I'm a paralyzed veteran of the war in Iraq. Before I left I met a girl, and when I got over there I spent alot of money on phone cards to call her and wrote quite a decent amount of letters to her. During these calls and letters we kind of fell for each other while I was waiting to go from Kuwait. Then I got to Iraq, where I was shot 4 days later.

I came home and did my rehab at a hospital 4 hours away from our hometown and she would visit me and demonstrated a loyalty that is rarely seen in most people today. It was here that she told me point-blank that I was going to marry her. This was fine with mw as I was already planning to propose but she beat me to the punch so to speak.

We moved in together so we could learn what is was going to be like and for a year everything was fine. We got married about 5 months ago and things slowly started to change. Now we've been together for about a year and a half and we barely kiss or have any other kind of intimate contact (sex not included its not as important as the other stuff, as crazy as that may sound).

She's a lot more short tempered with me, for example she'll snap at me as though Im a small child driving her crazy even if I haven't said anything to her before that. Most importantly, she hangs out with a guy who used to be a fuck buddy of hers and although she swears its innocent and I try to believe her, it's quite difficult. Is there anything I can do, or should I just trust her and be done it?

So I'm split up after 7 years with the same person. I got dumped 2 days before Christmas.

I don't even remember how to go out and meet people, much less have any kind of confidence. I used to think I was the real shit, and now I just feel like shit. Everything I've been told over the last few years has been negative.

How do I "get back out there"? People say you just have to do what you like and do stuff for yourself, but how can I do that with no money and no friends?

I'm fucking lonely, fucking depressed, and that's the only fucking I've had in months.

I've been dating this incredible guy for almost a year now, and the relationship is genuinely good. It's not perfect, but nothing ever is. Our personalities mesh well together, we take care of each other, the sex is incredible, and he's there when i need him. He just makes me happy. He loves me more than he's ever loved anyone else before, and I know that. The problem is that I'm just not sure I'm in the same boat.

A long time ago (I'm talking years and years) I dated a man who I can't seem to get over. I like to think that I've moved on. It's been ages and I've dated many other people, and I've been in love again. But things always seem to go back to him. I think I set the standard for my relationships to what our relationship was, and it seems like everybody keeps falling short of that goal. Things were not perfect with him--far from it, and to be quite honest I think that we've changed so much in the period of time that we've dated that we could probably never really be together again. I imagine it would be quite a train wreck.

How do I know if I'm just suffering from 'the grass is always greener on the other side' syndrome? I don't want to settle, but I don't want to spend my life chasing impossible ideals, either. Where is the line between realistic desires and wants and completely unrealistic dreams? And how do I try and balance those with my current relationship?

I just feel lost, and confused, and I don't want to hurt this incredible man because I can't get my head straight.

Do you think it's possible to be in love with more than one person? Not lust, not puppy love, but in love truly, madly, deeply?

And if so, how the hell does one deal with it?

Hello Ladies,

I have been with my girlfriend for three years now. We have a normal relationship and are very much in love with each other. Things have changed recently as she applied and was accepted at a University about a two hours drive away. We talked things over before she left and decided that although we will be unable to see one another as frequently as we would like, we both felt that our relationship was worth continuing.

Her first term was full of ups and downs and she confessed that she kissed two different boys on two separate occasions. Although it pissed me off a bit, she re-assured me that it only happened because she was particularly drunk on those nights and that she still loves me. It's not that I'm an egoist or that I believe I'm the greatest bloke on earth, but I forgave her and things went back to normal.

Since then I have been having uncharacteristic bouts of jealousy whenever she mentions that she is going out to get drunk. I don't think I trust her anymore.

Where do I go from here?

I'm moving and I want a themed bedroom for my new place. I just can't decide on one! Do you have any ideas you could share?

A few days before Christmas I met a chick at a bar and we talked for ages. Eventually we kissed and I got her number. I tried ringing her the next day and couldn't get in contact. A day after that she rang me and we talked for a bit. I asked her out and she said yes, but told me that she was going on a trip the next day and that she would ring me when she got back. I forgot to ask when she was coming back. Now its been two weeks and I haven't heard from her. Should I assume she's is still away or no longer interested? What should I do?

My boyfriend’s mother is sick and he had to move to another state to be with his family.
He started working so he could come back and have some money to rent an apartment.
But his mother doesn't want him to move back here or even to visit me.
He is worried that the extra stress his mother is causing herself will make her more sick. On the other hand he is always telling me to move there with him and that he will take care of me.
I've thought about moving there, but it’s a big city and I don't have a lot of work experience. I'm afraid I won't get a job, and if I do I worry I won't be able to support myself. Right now I'm living with my mother and she says that if I leave I will never be able to come back.
What should I do?

So I'm a 22-year-old lady who has been married for about two years. Obviously, I married fairly young - I hitched up with my husband after I left school. We'd been dating for about three years at that point, and we were very much in love and bla bla bla, and he being 7 years older than me wanted to "settle down."

Well, the problem, almost two years later, is that he hasn't settled down. Much the opposite. Not long after we got married, he started spending almost all of his time out of the house, mainly with friends of his that he knows don't like me (and the feeling is mutual). Then, he got a job working overnight doing paperwork, and now I literally never see him. In the past week, I've spent maybe three hours with him, mainly watching him play video games. He completely abandoned any pretense of helping me around the house, either, so I find myself having to clean up after him if I want to live in a semi-tidy environment.

I've tried talking to him about all this, and he's very apologetic about it, then immediately returns to the same bullshit. I feel like he's just telling me what he thinks I want to hear. The last straw was when he started lying to me outright about where he was going and when/if he was going to come home - saying that he was going out to get cigarettes and would be right back, and not returning until the next morning after he got off work. That sort of thing. So I'm left waiting for him until it becomes obvious he's not going to come home, at which point most of that day is wasted.

He has little interest in having sex, usually doesn't want to when I suggest it, but will complain that we never have sex.

We had our problems before we got married, but nothing major, nothing like this. When it first began, I thought it was just some kind of post-marriage assertion of his independence, but it's come to the point where I'm basically little more than his live-in maid.

I feel like a doormat and an idiot for trapping myself in this situation. I also feel like I'm way too young to be a neglected wife. I don't want a divorce, but I've got too much life ahead of me to spend my days mopping the floor and pining away for a spouse I never see. I love him very much, but the whole thing is literally making me crazy. He refuses to see why I'm upset and is completely oblivious to the fact that we barely see each other. At this point, I'm all talked out.

Is there something I'm not seeing, here? Or should I just chalk this up as a total loss, and get a divorce and some therapy? I would probably have left already but I feel like I'd be even more miserable if I did.

There are a lot of body mods and great hairdos in circulation on suicidegirls, and I'm sure someone here is an expert on that kind of subject. Basically I'm seeking advice on what to do to get a rockabilly hairdo! It's pretty hard to make the hair lie back in that slick back manner, it would much rather stand straight up! Any advice?

For too long I've been a quiet, conservative type of guy, but now I want to appeal to more females. A few friends have said they like the 'bad boy' type, not the bad boys that use girls, but just ones with the bad boy image.

How could I create this image for myself? I'm not planning to go out and put on muscle or whatever, I just want to change a few attitudes and maybe buy a few things.

Any ideas?

So, my girlfriend says she “loves me” and I’m really in love with her. Recently she got a new job and one of her co-workers is a really good musician. He wrote her a song that she had me listen to. It was good, that guy has talent. I can write songs, I play piano and guitar, however he had done it way better then I could.
On new years eve she had to go to work, I dropped her off and we made plans to meet up when she was done at 9:30.
She called me up at 11:45 pm and told me she was at the musicians apartment. I went to go pick her up because everyone was headed to a bar and she’s still 20 and couldn’t go with them. When I got there she was stoned and a little drunk. I asked her why she was there instead of with me. She told me that they worked really late and the musician had asked her over to smoke with him and she had agreed.
I had never met him so I wanted to see what he was all about. He is not a bad looking guy. He’s a lot taller then me and seems pretty cool.
On the way home she told me that she was planning on seeing King Kong with him and it hurt my feelings because we had made plans to see it together. She got upset at me and said that I don’t let her have any male friends.
When we got home I mixed us a drink and kissed her. She had a pubic hair in her mouth that was brownish color, mine is black.
She tells me she loves me. Do I let her go to the movie with this other guy? Do I breakup with her even though I love her? Do I wash my mouth out and get test for VD? Do I feel like shit?
~Postmodern fool

My mains bizzo iz really pissing me maja deez days all damned hoodwink out E-wood stylee.

Naw doubts fer rizzile mi babee bizzile d'gone get hizzile ah me brizzy ass fo snass(s). Bitch been flossin' stoopid willy at new g-rat Mookie just in from Philly.

So, like idea time and shit, buss dis does she wants it put into huh anus or somethin lamped like that, what the fuck s'up now?

I'm having some issues with school that need to be solved. Because of the issues, I am having to wait a year to continue with my curriculum because I couldn't gain the credits I needed this year to continue.

I think I basically have an issue with learning. I need to "learn how to learn" or so my professors have put it. But how the hell do you learn how to learn?

Does anyone have some study tips?

I'm 21 and I've been with my fiancé for 3 years. He's the first guy I've ever dated or had any sort of sexual relationship with. The thing is, he is constantly remarking about how “cute” other girls are. I don’t mind this, since I'm bi-sexual, but it has started to really get on my nerves. I decided as of January that we would take a “break” from each other. I’m moving out of our house and we have called off the wedding. The unfortunate thing is that I fell in love with a mutual friend of ours. This friend is so very wonderful, he doesn’t even see it! I am so afraid of telling him how I feel, especially since I'm just breaking up with my fiancé.

I don’t know what to do! Please help me! I don’t want to just let him walk out of my life, but I don’t want to ruin our friendship either.

When with my woman, no amount of oral sex, intercourse, anal sex, or anything, will make me come. I can only come if I masturbate. I think I have either become desensitized or have a mental block or something. We work on it every time and just when it seems to disappear, the block comes back.

Furthermore, if I can't cum quick enough, she will smother me, and I'll cum almost instantaneously. We've had to do this almost everytime.

We're lost and confused. How can I cure this?

Last year I married a wonderful man whose family doesn't agree with my spiritual outlook on life- I am learning Wicca. I know his family looks down on me because I don't believe in one god, I believe in many gods and goddesses.
I have stopped my spiritual learning to keep everything at peace but now I feel lost and alone. I look in the mirror and don't know who that is looking back at me. I am scared that if I begin my practice again it will put a lot of stress on my marriage, but feel if I don't I will lose myself.
Should I risk the stress on my marriage to find myself again?

My girlfriend has been complaining about anal sex lately. She says it's not so much that she doesn't like it, because she's starting to really enjoy it, but she says it's more the odd feeling of having something shoved into your ass. Well, I was taking a shower this morning and saw the lube sitting on the counter. I decided to see what all the fuss was about so I slowly and cautiously stuck my lubed up middle finger in my ass. The odd thing was, I really liked it. I ended up jerking off while finger fucking my own ass and came so hard my legs almost gave out from under me. I don't know what to do, though. The only people I know that enjoy this are either girls or gay. I don't know if I should have enjoyed it or not and it's kinda weirding me out. I want to talk about it with my girlfriend but I don't want her to think I'm weird. On the other hand, though, I really want her to do it to me the next time she goes down on me.
Can someone please help? I don't want my girlfriend thinking I'm gay!

So I just started dating this girl and she says she cannot cum with anyone else. Apparently she cums just fine by herself, but whenever a guy tries to help out she never has. This irks me; part of my enjoyment sex with my girl is making her cum- I love the faces and noises. So is this common? Is there something we can try? She says she still has a great time and loves sex, but i want to give her more.

For the last three years I have asked myself what I want to be, and where I want to go in life. Every year it's the same question.

I’ve lived with a mate for four years now. I want to travel the world and become free of my holdings, but every day I put myself into more debt. I think I do this on purpose because I know how to save. I want to see the world and be around like minded people.

Am I afraid to fail? Or am I afraid to succeed? Either way, I don't feel as though I'm gaining anything from my experiences. Somebody give me the options I need, as I don’t want to be 30 years old and be asking the same questions. I’m turning 26 soon, and I feel it will all be downhill once I hit 30.

HELP??