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  • MONDAY JUNE 4 2007 11:00 AM

When the Internet Sucks



During my morning blog rounds today, I ran across this post on one of my favorite take-no-prisoners feminist blogs, about a young pole vaulter (a California Interscholastic Federation champ, with a 13'7" career best vault and five national records--damn!) who became an internet celebrity when a photo of her was posted (without permission from her or the photographer, by the way) on a sports blog along with the following comments:

Hubba hubba and other grunting sounds.

. . . as best as I can tell from my rudimentary Internet sleuthing, Allison turned 18 less than two months ago, and she's still a senior at Newport Harbor, which last time I checked -- and I check often -- is a high school. Writing these kinds of posts are precisely why I keep getting mysterious, threatening voicemails from someone that sounds like Chris Hansen. "I'll get you, Ufford!" "You disgust me, sicko!" "Seriously, put some pants on." Et cetera and so on.

Oh, and there's also this: Miss Stokke is one of the best young pole vaulters in the country. She set the U.S. record for a freshman girl at 12'8", and her present personal best is a couple inches off the best high school girls mark. So, that's why I'm honoring her with a post. Because she's an exceptional athlete. Yes.

. . . she takes pole vaulting so seriously that she's unable to detect sarcasm. Which is too bad, because missing sarcastic remarks ends our steamy, illicit romance before it's even begun. That, and the age difference. And the restraining order.


The sports blogger has since posted an apology--of sorts--and a request that his readers "treat (the pole vaulter*) with respect." But by his own admission, his tendency to virtually leer at women athletes is kinda gross.

The pole vaulter and her family certainly think so: realizing that her pics had gone around the world and that there were "unofficial fan sites" about how "hot" she is and the like, they decided not to just take it lying down, but to try to get the pics and comments off the internet. Obviously a futile goal, but they've had some success: the unofficial fan site is down, with an apology to the pole vaulter "for having contributed to the unwanted attention"--a classy move. And, with the help of the WaPo article linked above, her story's started a bit of internet self-examination about an obvious problem: the ability of online publicity to make public figures of private people, often in degrading, embarrassing, or even threatening ways.

According to the WaPo, the pole vaulter had been getting tons of phone calls and comments on her MySpace page; gets started at when she goes out; tries not to leave the house alone; and her dad tries to keep on top of "potential stalkers" on the internet. All of which are, alas, real problems, as Kathy Sierra, among others (including yours truly) can testify.

For a lot of people, the upshot of this kind of thing is "eh, what can you do: assholes exist." Which is true. But for people who get caught in the asshole vortex, that's not a particularly helpful response. As the pole vaulter says remarkably clearly,

Even if none of it is illegal, it just all feels really demeaning.


This is the thing. Promising athletes, tech and academic bloggers, and fat kids caught on video, really shouldn't have to have their names and images dragged through the mud. And we really shouldn't shrug when it happens, any more than we should shrug when people are targeted by stalkers in "real," non-internet life. There may be little one can do about it legally (although I really do think that cases like the pole vaulting thing should be covered somehow under internet stalking laws), but surely there are things we can do about it morally, as members of a human community.

The bottom line for civil society really isn't what you can get away with under the law. On the internet, in particular, there's a fiercely independent streak that tends to boil things down to arguments that one's freedom to say whatever the hell one wants is the most important moral value. But y'know, we might occasionally do a little cost/benefit analysis: is a sports blogger's right to talk about how hawt a pole vaulter is *really* more important than her right not to be harassed? Is the hilarity of passing around YouTube videos of fat little kids really worth what it must feel like to be a fat little kid with the entire internet pointing at you and laughing? Are we really incapable of understanding the difference between laughing with someone and laughing at them?

And hey, when we make mistakes and it turns out someone we think is in on the joke doesn't find it funny, the least we could do is offer a proper apology and, if necessary, pull the links.

Bitch_PhD has certainly been guilty of using the internet to say bitchy things she'd never say to someone's face, but this story has made her think that she should try to be better about this.

 

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BDeyeD

BDeyeD

Toronto, ON
January 2007

JUN 04, 2007 12:14 PM

Toku666 said:
Just to pre-empt many of Bitch_PhD's "fans":

Yes, it would be just as bad if it happened to a male high-school athlete, but it didn't, and I'm pretty sure it never friggin' will.

*smooches*



I concur.

DeadBilly

DeadBilly

Burnt Cabins, PA
February 2004

JUN 04, 2007 12:24 PM

Lufy said:
It's really only been 10/12 years since the "internet revolution". I certainly didn't anticipate this sort of shit happening back when I was a college student looking at the beta version of Netscape. blackeyed



For real? Things must be different in Liechtenstein, because the US news media was banging this drum way back then.

Taban

Taban

Oklahoma City, OK
September 2005

JUN 04, 2007 12:24 PM

Recently on I was pointed to 2 wrestling matches on Youtube. I was told it was a girl wrestling a high school boy. Low and behold they were of me from 7 years ago!!
It was actually a little creepy to think someone somewhere has video of me in high school and don't know how they got it. The comments people made about the videos were just as bad.

I don't mind having pictures and video up on the web. As an "elite athlete" (so they call us) I expect it. But I also expect it from reputable sources, and I don't expect to see derogatory comments on sports blogs. (Save the nice ass comments for my SG attempt sets.. sheesh!)
Most of all the fact that a high schooler is having to go through things like this is pretty disturbing. Maybe one day she will be receiving media attention for her accomplishments.. but let it be about that in total; not about how good her track uniform looks on her especially not when she is still a kid. Honestly.

MrStitches

MrStitches

Brooklyn, NY
November 2003

JUN 04, 2007 12:32 PM

Pole vaulting is such a weird sport.

Girthy

Girthy

Canoga Park, CA
July 2005

JUN 04, 2007 12:51 PM

Well...

She is hot.



I remember my high school track shirts said, "Shut up and run."

Bitch_PhD

Bitch_PhD

I'm lost
February 2007

JUN 04, 2007 01:07 PM

Girthy said:
Well...

She is hot.
/QUOTE]


Wow. I figured at some point someone would feel like they just had to say this, but I kinda hoped it would take a little longer.

Jennifer_

Jennifer_

Venezuela
November 2006

JUN 04, 2007 01:34 PM

Does this mean I can't perve over the likes of Cristiano Ronaldo and Andy Roddick anymore?

frown

For one last hurrah, and in the interest of gender equality:



Yum.

PointBlank

PointBlank

New York, NY
November 2004

JUN 04, 2007 01:35 PM

Jenni said:
Does this mean I can't perve over the likes of Cristiano Ronaldo and Andy Roddick anymore?


No, because she's actually good at her sport.

Substance

substance

Lakewood, CA
October 2004

JUN 04, 2007 01:39 PM

Steps for becoming an e-celeb:
1) Go out in public
2) Have pictures taken of you doing things
3) Be really hot

The fact is, if she weren't an outstanding athlete she would be (and I hesitate to say "just") another beautiful young woman out there, obscure to everyone but those immediately around her. Her skills have placed her in the limelight a bit, and in an environment largely dominated by male commentators - sports.

When I saw this picture: http://sportswrap.berecruited.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/05/Allison%20Stokke%20pic15.jpg

I totally understood where all of this came from. I don't just see a random young athlete there - that, my friends, is a fucking Valkyrie. The very image of beauty, power, and grace. The picture of her mid-vault (the one plastered on mugs at OCRegister) is also awe-inspiring.

I'm sorry, but it's going to attract some attention, lecherous or otherwise. Perhaps "random sports blogger 56214" could be more PC and less old-guy-sitting-on-bench-with-newspaper-folded-over-lap but, hey, that's kind of not the point of the interwebs.

I'm sure when she makes it on SportsCenter or something of that nature she'll receive very neutral, respectful coverage.

I understand it's probably embarrassing to her and her family, and it would be nice if legally they could say "you know it's great you snapped these pictures and everything but please don't sell them on mugs kthx." I'm not a lawyer - is that possible? As for fan sites and other "totally creepy e-stalker dood stuffs" online, well... that would be a bit more difficult to curb.

Jennifer_

Jennifer_

Venezuela
November 2006

JUN 04, 2007 01:46 PM

PointBlank said:

Jenni said:
Does this mean I can't perve over the likes of Cristiano Ronaldo and Andy Roddick anymore?


No, because she's actually good at her sport.


If I were Roger Federer, I would give you a five high for that. But since I'm a girl that would quite like to have teh sex with Andy Roddick, I will vehemently disagree with you. He's like sexy masculine man poetry in motion.

(also, he is the #1 ranked American player.)

FancyUltraFresh

FancyUltraFresh

Saint Louis, MO
May 2007

JUN 04, 2007 01:47 PM

the alt. radio station here [in KC] was talking about this like a week ago. i got curious, so i looked Allison up. and yes, she IS pretty cute.

but the thing that struck me was what she was wearing. yes, i understand that in certain sports certain attire can be benificial. for example, wind resistance on a tshirt would probably be a bad thing in pole vaulting, espesh if you are trying to break records. i get it. but what i don't get is why she feels the need to wear supersuper short shorts and a sports bra. certainly she could buy shorts that were tight, but a little longer and covered her ass cheeks. or an athletic top that was tight but covered her abs.

i am by no means saying that she was asking for all this attention. but i am saying a girl that good-looking must KNOW she's good looking. she's got to have known people would stare, people would goggle, and some people would want in her spandex.

emotedcreations

emotedcreations

Germany
July 2006

JUN 04, 2007 02:01 PM

Nicely done Bitch_PhD. winkbiggrin

My response: She's smart (honor roll I believe it said), she's a great athlete, and very pretty. Moreover, watching that pole vault is fucking crazy. She's going to get attention. Why is has to be pervy attention? I dunno. It sucks that it couldn't be focused on her ability as an athlete, but the anonymity of the internet is always going to cater to people's baser instincts. Change people and stereotypes, and the internet will change (it's simply a reflection of humanity).

RudieCantFail

RudieCantFail

Baton Rouge, LA
January 2006

JUN 04, 2007 02:19 PM

FancyUltraFresh said:
but the thing that struck me was what she was wearing. yes, i understand that in certain sports certain attire can be benificial. for example, wind resistance on a tshirt would probably be a bad thing in pole vaulting, espesh if you are trying to break records. i get it. but what i don't get is why she feels the need to wear supersuper short shorts and a sports bra. certainly she could buy shorts that were tight, but a little longer and covered her ass cheeks. or an athletic top that was tight but covered her abs.



There's also the range of motion clothing can inhibit. It really wouldn't have a huge effect for the average highschool athlete, but for someone who is on the level of competition that this girl is, it can make a difference. There's also comfort; you're outside, usually in warm weather, engaging in strenuous physical activity not only can you overheat quickly, but bulkier clothing can chafe.

FancyUltraFresh said:
i am by no means saying that she was asking for all this attention. but i am saying a girl that good-looking must KNOW she's good looking. she's got to have known people would stare, people would goggle, and some people would want in her spandex.



My highschool sweetheart ran track and cross-country and wore the same kind of uniform for her competitions. I don't think that she was under any delusions that myself or other guys her own age on the track team weren't checking her out. But it's a completely different matter to have a photograph of you stolen, and then perved at by complete strangers of varying ages all over the world.

Chainlink

Chainlink

Key West, FL
August 2005

JUN 04, 2007 03:05 PM

Girthy

Girthy

Canoga Park, CA
July 2005

JUN 04, 2007 03:07 PM

Bitch_PhD said:

Girthy said:
Well...

She is hot.




Wow. I figured at some point someone would feel like they just had to say this, but I kinda hoped it would take a little longer.



Well excuse me for being a man.

You can't post a story of this nature and expect people to not look her up.

You're only adding to the attention.

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