I wish Alexis nothing but a speedy recovery.

-TM



You seem to be projecting your issues with your mother (which are truly awful and I'm sorry to hear about) onto this woman who took a bullet to protect her daughter.

None of my attacks have been personal (well, except my response to a misogynist slur), nor have I implied that your arguments deserve no time.

I understand your hypothetical, but Alexis obviously didn't think her mother was a terrible person. I understand how hard it is to keep one's gut emotions and experiences in check (or else I would be much ruder in this thread), but filtering everything in the world through one's experience is just kind of flawed.

8Reales

8Reales

I'm lost
June 2006

DEC 13, 2007 08:38 PM

The multiple witnesses were who?? The friend and the attendant who were both inside the station when the shooting started. Were there any witnesses in the car??


Maybe the mother is as evil as her ex is.

emotedcreations

emotedcreations

Germany
July 2006

DEC 13, 2007 08:38 PM

I'm glad I got to read this nice story on my first day back to Detroit in three years.

I knew there was a reason I left this place.

As per the commentary, there's no point in trying to address blame (aside from the shooter alone). Nobody knows the details and trying to pass judgment on this woman or anyone else for that matter is a waste of time--unless she pushed her child in front of live rounds or of course, if George Bush was involved. GW is always to blame.

PointBlank

PointBlank

New York, NY
November 2004

DEC 13, 2007 08:40 PM

8Reales said:
Maybe there was no kidnapping and the evening started out friendly.



And maybe you're a troll whose tried to inject your "the mothers lying" bullshit about three times and aren't smart enough to take a hint when people ignore you.

AshenLight

AshenLight

USA
October 2005

DEC 13, 2007 08:41 PM

Not to digress here, but I went back and read the original article and towards the end it said:


Tillie is being held in the Wayne County Jail facing kidnapping, assault with intent to murder, child abuse, felony firearms and habitual criminal charges.



Gee, it only took 4 felonies and the attempted murder of a mother and her child. Is it just me or does anyone else think that the system is criminally negligent here?

Subrosa

Subrosa

San Francisco, CA
July 2004

DEC 13, 2007 08:42 PM

Roethke said:
Do you run a background check on all of your lovers? Do you check for referrences, and make sure they've no prior convictions? Personally, I've no idea if people I've dated have been felons or not. But I take it that you run thorough searches on all people who you come into contact with.

I imagine that, were I very poor, a single mother, and trying to take care of a child with expensive medical needs, I'd be willing to accept the help I got, even if it came from someone with a dubious past. This woman didn't have any heat, it isn't as though she's demonstrated to have tons of options.



Not only that, but keep in mind this woman lived in one in a poor neighborhood in one of the poorest cities in America that happens to be one of the highest crime areas in the known fucking universe. My guess is, statistics being what they are, she wasn't exactly rolling in tons of squeaky-clean dating options to choose from.

Not to mention the whole "four-time felon" thing is ridiculously misleading. What were the felonies for? Were they violent crimes? When did he commit them? Did he get more than one (or fuck, possibly all four) convictions as a result of a single incident?

Nobody knows! But it's so much awesome, easy fun to just jump on the mother for her own alleged negligence. Personally, I'm just glad that Bitch_pHd wrote about this. Other folks around here might have been assigning the mother "equal blame".

8Reales

8Reales

I'm lost
June 2006

DEC 13, 2007 08:43 PM

I wonder what the nature of this thread would have been if Sleepy Lady had posted it and not Bitch Phd??????

8Reales

8Reales

I'm lost
June 2006

DEC 13, 2007 08:45 PM

To Point Blank....Thank You smile

PointBlank

PointBlank

New York, NY
November 2004

DEC 13, 2007 08:48 PM

Subrosa said:


Not only that, but keep in mind this woman lived in one in a poor neighborhood in one of the poorest cities in America that happens to be one of the highest crime areas in the known fucking universe. My guess is, statistics being what they are, she wasn't exactly rolling in tons of squeaky-clean dating options to choose from.

Not to mention the whole "four-time felon" thing is ridiculously misleading. What were the felonies for? Were they violent crimes? When did he commit them? Did he get more than one (or fuck, possibly all four) convictions as a result of a single incident?


Or, did she even know? Did she find out and break up with him? He was, after all, an "Ex" boyfriend.

Christ, it makes me sick to even debate the "what-if-she did this or that? " here.

But, of course, it's very important to point out that she is partially to blame for being shot and having her daughter shot too.

Let's make a blame pie chart!

emotedcreations

emotedcreations

Germany
July 2006

DEC 13, 2007 08:50 PM

PointBlank said:
Let's make a blame pie chart!

I believe someone has already done that.

Necia

Necia

San Francisco, CA
August 2005

DEC 13, 2007 08:55 PM

thefreak said:

Subrosa said:
Yep. Seriously, die in a fire.

If it has to be fucking EXPLAINED to you why you shouldn't apportion blame to a mother whose daughter was just shot in the face by a fucking psychopath, you don't deserve anything more than pure, unadulterated scorn.

Asshole.


Dude, I normally have no problem w/you whatsoever, but that all was just fucking uncalled for. Your parents should be proud.

-TM



*shrugs*

His girlfriend's proud, in any event.

While it's nowhere near as sickening as the actual event detailed in this story, the combination of arrogance, whiny-boy misogyny, and a stunning lack of any semblance of empathy in a lot of this thread is nauseating. Every single one of you who read about this poor woman's ordeal and thought, "Well, damn--that's what you get" has something severely fucking wrong with you.

If I knew that a guy was a four-time convicted felon, I'd be wary of letting him near my kids, yes--but I'd also be wary of letting anyone near my kids who's so obviously and disgustingly incapable of empathy and basic human compassion as some of you seem to be. The fact that Subrosa read that post and felt no need to mince words with his response, since the poster clearly felt no need to think for one second before passing such a stunning, cruel, cold-hearted, and wrongheaded judgment on another human being who had a horrific tragedy befall her at the hands of a sick individual whose actions were in no way within her control, is A-the fuck-OK with me.

Poe

Poe

SUICIDEGIRL

Maine, USA

DEC 13, 2007 08:57 PM

Roethke said:

Poe said:

varukasalt said:

Police identified him as Calvin Tillie, 29, a four-time convicted felon whom Parker had dated for six months.

Why was this woman dating a 4 time convicted felon when she has a child? Did she not know? I would find that very hard to believe. I know I don't have all the facts, but I can't imagine anything that could justify bring this kind of person around children. I sure wouldn't allow someone like that anywhere near my children, much less date them. She didn't pull the trigger, but she definitely bears some responsibility in exposing this poor child to such a dangerous person. If I'm somehow wrong here, I will eat my words.

My heart goes out to the child, no child should have to endure anything even remotely like this.


My thoughts exactly. I love how everyone feels morally superior to anyone who would DARE question the victim's contribution to a bad situation. What a fucking joke. People need to get off their high horse and stfu sometimes. Personally, if I had children, I wouldn't be exposing them to dangerous felons, but hey, that's just me and I'm obviously a cold-hearted, insensitive monster. whatever



Do you run a background check on all of your lovers? Do you check for referrences, and make sure they've no prior convictions? Personally, I've no idea if people I've dated have been felons or not. But I take it that you run thorough searches on all people who you come into contact with.

I imagine that, were I very poor, a single mother, and trying to take care of a child with expensive medical needs, I'd be willing to accept the help I got, even if it came from someone with a dubious past. This woman didn't have any heat, it isn't as though she's demonstrated to have tons of options.



No, but I don't live in detroit. http://www.cityrating.com/citycrime.asp?city=Detroit&state=MI

Please, don't bother me with semantics. I have no interest in debating this. You don't know the truth or details, and neither do I. What I do know is that the news article clearly states she mistook the ex for a "furnace repairman". Sounds to me like the furnace was broken, not cut off. Where did you read that she couldn't afford to pay her bill? As a matter of fact, I'm pretty sure that the furnace repairman standing on your front porch implies you CAN in fact afford it!

The only piece of information we know as FACT in this story is that the mother dated this guy. I don't know about you, but I think I would notice after 6 months that my boyfriend is on parole.

This is a really sad and unfortunate event, and it's fucking stupid that anyone is arguing about it. No one in this entire god damn thread is saying that children deserve to be shot in the face. Feel sympathy, donate if you wish, but don't impose your opinion on other people. Chances are they won't agree, and telling them to die in a fire isn't going to change a damn thing.

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