Where do I begin with this blog post? I've been contemplating a starting point to this change, an evolution if you will, to an already perfectly working 6 year relationship between my girlfriend and myself. Why would we change it? What if it ruined what we already had?
We talked about it, after re-watching an episode of Penn and Teller's Bullshit which dealt with the 'family unit' and how 'man, woman and 2 and a half children' was definitely not what we strived to be. We always looked at ourselves as a couple who didn't go by names or didn't put one or the other on some sort of mantles that a lot of couples tend to do. We were and will always be equals and figured out that we were ready for a change to the status quo.
We initially wanted to have a third party, the supposed unicorn in this equation. A unicorn is a third party, guy or gal, who digs both of the initial couple and does every day activities and ultimately is intimate with both of them, via threesomes or sometimes one on one action, but it's always known what is occurring in the bedroom at any given moment.
The only problem with a unicorn is that it's almost impossible to find anyone who is willing to be in that situation. And it's not a strictly sexual situation either. Cuddling, watching movies, going to the grocery store... every day things in life that are usually normal for a couple to do is then done by this trio of people who dig one another.
Sounds crazy, I know. Were we asking too much in this case? Probably so. We had post ads on various poly websites, and one day my girlfriend got a hit from a girl, who initially wanted to meet her alone. We talked about it and I said it was okay, go meet her and see if there's a connection between you two.
There was a connection between them. They really dug one another and my girlfriend felt bad, like I would hold it against her to go out with this girl.
Why would I do that to her? That would be completely selfish of me. Someone would come along and dig me, right? I'd just have to give it time.
So the first relationship outside of our own had begun. And boy, we didn't know where it was going to go. Love, sex, naked times, breakdowns, heartache, crying... this was all coming soon but for the moment, I'll leave this first part on a happy note.
Their first kiss was sweet. A magical kiss when two people truly connect and are attracted to one another.
We talked about it, after re-watching an episode of Penn and Teller's Bullshit which dealt with the 'family unit' and how 'man, woman and 2 and a half children' was definitely not what we strived to be. We always looked at ourselves as a couple who didn't go by names or didn't put one or the other on some sort of mantles that a lot of couples tend to do. We were and will always be equals and figured out that we were ready for a change to the status quo.
We initially wanted to have a third party, the supposed unicorn in this equation. A unicorn is a third party, guy or gal, who digs both of the initial couple and does every day activities and ultimately is intimate with both of them, via threesomes or sometimes one on one action, but it's always known what is occurring in the bedroom at any given moment.
The only problem with a unicorn is that it's almost impossible to find anyone who is willing to be in that situation. And it's not a strictly sexual situation either. Cuddling, watching movies, going to the grocery store... every day things in life that are usually normal for a couple to do is then done by this trio of people who dig one another.
Sounds crazy, I know. Were we asking too much in this case? Probably so. We had post ads on various poly websites, and one day my girlfriend got a hit from a girl, who initially wanted to meet her alone. We talked about it and I said it was okay, go meet her and see if there's a connection between you two.
There was a connection between them. They really dug one another and my girlfriend felt bad, like I would hold it against her to go out with this girl.
Why would I do that to her? That would be completely selfish of me. Someone would come along and dig me, right? I'd just have to give it time.
So the first relationship outside of our own had begun. And boy, we didn't know where it was going to go. Love, sex, naked times, breakdowns, heartache, crying... this was all coming soon but for the moment, I'll leave this first part on a happy note.
Their first kiss was sweet. A magical kiss when two people truly connect and are attracted to one another.
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but... to each his own... enjoy.
But of course, to each their own. It's a motto I've always lived by.