Miss Truth Hurts: Advice That Rocks by Carrie Borzillo-Vrenna

Too embarrassed to talk to your friends about your foot fetish? Not sure when to tell your partner about those, um, nasty genital warts? Need some Gotha Stewart home-ec advice for your next soiree? Not sure how to get your foot in the door of that fab new career you want? I got you covered. Miss Truth Hurts is here to answer all of your love, life, sex, career, and relationship questions. Ask anything. I've been there/done that (except for the warts) and I've dished out advice to readers just like you through the pages of my advice book/lifestyle guide, Cherry Bomb: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Flirt, a Tougher Chick, and a Hotter Girlfriend, and to Living Life Like a Rock Star.

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Q: I've been on and off with my boyfriend for five years. We'll have this massive break-up, be apart for weeks, and then fall right back in love with each other again. I know he loves me, but we go through this back and forth too often and it's exhausting. WTF is our deal?

-Chaotic in El Paso, Texas

A: Chaos indeed! The first thing that comes to mind is maybe you're both addicted to the adrenaline of this dramatic relationship. Most drama queens (and kings) aren't even aware that they love the dramatic ups and downs of a back and forth relationship. Ask yourself: Do you get bored if things aren't chaotic? Do you love making up more than you love it when things are smooth sailing? Is your life otherwise boring and you crave some excitement? Do you get excited when your blood boils? Does it make you feel, er, alive? If you answered mostly yes, then you might just be addicted to drama. Try this: Next time you have a blow-up with your boy, don't go for the break-up card. Take a breather, collect yourself, and talk out the problem calmly.


Q: My man watches a lot of porn and it's beginning to creep me out. I catch him watching it on his computer when he doesn't think I'm noticing. It's like he has this other life or something. I don't want to be a prude, but why does he need porn if he has a girlfriend?

-Creeped out in Calabasas, Calif.

A: Embrace the porn! It could be fun. Scratch that advice if it's child porn, bestiality, or if your man only likes man-on-man movies. Otherwise, why not give it a shot? You might just find out that it turns you on and will enhance your sex life with your man. Besides, to be truly intimate and close, a guy shouldn't feel like he has to hide things from his girlfriend. The more he makes porn his dirty little secret, the more distance there will be between the two of you. Who knows? Porn might just teach you new trick or two!


Q: It upsets me when my boyfriend doesn't call me back or text me back fast enough -- which happens quite a lot. I don't know if I'm just being needy or paranoid or if something is going on. He'll go a full day before getting back to me sometimes. And, this happens at least once a week. What do you make of it?

-Anxious in Ann Arbor, Mich.

A: I can't believe I'm going to say such a cliché, but it sounds oh so true in your situation ... He's just not that into you! Move on.


Q: My boyfriend has a friend staying with him on his couch. He was supposed to only crash for a few weeks, but it's been a few months. I can't spend any alone time with him at his place because the friend is always there. I've complained to my boyfriend about this but he's not doing anything about it. I feel like I need to tell my boyfriend it's time for the freeloader to go.

-Sick of it in Saratoga Springs

A: Be careful or it might be you who your boyfriend kicks out. It's not for you to say how long your boyfriend's friend gets to crash. It's your boyfriend's deal, not yours. You don't want to be the nagging girlfriend telling him what to do. If you were living together, that's one thing. But, you're not. So, shut the hell up about it, since, unless its a serious and solid relationship, most guys will put bros before hos.




Carrie Borzillo-Vrenna is Suicide Girls' sex, love, and life advice columnist. She is an entertainment journalist, rock wife, and author of Cherry Bomb: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Flirt, a Tougher Chick, and a Hotter Girlfriend, and to Living Life Like a Rock Star and Eyewitness Nirvana: The Day-by-Day Chronicle.

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