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  • WEDNESDAY SEPTEMBER 22 2004 12:00 PM

People Change

A long time ago in a suburbia far far away I was an upper class elitist snob. I had two girlfriends in all of high school, one a cheerleader (freshman & sophomore years) and the other the class president (junior & senior years). I never really paid attention to anyone outside my little clique other than to laugh at them. Anyways, graduation came and went.

After my first year of college I dropped out and spent the rest of my college fund on a surfing trip to the Philippines. To make a long story short I had my first encounter with poverty, became involved in relief work, and over the course of the last three years the guy I was in high school was forgotten.

Or so I thought.

I just came back to Indiana this past January and ran into this really awesome "alternative style" girl I went to high school with. Problem is, she remembers me as a total preppy jackass instead of a guy whose spent the last 3 1/2 years living without electricity. I absolutely hate shoving the work I've done in people's faces and getting high on myself so I'm always hesitant to bring it up. So how can I convince her that I've changed, or do I just have to live with the sins of the past?

Thanks for any advice you have to offer!

 
Comments
Aurora

Aurora

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

SEP 22, 2004 12:02 PM

don't say anything to convince her you've changed. just be your new self when you are around her, and if she has "grown up" as well, then she will realize that we aren't all who we were in highschool.

Nic

Nic

SUICIDEGIRL

United Kingdom

SEP 22, 2004 12:05 PM

When you ran into this girl, how did she act around you? If she was friendly and open, and could laugh at how silly people are in high school, then you're probably in with a chance. Just ask her out on a coffee date and you can both talk and catch up on what you've both been doing for the last three and a half years, laugh at your jackass past and become friends. You can apologize if you were ever mean to her, and she can accept it.

If she was defensive or had an attitude to you, then she probably isn't worth the hassle and is just as narrow minded as you once were. Simple as.

Good luck!

Ayres

Ayres

SUICIDEGIRL

Argentina

SEP 22, 2004 12:20 PM

Just be yourself... when we are in highschool most of us are jackass, but then we grow up and turn into... big jackass?... no, give her time to know this new version of you. Invite her a coffe, or a beer, or something, and have some time to chat. She will notice that you are not that little boy anymore.
Good luck kiddo! kiss