You're seeing her but you don't want any of the relationship type stuff? Why aren't you just friends? I've got great friends that are smart that I'm not dating, and our relationships are fine... I say tell her that you just want to be friends, as lame and cliche as it is.

maybe with time you will grow to be aroused by her mind. if not maybe you'd be better as friends.

What October said. Try testing the water a bit more. If it's not working for you then it just isn't. Just be honest and sincere.

what the hell is that. i don't know what to say, how to understand e.g the use of the word "approach". like, kiss her and see, and just be honest. or actually, honesty sucks. don't slide down the razor i'd say.

Why don't you ask her about her philosophy on sex? Sex can be thought of from an intellectual point of view; say... under the guise of a discourse on morality, for example. Not difficult at all to see where a person stands.

You could start of by talking abotu Gay rights or about orthodox religion. *grin* Good Luck.

When you're 80 you can justify having a girlfriend you're not physically attracted to. Until then, try and find a happy medium between gorgeous and brilliant.

...not that it isn't what we're all looking for...

I usually end up dating people who aren't that attractive, because it's their mind and their personality that makes me like them. And eventually I become sexually attracted to them because I like them so much. You might just give it time.

And as far as "approaching the issue" goes, I don't see any need to tell her that you don't find her sexually attractive. If it comes to that, just try and see what happens, and if it fails miserably, then you'll know.

If she never initiates anything beyond closed-mouth kissing after numerous dates, I would say she probably isn't interested in sex with you either.

Why are you dating this girl? I guess for what I read that shes not your kinda Covergirl lady, so... dont waist your time, go and be friend of this smart lady, and keep on dating hot chicks.