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How do you stop loving someone so much?

Submitted by RANDOM FUCKBAG

Edited by Al

I'm in love with a guy. We're really good friends and hang out a lot. This guy has a girlfriend. I hang out with her a lot, too. Because I'm in love with the guy, though, hanging out can be quite painful and taxing on me emotionally. I really like them, though, and don't want to end my friendship with them. So how can I stop being in love with the guy and have a normal friendship? My heart hurts and I want it to stop, but I don't want them out of my life, something even more painful.

What do you guys do when you need to fall out of love?

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Les

Les

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

AUG 25, 2004 12:04 PM

Stop seeing them for a while. Time is your best weapon.

Neyrissa

Neyrissa

SUICIDEGIRL

United Kingdom

AUG 25, 2004 12:28 PM

I agree with Les. And remember that she's got there first, and you have to respect that. It sounds cheesy and bloody impossible, but trust me, time heals all wounds...it'll be hard and painful, but you'll feel better. Try to find things to do, friends, hobbies, etc etc, outside your circle with them. Who knows, Prince Charming might be right there!!

Ryan

Ryan

SUICIDEGIRL

Greenland

AUG 25, 2004 04:55 PM

distance... it's the only way to get those feelings of love to go away... when you surround yourself with someone you love, you are always reminded of why you love that person.

staying away is the hard part...it's so difficult.
but you have to build your own life-away from said love interest..

surround yourself with different friends... go out, have fun... just not with that one boy...



[Edited on Aug 25, 2004 by Ryan]

CeCe

CeCe

SUICIDEGIRL

USA

AUG 25, 2004 06:47 PM

i, too, suggest distance. get a new hobby. get a new job. join a club or group. make new friends. hang out with old friends. just take some time away to be independent you.

or you could put a rubber band around your wrist and snap i each time you have romantic thoughts... although, i imagine that doesn't work too well.

Fleur

Fleur

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

AUG 25, 2004 08:09 PM

run as far aawwwaayy as possible.

Mnislahi

Mnislahi

SUICIDEGIRL

Florida, USA

AUG 25, 2004 10:09 PM

the girls said it. Just keep your distance. smile Good luck to know, I know how bad it sucks. frown kiss

Ayres

Ayres

SUICIDEGIRL

Argentina

AUG 26, 2004 12:37 PM

Distance above all. You need to step a side, and clear out your mind. As all the girls say! Good luck with this, kiddo kiss

Reagan

Reagan

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

AUG 26, 2004 12:38 PM

find a fault and dwell on it

Nic

Nic

SUICIDEGIRL

United Kingdom

SEP 01, 2004 08:16 AM

Don't hang out with them as much. I used to go out with this dude that I was loco for, and when he dumped me I hung out with him even more than when we were dating. Needless to say, it drove to me drink and the very brink of madness.

Then, eventually, he made himself look like a total dick in front of me and all my friends. It was the epiphany I needed, and I was over him almost instantly. There's nothing quite like a guy being an insulting twat to you and then vomiting into your best friend's kitchen sink to turn you off him for life.

Two months later, I met the man of my dreams.

[Edited on Sep 01, 2004 8:16AM]

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