Miss Truth Hurts: Advice That Rocks by Carrie Borzillo-Vrenna
Too embarrassed to talk to your friends about your furry fetish? Not sure when to tell your partner about those, um, nasty genital warts? Are your friends sick and tired of you running to them every time that frenemy of yours pisses you off? Not sure how to get your foot in the door of that fab new career you want? I got you covered. Miss Truth Hurts is here to answer all of your love, life, sex, career, and relationship questions. Ask anything. I've been there/done that (except for the warts) and I've dished out advice to readers just like you through the pages of my advice book/lifestyle guide, Cherry Bomb: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Flirt, a Tougher Chick, and a Hotter Girlfriend, and to Living Life Like a Rock Star.
Send your questions, dilemmas, and conundrums to email: misstruthhurts@suicidegirls.com. Alternatively, SG members can send a message via the site to MissTruthHurts.
Q:Is it true that girls like guys who put them down?
-From MySpace Man
A: Oh, you've read Neil Strauss' The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. The book's based on the teachings of evil genius, Mystery, who went on to star in his own VH1 TV show, The Pick-up Artist. But, as obnoxious as pickup artist Mystery is, there is some truth to his theories. But, it's not so much that women like guys who put them down. It's that women like a challenge. Women can be very intrigued by the one man in the room paying her little or no attention. We like a little mystery in our lives (but not the goggle-headed guy from that show). My advice is don't put a woman down thinking you'll land her in bed. That is ridiculous. Don't be rude. Don't use trickery. But be mysterious, be aloof, and be a challenge.
Q: I have been married for a long time. I love my wife deeply. But she is arthritic and says it hurts to have sex. We no longer do. So how do I reconcile wanting a sex life and not wanting to hurt my wife in any way?
-Sexless in Oregon
A: A sexless marriage is not a marriage worth having. But, don't call it quits. It's fixable. We don't just need sex in our lives to satisfy our carnal needs. We need it for intimacy and to relieve stress and to be human. One should not accept not having their basic needs met in a marriage and she needs to know this in a non-threatening but supportive and helpful way. You need to ask your wife to talk to her doctor to come up with a solution. And, you should call your doctor too and get some information or advice that could help and support this wife of yours that you love deeply. Find a way for your wife to relieve the pain and experience some real pleasure. Talking to a doctor about personal stuff isn't fun, but suck it up and soon she'll be sucking you up like it's the last night on Earth. Email me back when you guys are fucking like bunnies again.
Q:I have a terrible romance with procrastination. How does someone deal with the stress of life and still manage to produce things that are on par with one's perfectionist inclinations?
-Trepidation in Tampa
A: It's kind of like this -- Say there's a night where you're tired and just don't feel like having sex with your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, whomever. Right? We've all been there. "I'm not in the mood." "I didn't wax." "I have to get up early." "The whip is in the shop." But you get seduced into the act by that loved one and in a split second you are totally into fucking. Once you start, you don't want to stop. That's how I feel about procrastination with work or other projects.
We all have times where we feel a little lazy, tired, or overwhelmed by a project so we just put it off and off and off. But once you start and your creative or work energy wakes up, you get it done. So, my advice is this: no matter how much you want to put it off, the second you get a task, assignment, or that dreadful little deed ends up on your "to do" list, just start the project immediately anyway. At least start the first step of it. It's ok if it's not finished immediately, or if your first thought on the project sucks. Just get it going and you will see a difference. If you really want to think of yourself someone with "perfectionist inclinations," then procrastination should not be in your vocab, babe. I made a vow to myself to try to accomplish at least ONE thing every day, including Saturday and Sundays. Those little accomplishments do wonders for your confidence and really get your creative juices flowing.
Q: So there is this girl on the coast who is talented, beautiful, sophisticated and ultra sexy, and who has an amazing career and a mega talented hubby. Need I say more? Well this distance is a bit of a disadvantage and seeing her is challenging. What are some things you can do to show your crush just how much you adore her without overstepping any marital boundaries. This is from my friend, of course.
-An Anonymous Question from an Ohio Vixen
A: My first instinct is to say, "Don't fuck with married people!" It's just not right to go after a gal or girl who is taken. But, you say it's just a "crush" and crushes are usually pretty harmless and fleeting. Enjoy a little online, friendly girl-on-girl flirting, but don't expect or try to take it further. She is married!
Carrie Borzillo-Vrenna is Suicide Girls' sex, love, and life advice columnist. She is an entertainment journalist, rock wife, and author of Cherry Bomb: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Flirt, a Tougher Chick, and a Hotter Girlfriend, and to Living Life Like a Rock Star and Eyewitness Nirvana: The Day-by-Day Chronicle.
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