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  • THURSDAY DECEMBER 13 2007 4:00 PM

The Saddest Hero Story You'll Ever Read



This story is getting linked all over the place, mostly lauding the seven-year-old who saved her mother's life by throwing herself in front of mama's murderous ex-boyfriend's gun as a heroine.

Which I guess she is, but goddamn, this is one appalling story to a mama.

A 7-year-old-girl is being hailed as an "angel from heaven" and a hero for jumping in front of an enraged gunman, who pumped six bullets into the child as she used her body as a shield to save her mother's life.

Alexis Goggins, a first-grader at Campbell Elementary School, is in stable condition at Children's Hospital in Detroit recovering from gunshot wounds to the eye, left temple, chin, cheek, chest and right arm. The girl's mother, Selietha Parker, 30, was shot in the left side of her head and her bicep by a former boyfriend, who police said was trying to kill Parker. . . . Police identified him as Calvin Tillie, 29, a four-time convicted felon whom Parker had dated for six months.


Just, holy fucking crap, you know? Mama and child got shot in their fucking heads by some motherfucking asshole. Thank God they're both alive. Seriously, thank God.

Still, this entire story is so, so depressing.

Parker called (her friend Aisha) Ford and asked if she and Alexis could spend the night at Ford's home.

"She said she had no heat and they were very cold, and I said , sure I'll come and get you," Ford said.


Jesus Christ. Mama with a baby and the fucking heat's been cut off. Or maybe they can't afford to fix the furnace. That shit pisses me off, man. Yeah yeah, the utility folks want their bills paid, but you know, heat is a *necessary service* in Detroit in the winter. I mean, have some fucking humanity.

Ford said she drove her burgundy 1998 Ford Expedition to Parker's home on Dwyer. She said as Parker and Alexis walked up to her vehicle she saw a man on the porch, who she assumed was a furnace repairman. She said Alexis, who walks with a limp, slipped momentarily on the icy sidewalk and as she helped the girl up, she saw the man and recognized him as Tillie. He was holding a gun.

Tillie ordered them into the vehicle, cursed at the women and angrily told Ford to drive him to Six Mile Road, she said.

"He looked like he was enraged and didn't care what he did. I knew if we went to Six Mile, he would kill us," Ford said. Instead, she told him she needed gas and drove to the Fast Stop Gas station in the 5000 block of East Seven Mile Road, a station that requires customers to pay the attendant inside.

"I figured if he got out to pump the gas, I was going to take off," Ford said.


Smart, smart lady. Would that we all had friends like this.

Instead, Tillie gave her $10 and told her put in $5 worth of gas.

Ford said she dialed 911 on her cell phone as she walked into the station.


The first person I hear saying that poor people should be paying their utility bills rather than owning cell phones gets slapped.

"The first operator clicked off


The holy fucking, what did you just say?!???

and I dialed again and told that operator a guy with a gun was holding me hostage with a mother and baby and threatening to kill us. I told her the name of the gas station and then she said they didn't have a unit to send."


Dear God in heaven. Let's assume that the dispatcher isn't just being an asshole here; let's assume that the problem is that the Detroit police force is seriously underfunded and undermanned. Still and all, holy crap, people: let's have some priorities here. How about some federal funding for cops when cities are too poor to fully fund their local police departments? Maybe our elected assholes will get on that now that they're done voting about whether or not they support Christmas.

Ford said she paid for $5 of gas and slowly returned to the vehicle, stalling for time as she handed Tillie the change. She said she kept stopping and starting the pump, hoping the police would show up.

"I told him I needed more gas and took money out of my purse and went back into the station," she said. The attendant, Mohammad Alghazali, 30, said he noticed Ford was crying and she told him what was happening. He called 911 as he heard shots coming from the vehicle.


Third time was the charm, I guess, since the cops will show up here in a little bit. (BTW, I was recently in a really bad accident--not my fault, and I wasn't hurt--and called 911. Five fucking times before I got through. So it's not just Detroit.)

"It was very scary. She (Ford) was scared and screaming when the guy was shooting. I was scared, too. I was on the phone talking to the police when he started shooting," he said

Parker told police that Tillie said Ford was taking too long

She said she pleaded with him but he pointed the gun at her and shot her in the side of the head. She told police she was shot in the arm as she lunged at Tillie.


Brave woman. But I bet almost anyone would lunge at a man with a gun if their child was in the car.

Before Tillie could fire again, Alexis jumped over the seat between her mother and the gunman and begged him not to shoot her mother.


Oh my God. That poor, terrified little girl.

The police report said Tillie "without hesitation" pumped six shots into the child.

As police arrived, they saw Parker, covered in blood, running from the truck, screaming, "He just shot my baby."


Gosh, it's nice that they finally showed up. Isn't it?

The officers said Tillie came out to the vehicle holding a blue steel 9 mm semi automatic and dropped the weapon when ordered to do so. Officers said they found Alexis huddled on the floor under the steering wheel, covered in blood, surrounded by spent cartridge casings, a spent bullet on the floor and teeth on the seat. There were bullet holes in the windshield and blood inside.

Alghazali said a police car on a street nearby arrived in less than a minute after his call.


I'm glad they showed up before he managed to run down the mama and execute her while the child bled to death on the floor of the car.

The little girl underwent six hours of surgery. She still can't speak, and has lost her right eye, though a medical supply company has donated a prosthetic eye for her. She already had epilepsy, which had given her a stroke and some resulting weakness even before the shooting.

Selietha Parker, her 30-year-old mother, stayed by her daughter's bedside until around 10 p.m., when numbness in her own left arm, which still had a bullet lodged in it, forced her back to Detroit Receiving Hospital's emergency room.


If you possibly can, it would be a mitzvah to try to help that little girl and her mother pay their medical bills, get the heat turned back on, and maybe even have some presents under the tree for Christmas. All About Race provides the address (and a phone number). Checks should be made out to the Alexis Goggins Hero Fund and sent to

Campbell Elementary School
c/o the Alexis Goggins Hero Fund
2301 E Alexandrine St
Detroit, MI 48207.

For information, call (313) 494-2052.



Bitch_PhD hopes her own child never, ever has to even think about being that brave.

 

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Twelve

Twelve

Bay City, MI
April 2007

DEC 13, 2007 07:25 PM

Being from Michigan, none of this surprises me in the slightest.

varukasalt said:
No, but I can't see it being that difficult finding out that the person you're seeing is a 4 time convicted felon. It's not like he had a couple speeding tickets in his glovebox.



How exactly would one go about finding this information? I don't exactly know myself. Hell, it's not really something I would even think about doing.

thefreak

thefreak

NEWSWIRE

Gardner, MA

DEC 13, 2007 07:30 PM

Flux said:
I read this on your blog earlier today, Bitch, and it absolutely tore my heart out.

varukasalt said:
Why was this woman dating a 4 time convicted felon when she has a child? Did she not know? I would find that very hard to believe. I know I don't have all the facts, but I can't imagine anything that could justify bring this kind of person around children. I sure wouldn't allow someone like that anywhere near my children, much less date them. She didn't pull the trigger, but she definitely bears some responsibility in exposing this poor child to such a dangerous person. If I'm somehow wrong here, I will eat my words.



Yes! And all those girls wearing short skirts who get drunk with strange men, well, they deserve what they get.

It's funny how victim-blaming comes up whenever a woman's "poor judgement" is called into question. Calvin Fuckbag probably wasn't the best dude for Selietha and Alexis to have in their lives, but the blame lies squarely upon HOMEBOY WHO SHOT A FUCKING CHILD.

Children will be exposed to dangerous people and situations; even the most helicoptery of parents eventually will realize this. But we blame the women for not being invincible, perfect androids who sacrifice everything and act with inhumanly rational judgment for The Children.

It is awful what happened, but the mother here is a victim and shouldn't have to defend herself against the likes of you.


Wow. So, what you're saying is, and I'm 1. Using a hypothetical here, and 2. Using the assumption that there is knowledge of one's criminal record...

Say your parent (either one) brings home a significant other who is an unsavory individual. If they did something wrong, whether it be assault, rape, or coming home and finding everything of value stolen, you can sit there and tell me with a straight face that not ONCE would @the very least the THOUGHT of "how could you bring someone like this into our home" enter your head.

But instead of, oh, I dunno, actually reading varuka's comment for what he actually SAID, you and others decide to jump down his throat and accusing him of nothing more than blaming the victim and not giving a shit about the crime.

Also, how funny that you neglected to quote the last part of his post:

My heart goes out to the child, no child should have to endure anything even remotely like this.


I happen to agree w/you in the fact that the guy is a douchebag, an embarassment to my gender, and deserves to rot in a cell for the rest of his life. And yes, it's absolute assumption discussing whether she knew of his criminal record, how much she knew, or what. But, if the chance stands that she knew and ignored it, shouldn't something be said about why she brought a man like that into her home?

Subrosa said:
Yep. Seriously, die in a fire.

If it has to be fucking EXPLAINED to you why you shouldn't apportion blame to a mother whose daughter was just shot in the face by a fucking psychopath, you don't deserve anything more than pure, unadulterated scorn.

Asshole.


Dude, I normally have no problem w/you whatsoever, but that all was just fucking uncalled for. Your parents should be proud.

-TM

emptyharbour

emptyharbour

Calgary, AB
November 2005

DEC 13, 2007 07:30 PM

I'd suspect that being a single mother of an epileptic child may have something to do with why the mother became involved with the shooter in the first place. I'd imagine when you're at the point of having no heat in your home, "finding a perfect match" quickly evolves into "finding someone who might be able to help us survive". Sure, he's a felon, but I'm sure the poor woman had good intentions of her involvement (and subsequent termination of such) with this guy. I do believe she would always have had the child's best interests at heart, not her own.

I'm in agreement that the guy was a douche, and I'm not saying whether or not bringing such influence into the child's life is justified, but I'd like to believe the true situation is one made up more of circumstance than of personal choice.

thefreak

thefreak

NEWSWIRE

Gardner, MA

DEC 13, 2007 07:33 PM

scylis said:
the 911 emergency system. good fucking god, i know that those operators have to be the most crank-called people in the history of the world, but to fucking hang up on someone who says that some deranged criminal has a child at gunpoint is absolutely unfathomable. and then the fact that it can take so long to respond to a potential (i say this because of the sheer number of false calls given to 911 dispatch only) situation as serious as a man holding a gun on a child is such utter horse shit. if there is a unit anywhere near that area (miles worth of radii, we're talking) that isn't doing anything or writing a fucking goddamned ticket, send them the fuck over to check it the fuck out. jesus fucking christ.


I hope this little part of the story gets a serious looking over. That's just not right.

-TM

Flux

Flux

SUICIDEGIRL

Georgia, USA

DEC 13, 2007 07:36 PM

thefreak said:

Flux said:
I read this on your blog earlier today, Bitch, and it absolutely tore my heart out.

varukasalt said:
Why was this woman dating a 4 time convicted felon when she has a child? Did she not know? I would find that very hard to believe. I know I don't have all the facts, but I can't imagine anything that could justify bring this kind of person around children. I sure wouldn't allow someone like that anywhere near my children, much less date them. She didn't pull the trigger, but she definitely bears some responsibility in exposing this poor child to such a dangerous person. If I'm somehow wrong here, I will eat my words.



Yes! And all those girls wearing short skirts who get drunk with strange men, well, they deserve what they get.

It's funny how victim-blaming comes up whenever a woman's "poor judgement" is called into question. Calvin Fuckbag probably wasn't the best dude for Selietha and Alexis to have in their lives, but the blame lies squarely upon HOMEBOY WHO SHOT A FUCKING CHILD.

Children will be exposed to dangerous people and situations; even the most helicoptery of parents eventually will realize this. But we blame the women for not being invincible, perfect androids who sacrifice everything and act with inhumanly rational judgment for The Children.

It is awful what happened, but the mother here is a victim and shouldn't have to defend herself against the likes of you.


Wow. So, what you're saying is, and I'm 1. Using a hypothetical here, and 2. Using the assumption that there is knowledge of one's criminal record...

Say your parent (either one) brings home a significant other who is an unsavory individual. If they did something wrong, whether it be assault, rape, or coming home and finding everything of value stolen, you can sit there and tell me with a straight face that not ONCE would @the very least the THOUGHT of "how could you bring someone like this into our home" enter your head.

But instead of, oh, I dunno, actually reading varuka's comment for what he actually SAID, you and others decide to jump down his throat and accusing him of nothing more than blaming the victim and not giving a shit about the crime.

Also, how funny that you neglected to quote the last part of his post:

My heart goes out to the child, no child should have to endure anything even remotely like this.


I happen to agree w/you in the fact that the guy is a douchebag, an embarassment to my gender, and deserves to rot in a cell for the rest of his life. And yes, it's absolute assumption discussing whether she knew of his criminal record, how much she knew, or what. But, if the chance stands that she knew and ignored it, shouldn't something be said about why she brought a man like that into her home?



When the response consists of "mom's partially to blame" and then "poor child" (which I didn't quote because I, of course, don't take issue with that), without a single mention of "that man is a waste of oxygen" or taking any notice than mom got shot too while trying to protect her daughter first, there's reason to examine why there is no compassion but only scorn for the mother.

8Reales

8Reales

I'm lost
June 2006

DEC 13, 2007 07:39 PM

This will be an interesting story to follow.

I suspect the mother and her friend are LYING.

Varuka_Salt

Varuka_Salt

I'm lost
October 2006

DEC 13, 2007 07:42 PM

emptyharbour said:
I'd suspect that being a single mother of an epileptic child may have something to do with why the mother became involved with the shooter in the first place. I'd imagine when you're at the point of having no heat in your home, "finding a perfect match" quickly evolves into "finding someone who might be able to help us survive". Sure, he's a felon, but I'm sure the poor woman had good intentions of her involvement (and subsequent termination of such) with this guy. I do believe she would always have had the child's best interests at heart, not her own.

I'm in agreement that the guy was a douche, and I'm not saying whether or not bringing such influence into the child's life is justified, but I'd like to believe the true situation is one made up more of circumstance than of personal choice.


Thank you. That is an angle I had not thought of before. Maybe, in her specific circumstances, having this guy around was potentially better than her being alone with her daughter. Thank you for helping me grow.

thefreak

thefreak

NEWSWIRE

Gardner, MA

DEC 13, 2007 07:48 PM

Flux said:
When the response consists of "mom's partially to blame" and then "poor child" (which I didn't quote because I, of course, don't take issue with that), without a single mention of "that man is a waste of oxygen" or taking any notice than mom got shot too while trying to protect her daughter first, there's reason to examine why there is no compassion but only scorn for the mother.


Just because it's not mentioned, doesn't mean that's not one's opinion.

varukasalt said:

Police identified him as Calvin Tillie, 29, a four-time convicted felon whom Parker had dated for six months.

Why was this woman dating a 4 time convicted felon when she has a child? Did she not know? I would find that very hard to believe. I know I don't have all the facts, but I can't imagine anything that could justify bring this kind of person around children. I sure wouldn't allow someone like that anywhere near my children, much less date them. She didn't pull the trigger, but she definitely bears some responsibility in exposing this poor child to such a dangerous person. If I'm somehow wrong here, I will eat my words.

My heart goes out to the child, no child should have to endure anything even remotely like this.


Not only did he point out that she wasn't @fault for the crime itself, he even points out his opinion may be misguided due to us not having all the pertinent information. Like I said, it's a big if, but if she knew about his past and ignored it (barring emptyharbour's scenario, which made a good point), you're damn right her actions should be called into question.

A former live-in bf my mother's was busted some time ago w/stolen goods and drugs. If I found out my little sister had been harmed in any way, shape, for form, while he may have been the one who committed the crime, you better fucking believe I would've gotten inches from her face asking how she could let a piece of shit like that into her home (and I don't have a very high opinion of her as is, but I digress).

*shrugs* It's stories like this where we all just sit around going, "If, If, If" because we don't have all the information. I just don't think Varuka deserved everyone jumping down his throat.

-TM

Poe

Poe

SUICIDEGIRL

Maine, USA

DEC 13, 2007 07:59 PM

Flux said:
Funny how women who say that abused women deserve compassion are "bitches," you misogynist fuckbag.


I think misogyny has very little to do with it. I think you're being a bitch, too.

He never said the woman didn't deserve compassion, nor did he say in ANY way that she deserved to be assaulted. As a matter of fact, he even apologized in advance in case any butthurt whiners took offense and disagreed with him:

If I'm somehow wrong here, I will eat my words


He called her judgment into question, and rightfully so. You can be a victim and be at fault at the same time. You may have noticed a good number of people agreed with him, so quit arguing and swallow your self-righteous pride for once.

Subrosa

Subrosa

San Francisco, CA
July 2004

DEC 13, 2007 08:00 PM

scylis said:
Flux stop being a bitch

Subrosa, stop being a fucking unadulterated sniveling cunt.



Nice talk, sugarmouth. Go peddle your not-so-subtle sexism somewhere else. I mean, get on me for speaking harshly all you fucking want. I couldn't give a fuck less because everyone who is focusing on the mother here is beneath contempt and deserves to be called out for it in the strongest of terms. In other words, I'm fine with whatever you want to call me (though I certainly do appreciate your misogynistic female-centered slurs!) But you should be fucking run through for calling out Flux here. She's being completely appropriate and actually bothering to spend her time engaging you fucking fuckwits in conversation, even though you don't deserve the time of fucking day. You may disagree with what she's saying, but calling her a bitch for what she's said here?

Seriously, shame on you.

PointBlank

PointBlank

New York, NY
November 2004

DEC 13, 2007 08:04 PM

scylis said:
*gets ready to get in trouble*

Flux, stop being a bitch.

Subrosa, stop being a fucking unadulterated sniveling cunt.


What a charmer you are.


EVERYBODY INVOLVED IN THE STORY HAS AT LEAST SOME SMALL AMOUNT OF BLAME FOR THIS CHILD GETTING SHOT SAVE FOR THE CHILD HERSELF.


Well, thanks for apportioning blame mr guywhowasntthere.

After all, sorting out who is to blame is a very important thing to do here, right? I mean, it's important that we all point fingers at what mistakes someone might have made. This is, after all, the internet where no one fucks up and everyone is a judge of everyone else, and we all know that the appropriate reaction to someone getting hurt in a way that we can never understand is the typical and oh-so high and mighty "oh, well...shouldn't have done that. It's partially her fault, after all."



it's that simple. i will make an annotated list of everybody i think is at fault in some way for letting this happen, and try to give a little blurb on why i think they failed in this situation.


Are you fucking for real? You're going to make a blame list?

Chainlink

Chainlink

Key West, FL
August 2005

DEC 13, 2007 08:05 PM

Subrosa said:

scylis said:
Flux stop being a bitch

Subrosa, stop being a fucking unadulterated sniveling cunt.



Nice talk, sugarmouth. Go peddle your not-so-subtle sexism somewhere else. I mean, get on me for speaking harshly all you fucking want. I couldn't give a fuck less because everyone who is focusing on the mother here is beneath contempt and deserves to be called out for it in the strongest of terms. In other words, I'm fine with whatever you want to call me (though I certainly do appreciate your misogynistic female-centered slurs!) But you should be fucking run through for calling out Flux here. She's being completely appropriate and actually bothering to spend her time engaging you fucking fuckwits in conversation, even though you don't deserve the time of fucking day. You may disagree with what she's saying, but calling her a bitch for what she's said here?

Seriously, shame on you.



You kids need to be put on a leash tonight. Whats wrong with you ?

Flux

Flux

SUICIDEGIRL

Georgia, USA

DEC 13, 2007 08:06 PM

emptyharbour said:
I'd suspect that being a single mother of an epileptic child may have something to do with why the mother became involved with the shooter in the first place. I'd imagine when you're at the point of having no heat in your home, "finding a perfect match" quickly evolves into "finding someone who might be able to help us survive". Sure, he's a felon, but I'm sure the poor woman had good intentions of her involvement (and subsequent termination of such) with this guy. I do believe she would always have had the child's best interests at heart, not her own.

I'm in agreement that the guy was a douche, and I'm not saying whether or not bringing such influence into the child's life is justified, but I'd like to believe the true situation is one made up more of circumstance than of personal choice.



I guess I just don't see how you can't extrapolate this. I doubt that any mother (or at least this one) is like, "gee, I sure should get with this four-time felon! I bet he'll be great with the baby!" There is so much grey area between good and bad ideas that immediately condemning the mother who is so in need of sympathy as playing some role in the situation just seems sick to me, especially with such a clear villain (and obvious fault on a third party, as well).

This isn't really directed at you, emptyharbour, so much as the fact that people considered your point valid. If this unique circumstance is valid, why not accept that perhaps imposing a certain idea of what's okay and not okay on a complex situation that one isn't involved in just generally not such a great idea.

When you do, it comes off as symptomatic of the wider cultural problem of women receiving part of the blame for violence committed against them by men that they "should have known better than to have been with," which kind of burns my britches, being a woman who has worked with abuse survivors.

Varuka_Salt

Varuka_Salt

I'm lost
October 2006

DEC 13, 2007 08:07 PM

TwelveTone said:
Being from Michigan, none of this surprises me in the slightest.

varukasalt said:
No, but I can't see it being that difficult finding out that the person you're seeing is a 4 time convicted felon. It's not like he had a couple speeding tickets in his glovebox.



How exactly would one go about finding this information? I don't exactly know myself. Hell, it's not really something I would even think about doing.


Pubic records are accessible through local governments, and online and even if you have to hire someone, the cost for a basic background check is less than $50 and easily accessible online. Even if you don't own a computer, almost all public libraries offer some form of free internet access.

8Reales

8Reales

I'm lost
June 2006

DEC 13, 2007 08:08 PM

I can't wait for the forensics report to be released.

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