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  • THURSDAY MAY 5 2005 11:35 AM

How Do I Take This?

Okay, I had a 2.5 year relationship end on me a while ago. Things between me and my ex are not good. He broke up with me for my younger sister's best friend. I was, of course, very unhappy with his decision and for a while was inconsolable.

I have now changed my life around and realized that I am SO much better without him. I have found wonderful guys that I didn't know existed.

The problem now is that I have an online journal and the girl he left me for has found it. She and her friends have been leaving messages saying horrible things to me and making me feel... basicly like shit. I try to ignore it, but I get hurt easily and don't understand how people can be so mean. I can't block them because they aren't a user of this site.

What should I do about this?

 
Comments
Eva2

Eva2

SUICIDEGIRL

Pennsylvania, USA

MAY 05, 2005 11:55 AM

Send her flowers. Her life obviously sucks wicked hardcore.

Amina

Amina

SUICIDEGIRL

Texas, USA

MAY 05, 2005 12:15 PM

Does this online journal site have an IGNORE feature? If so, use it.

Or does the site allow you to make your journal private?

You don't need these people in your life.

Ilsa

Ilsa

SUICIDEGIRL

New York, USA

MAY 05, 2005 12:18 PM

Ignore them. They just want your attention, don't give it to them. You said you're better now, so don't let bitter people make you feel bad, it's obvious their lifes suck.
You could also change your online's journal adress or block their ips from commenting.
Good luck!

Fatality

Fatality

SUICIDEGIRL

USA

MAY 05, 2005 12:20 PM

You sound like a much more mature person. Just knowing that should make things at least a bit better, no?

Sloane

Sloane

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

MAY 05, 2005 12:22 PM

How completely juvenile.

Best thing for you to do is ignore that nonsense and pity them for being so fucking pathetic.

They're looking for a response. When they finally figure out that you don't give a shit about them, they will leave you alone.

Sid

Sid

SUICIDEGIRL

Colorado, USA

MAY 05, 2005 12:23 PM

wow... girls are bitchy, huh? I had sort of the same thing happen to me. I figure they both suck and can be miserable together, and now I just don't give so much as a fuck. If they want to be childish and leave me messages and stalk me via the internet, let them. I have far more things to worry about and my life is better without the guy. Jealousy is a bitch, but I never got why the girls who take the guy always get jealous? Shouldn't it be the other way around?

Just take a step back and laugh at how stupid they're being. Laughing at their expense will ultimately piss them off and they'll stop. Brush it off and live your life. The best revenge is a life well lived.

Thistle

Thistle

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

MAY 05, 2005 12:25 PM

laugh at them. They are young and stupid and think that by hurting you they can score points with the boy. Feel good about yourself for not being so ridiculous.

Charley

Charley

SUICIDEGIRL

United Kingdom

MAY 05, 2005 12:26 PM

Keep remembering that you are in a much better place now and like Sloane says pity them for not having very exciting lives!

Kirby

Kirby

SUICIDEGIRL

USA

MAY 05, 2005 01:39 PM

GOD i hate girls!

just say "oh yeah? well i have all these hot suicide girls on my side! what now?!"

or, you could juse make your journal entries private, or friends only. i had to do it. i wish that if they dontlike it, they'd go somewhere else, but it doesnt work out like that. best of luck.

xo - kirby. miao!!

Lexie

Lexie

SUICIDEGIRL

Massachusetts, USA

MAY 05, 2005 02:34 PM

oh how very juvenile. I had a similar thing happen to me when an ex was cheating on me. I received a lot of hate mail, and comments from the much younger girl he was sleeping with.

The best thing to do is just ignore it and move on with your life. Don't let it get to you, and in the end you will be the bigger person for not giving in to such immature actions. Just keep reminding yourself how much better off you are without that in your life.

Ciel

Ciel

SUICIDEGIRL

United Kingdom

MAY 05, 2005 03:26 PM

don't rise to their bait. you're better than they are. they clearly are very dull and rubbish if they go looking for trouble.

Lolita

Lolita

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

MAY 05, 2005 04:36 PM

there is alot of good advice here, but mainly............DONT RESPOND. it will make the situation worse I promise, no matter how justified you would be to tell the girl to fuck off it will make it worse, and ignoring her WILL make it go away, PLUS you dont want to tarnish the fact that you are obvously the better person.

Kythe

Kythe

SUICIDEGIRL

Argentina

MAY 10, 2005 05:22 PM

GOOODDD.... i know exactly what your going torigh been there.. you should feel sorry for them they have NO LIFE... and man I dont even think an 8 year old would do such stupid shit... If she worried about you she feels threatened about something...stupid fucking people

Erica

Erica

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

JUN 04, 2005 07:46 AM

Hey man, who cares? It's your life, your journal, yours, yours, yours! If she'd like to spend time cruising around in your journal, then whatever. This is the internet!