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  • MONDAY AUGUST 6 2007 4:00 PM

This Shit Fucking Pisses Me Off



Yesterday, Rahodeb posted about the forthcoming study of how Angry Women (aka "bitches"wink make both men and women feel all insecure and threatened, and how insecure threatened men and women punish Angry Women by paying them shit.

It gets even better, though. Women, you see, know this--what with our not being idiots and all--and as a result, we often don't ask for what we're worth because--surprise!--negotiating our salaries is one of those things that makes Other People think we're bitchy!

Folks in the "institutionalized sexism's all in your head, dearie, and maybe if you didn't hate men so much you'd realize that" camp are fond of pointing out that the pay gap may be attributable to women not asking for as much money as men. Which we don't, on average.

The traditional explanation for the gender differences that Babcock found is that men are simply more aggressive than women, perhaps because of a combination of genetics and upbringing. The solution to gender disparities, this school of thought suggests, is to train women to be more assertive and to ask for more. However, a new set of experiments by Babcock and Hannah Riley Bowles, who studies the psychology of organizations at Harvard's Kennedy School of Government, offers an entirely different explanation.

Their study, which was coauthored by Carnegie Mellon researcher Lei Lai, found that men and women get very different responses when they initiate negotiations. Although it may well be true that women often hurt themselves by not trying to negotiate, this study found that women's reluctance was based on an entirely reasonable and accurate view of how they were likely to be treated if they did. Both men and women were more likely to subtly penalize women who asked for more -- the perception was that women who asked for more were "less nice".

"What we found across all the studies is men were always less willing to work with a woman who had attempted to negotiate than with a woman who did not," Bowles said. "They always preferred to work with a woman who stayed mum. But it made no difference to the men whether a guy had chosen to negotiate or not."



I assume that a lot of nice women are threatened by us bitches because of that whole guilt-by-association thing; I bet there's not a girl on this board who hasn't had, at some point, to play the "aww, baby" reassurance game with some jerky guy who couldn't tell the difference between his Bitchy Ex and the woman in front of him. The catch, of course, is that the nice girls get fucked over too because hey: if you don't ask for what you want, ain't no guy (or girl, she murmurs reassuringly) in the world that's gonna just hand it to you.

The guys don't have any excuse, though. Fuck 'em.

Bitch_PhD is a bitch, and damn proud of it.

 

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Cash

Cash

USA
OLD SKOOL

AUG 06, 2007 10:33 PM

Civil service is an area where there is equal pay for unequal work. A female fireman makes the same as her male counterpart...even if she can't perform her duties to the same standards as the men.

That shit pisses me off.

legionnaire

legionnaire

Belgium
November 2003

AUG 06, 2007 10:33 PM

PatrickY said:

legionnaire said:
If this is a gender thing and Hillary Clinton's "anger" is the means by which her opponents will defuse her candidacy (undoubtedly acting as agents of the patriarchy) then would you all explain the similar derailment of both Howard Dean's and John McCain's candidacies in the 2004 and 2000 election campaigns, both of whom were essentially disqualified by the pundits and press because of their "anger"?

Still think that anger is a sex-based advantage for men?




Yale researchers do



Yes, I read the link, which unfortunately doesn't point towards any actual, published study, just mentions a research paper but not the journal in which it was published, so it's hard to draw conclusions about it since we don't even know if it was peer reviewed.

My point stands - the article cites concerns about Hillary Clinton's electability in a presidential election because of the perception that she is somehow angry. However, a leading male candidate from each of the major US political parties was essentially removed from the candidate pool in the previous two presidential elections for the same reason - making me wonder whether there's any overt sexual bias in that judgement, or if something else is going on.

Bitch_PhD

Bitch_PhD

I'm lost
February 2007

AUG 06, 2007 10:46 PM

TheGringo said:
In regards to the story though, I'm a little confused as to how current the study was and how relevant it is to today's times. . . .

AND, if you read this study,. . .

The negotiated "salary" was actually just a fee to participate in the study. A whopping $3-$10.

Please correct me if I'm wrong.



You're wrong. The study is forthcoming. Babcock's *initial* work on women and negotiation started ten years ago.

Bitch_PhD

Bitch_PhD

I'm lost
February 2007

AUG 06, 2007 10:52 PM

TheFuckOffKid said:
A study about angry women being regarded differently to angry men.

Prof. Bitch posts in angry style.

Many comments regarding her angry style, kind of proving the point.



Glad I didn't have to say this.

Bitch_PhD

Bitch_PhD

I'm lost
February 2007

AUG 06, 2007 10:54 PM

cash said:
Civil service is an area where there is equal pay for unequal work. A female fireman makes the same as her male counterpart...even if she can't perform her duties to the same standards as the men.

That shit pisses me off.



What evidence do you have that women firefighters don't do their jobs as well as men?

Or is this just an assumption you're making because you believe that all women are inferior to all men?

Bitch_PhD

Bitch_PhD

I'm lost
February 2007

AUG 06, 2007 10:56 PM

legionnaire said:

PatrickY said:

legionnaire said:
If this is a gender thing and Hillary Clinton's "anger" is the means by which her opponents will defuse her candidacy (undoubtedly acting as agents of the patriarchy) then would you all explain the similar derailment of both Howard Dean's and John McCain's candidacies in the 2004 and 2000 election campaigns, both of whom were essentially disqualified by the pundits and press because of their "anger"?

Still think that anger is a sex-based advantage for men?




Yale researchers do



Yes, I read the link, which unfortunately doesn't point towards any actual, published study, just mentions a research paper but not the journal in which it was published, so it's hard to draw conclusions about it since we don't even know if it was peer reviewed.

My point stands - the article cites concerns about Hillary Clinton's electability in a presidential election because of the perception that she is somehow angry. However, a leading male candidate from each of the major US political parties was essentially removed from the candidate pool in the previous two presidential elections for the same reason - making me wonder whether there's any overt sexual bias in that judgement, or if something else is going on.



I didn't link the study because (1) IT'S FORTHCOMING, which means it's not out yet, and (2) if it were out, it would be behind a paid academic firewall, as academic articles are.

Those of you who doubt it could do just a wee tiny bit of googling if you actually cared about anything other than poo-pooing the demonstrated fact that sexism exists.

nice_pun_bro

nice_pun_bro

Irvine, CA
January 2007

AUG 06, 2007 10:58 PM

Vindice said:
I agree. This comes across as being an impulsive article that was written in a moment of rage. It would have benefitted intellectually from the author taking a more emotionally objective stance - possibly waiting a day or two after reading the article which offended her, before submitting this one.

I know myself, though, that when faced with an attitude that appalls you, it's not easy to resist flinging out the vitriol.



Or maybe she should've used the phrase "Asshole Fuckface" in the title. I mean, I expect complete objectivity too since I'm here at The Economist's website... Hey, what are all these naked women doing on The Economist's website?

legionnaire

legionnaire

Belgium
November 2003

AUG 06, 2007 11:04 PM

Bitch_PhD said:

legionnaire said:

PatrickY said:

legionnaire said:
If this is a gender thing and Hillary Clinton's "anger" is the means by which her opponents will defuse her candidacy (undoubtedly acting as agents of the patriarchy) then would you all explain the similar derailment of both Howard Dean's and John McCain's candidacies in the 2004 and 2000 election campaigns, both of whom were essentially disqualified by the pundits and press because of their "anger"?

Still think that anger is a sex-based advantage for men?




Yale researchers do



Yes, I read the link, which unfortunately doesn't point towards any actual, published study, just mentions a research paper but not the journal in which it was published, so it's hard to draw conclusions about it since we don't even know if it was peer reviewed.

My point stands - the article cites concerns about Hillary Clinton's electability in a presidential election because of the perception that she is somehow angry. However, a leading male candidate from each of the major US political parties was essentially removed from the candidate pool in the previous two presidential elections for the same reason - making me wonder whether there's any overt sexual bias in that judgement, or if something else is going on.



I didn't link the study because (1) IT'S FORTHCOMING, which means it's not out yet, and (2) if it were out, it would be behind a paid academic firewall, as academic articles are.

Those of you who doubt it could do just a wee tiny bit of googling if you actually cared about anything other than poo-pooing the demonstrated fact that sexism exists.



I did google it, and I checked the NCBI database (where it would have appeared) to see if I could find the paper. You have a PhD - you should know that it's bad form in academia to talk about experimental results in the media before they're published in a peer reviewed journal, and especially without giving any reference to the actual paper.

I'm interested in looking at their actual data so I can draw my own conclusions about the validity of the study, not "poo-pooing the demonstrated fact that sexism exists." I'm not going to take the authors of the study on their word until I see the data for myself.

misguided

misguided

Edmonton, AB
November 2003

AUG 06, 2007 11:17 PM

Okay seriously, wage inequality across gender is a FACT. Some studies say it's improving in some sectors, other information appears to disagree. You can wax sociological about all the excuses you can dream up, but I think you're lying to yourself if you think this is even potentially due to anything other than flat out implicit sexism, conscious or unconscious. I am loathe to agree with Bitch, because as she and everyone who watches these threads knows, I think she's wildly unreasonable a lot of the time, but THIS thread? THIS is the topic on which you're going to disagree? That's fucking ridiculous, quite frankly. (You're giving those of us who have more legitimate grievances wih her a bad name wink)
These are the kinds of issues feminists, equalists, and anyone who believes in the unity of humanity should be CHAMPIONING or it's never gonna change. Wage inequality across gender, or for that matter race or religion, is the single most blatant and indisputable evidence that discrimination in the workplace is alive and well in the 21st century. Come up with whatever weak sociological explanations you can to try to justify it to yourselves if you want, but it's still happening anyway, and it's wrong, and humanity should be ashamed.
Normally I find Bitch's overly extreme statements that live up to her name to be asinine and counter-productive to reasonable discourse. But truthfully, on this topic, I'd be mad as hell too. And I appreciate the bitter, bitter irony that being enraged about this throws into the mix. It's like how you can't speak out against undemocratic anti-terrorist measures without suddenly being under suspicion of terrorism. Uh, seriously? I can't be pissed off that I'm getting a fraction of the pay for the same or better quality work? If I have a healthy level of professional anger about it I'm going to make even less that again? Well isn't that just one of those nets that gets tighter the more you try to escape. frown

TheFuckOffKid

TheFuckOffKid

NEWSWIRE

Australia

AUG 06, 2007 11:52 PM

Bitch_PhD said:

cash said:
Civil service is an area where there is equal pay for unequal work. A female fireman makes the same as her male counterpart...even if she can't perform her duties to the same standards as the men.

That shit pisses me off.



What evidence do you have that women firefighters don't do their jobs as well as men?



My guess is it's what's classed as "anecdotal" evidence, seeing as cash is (I believe) a firefighter.

I'll leave it to him to describe whatever specifics he wishes to about what women firefighters do as opposed to male ones. (I mean, I really don't know at all. I presume he has a point, but I'll leave it to him to make it.)

Krass_of_nod

Krass_of_nod

Bend, OR
April 2005

AUG 06, 2007 11:54 PM

Formus said:

DownNeck said:

TheGringo said:

Bitch_PhD said:
The guys don't have any excuse, though. Fuck 'em.


You've just gone from expecting to be treated as an equal to expecting special treatment.

Unless I misread your intent with that staetment.



when has she ever even hinted that she wants to be treated as an equal?



Jesus fucking Christ. That's the response to all kinds of feminism. "They want to be given preferential treatment." Let's fucking give them preferential treatment then. Because "equality" as being dictated right now isn't fucking working. And somehow her demanding more than what "equality" is giving her is a threat to your manhood, and makes your balls shrivel to the size of raisins, so you feel an uncontrolled, irrational need to defend yourself by accusing her of being a feminist, which, SURPRISE, she is. Get a fucking grip.

What is being done right now isn't working. It's not. If it was, there would be more female CEOs, and wages would be equal. More must be done to counter this maintained status quo. But whenever someone thinks of doing more, they are somehow accused of wanting unfair preferential treatment for women, when all that the status quo "equality" in the law is doing is keeping the gap where it is, not closing it, and certainly not eliminating it. To make things equal, men must admit that they are not superior. Somehow, to most of us, this is an admission of inferiority. IT'S FUCKING NOT.

How about this, fellow males: make new efforts to get women equal status, and put aside the whining for just a few years. K? K. Then, when pay gaps are close to gone, go back to the old ways that maintain pay gaps, and voila! A solution! But men can't put aside their testosterone-ridden overreactions for just a few seconds to analyze the problem instead of whining incessantly like 12-year-olds. 12-year-olds with penile insecurities and matriarchal issues.

(PS: and of course Bitch_PhD thinks she's superior. EVERYONE thinks they're superior. It's called fucking self-esteem.)



I totally agree, I am a feminist...if one can exist in the shell of a man.

Equality isn't =

after all the shit women have put up with from men, I think its time they get to kick their shoes off and relax while their man slaves do everything for them....you know thats what it was like in the 50's women did everything for their men, and what did they get...beaten, raped...or worse. Some fucking thanks for everything they did.

the reason I have strong feminist feelings is because my mom is super mom! I love my mother she is the best mom anyone could ever hope for. Being a single parent (dad died when I was 4) wasn't easy. I saw all the shit she was taking just to make ends meet. She could not get decent wages and she had a hard time just paying the bills let alone putting money away for anything. Yet still she triumphed over all, and she always took care of me no matter how hard things got, sometimes she would not even eat but a bit here or there just so I could have a meal.

I do everything i can to make sure that she is comfortable now, because she as hell deserves it and whole hell of a lot more.

Even though she isn't in the work force anymore, I still see the EXACT same problems with my female friend's jobs and such as i did when mom was working. So no nothing really has changed and as he said this equality thing really isn't equal after all.

THE GLASS CEILING IS REAL PEOPLE this is not a joke, not some paranoid femin-nazi delusion...its very real. To all those women out there who have to take second seat jobs or low paying ones, because of their chromosomal composition...its terrible.

men need to get a grip on something other than their own throbbing member, and realize that they are only HALF of the equation.

Kudos to the men like me and Formus who are willing to accept this and move on with their lives as really equal or lesser than their better half.

TheFuckOffKid

TheFuckOffKid

NEWSWIRE

Australia

AUG 06, 2007 11:57 PM

Bitch_PhD said:
Those of you who doubt it could do just a wee tiny bit of googling if you actually cared about anything other than poo-pooing the demonstrated fact that sexism exists.



Being glibly dismissive is cute and all, but you could actually deal with legionnaire's point -- an interpretation of the Yale study's findings is that Hillary Clinton faces electoral problems by virtue of being perceived as an "angry woman". If so, how are we to interpret past negative electoral impacts on several high profile male candidates?

This does not necessarily dismiss the findings of the study. It does remind us of a point you like to make sometimes -- context matters.

Krass_of_nod

Krass_of_nod

Bend, OR
April 2005

AUG 07, 2007 12:04 AM

Bitch_PhD said:

cash said:
Civil service is an area where there is equal pay for unequal work. A female fireman makes the same as her male counterpart...even if she can't perform her duties to the same standards as the men.

That shit pisses me off.



What evidence do you have that women firefighters don't do their jobs as well as men?

Or is this just an assumption you're making because you believe that all women are inferior to all men?



not having to do with firefighters, but I was trained to some degree in martial arts. The MAJORITY of my trainers were women. It was awesome.

It was always HILARIOUS to watch "the big bad tough guys" get tossed like straw in a tornado across the room. Or even better to hear the whining like cry babies, when one of the girls got him into a painful and inescapable hold or move.

One of my trainers, whom I met later on in my schooling is not only female, but she is 4 foot 8, chinese and almost 70 years old. She is also faster than I am (and from what i can tell most snakes) and can hit like a pile of bricks is crashing on you.

I love her almost as much as i love me mum!

Krass_of_nod

Krass_of_nod

Bend, OR
April 2005

AUG 07, 2007 12:10 AM

cash said:
Civil service is an area where there is equal pay for unequal work. A female fireman makes the same as her male counterpart...even if she can't perform her duties to the same standards as the men.

That shit pisses me off.



this sounds mysteriously like a stereotype. I have met a few lazy women sure, but i have by far met WAY MORE lazy men.

Is there an example of someone you work with?

Even so, does it ACTUALLY reflect the whole of womankind? NO

TheFuckOffKid

TheFuckOffKid

NEWSWIRE

Australia

AUG 07, 2007 12:13 AM

Krass_of_nod said:

cash said:
Civil service is an area where there is equal pay for unequal work. A female fireman makes the same as her male counterpart...even if she can't perform her duties to the same standards as the men.

That shit pisses me off.



this sounds mysteriously like a stereotype. I have met a few lazy women sure, but i have by far met WAY MORE lazy men.

Is there an example of someone you work with?

Even so, does it ACTUALLY reflect the whole of womankind? NO



Look.

a) I think we can consider your touchy-feely credentials established.

b) As Prof. Bitch did, it's probably best to invite cash to elaborate on his statement rather than put words in his mouth. (He talked about unequal work, not laziness. It might be useful if he expands on what that actually means, eh?)

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