i really respect that you've waited. the girls who have said that probably just want some and are upset that you won't give it to them. keep on keepin' on. it's your life and your virginity, after all; give it to someone who really deserves it. you probably won't have the problem many of us have - regretting our first times.

I think it's great that you want to wait and be with someone you love your first time, that's really respectable. Don't just do it to get it over with unless it's something you think about and realize that *you* really want... but don't do that because people think you should.

My first time was with someone I was deeply in love with, and he was in love with me as well, and it was his first time too. Looking back, I know it definitely wan't very good sex, but it was amazing and magical, and that mattered so much more.

So don't worry about what other people are telling you to do with your body. When you find her, and you're both in love, don't worry about it being a "sucky lay" -- you'll be in love, and sharing something great together! And she'll feel so special that you've waited, and you want your first time to be with her. That's an awesome feeling.

its a great thing that you are not settling. Never settle, especially when it comes to sex and relationships. The people teling you just to get over your romantic notions are silly and you shoudl not listen to them. I have a friend that was 23 when he lost his virginity, but he settled instead of waiting for what he really wanted, and now he is a miserable asshole. so yeah. . .don't settle, and don't worry about being a sucky lay, it doesn't matter all that much in the long run.

I think it's admirable that you're still a virgin at 23. I mean, I really wish I didn't lose mine to the guy I lost it to. I can't take back what happened. I think you should wait till you find someone. I don't want you to end up like all the other assholes out there who just get with chicks for the sex!

i'd say wait why ruin it now? wait for that one girl that you absolutely have no doubts that the one you want to share this with. then make sure that you tell them before you do it. don't wait until you're in the middle of it or after that first time is over. and i'm assuming by your wanting to wait until it's special; that you would want to have an open line of communication with that person: make sure that you sit down and discuss it first.

any girl that fucks a virgin knows that the sex probably aint going to be mindblowing....but you getting to discover your sexual self with someone...that seems like a time that matters the most.

remember everyone at one point was a virgin, we've all had to lose it, and i think any girl would be more then understanding, and love to give advice and play teacher.

::Claps hands enthusiastically:: Now you listen to me, do not, I repeat DO NOT listen to your silly friends. Here's the thing, I lost my virginity to a great guy -- he was my friend -- I was 19 -- I was sick and tired of waiting -- I just wanted to "get it over with". So, I did. And it wasn't a miserable experience. I still talk to the guy to this day. Everything worked out fine. Except for one thing -- 4 months later, I fell in love, and I mean crazy, insanely, passionately in love, and I wished with the shine of a thousand nickels in a thousand wishing wells that I could have given myself to him for the first time. But it was too late.... that is all.

Wait until you find someone who deserves your virginity and until you are really in love.....in the end that will be the best even if the sex doesn't turn out to be fabolous or you'll marry the girl. Waiting= most likely no regrets.
*kisses*