OK SG pals (esp the female pals), here's a weird one maybe you can give me some insight into.
As some of you know, I teach at a small high school. Well, last year we hired a new, young female teacher. She's kind of cute, a little awkward, seemed nice enough. When a buddy and I went out to lunch the first week back to school, we saw her in passing and I invited her to have lunch with us, which she politely declined. Cool so far.
Over the course of the year, I believe there were two occasions when I mentioned that Lee (the other younger, single teacher) and I went out sometimes, and that she'd be welcome to join us if she was ever interested; she was chatty and seemed friendly, but never took us/me up on it, so I figured, Que sera sera, whatever. I don't think I've spoken to her much since then, she kind of keeps to herself, as far as I know, except for working out with some of the female staff (they all take walks together).
So today, my buddy on the staff calls me over and says that he heard two of his female students discussing how Ms. ____ had told them that I'd asked her out, and she'd turned me down.
My jaw dropped because not only is that totally inappropriate to do, it's either an outright lie, or massive weirdness, in my opinion. And it pisses me off.
So what do you think is more likely? That she somehow misconstrued my invitations as a date? It never occurred to me that that was possible; I felt like I was being friendly to a new teacher who is young enough to want to go out and socialize. (I don't know her very well, but I've never heard about her going out; and as far as I know there's no boyfriend in the picture.) Do you think she purposefuly was puffing herself up in front of these girls? How can you think hanging out with multiple people would be a date? What in the everlovin' fuck, people?
I feel miffed, because I'm kind of an introvert myself, and it takes a bit extra for me to be social; and then it turns around and bites me on the ass.
Am I missing something? Again, any insight is greatly appreciated. Sometimes I overlook something that's staring me in the face.
As some of you know, I teach at a small high school. Well, last year we hired a new, young female teacher. She's kind of cute, a little awkward, seemed nice enough. When a buddy and I went out to lunch the first week back to school, we saw her in passing and I invited her to have lunch with us, which she politely declined. Cool so far.
Over the course of the year, I believe there were two occasions when I mentioned that Lee (the other younger, single teacher) and I went out sometimes, and that she'd be welcome to join us if she was ever interested; she was chatty and seemed friendly, but never took us/me up on it, so I figured, Que sera sera, whatever. I don't think I've spoken to her much since then, she kind of keeps to herself, as far as I know, except for working out with some of the female staff (they all take walks together).
So today, my buddy on the staff calls me over and says that he heard two of his female students discussing how Ms. ____ had told them that I'd asked her out, and she'd turned me down.
My jaw dropped because not only is that totally inappropriate to do, it's either an outright lie, or massive weirdness, in my opinion. And it pisses me off.
So what do you think is more likely? That she somehow misconstrued my invitations as a date? It never occurred to me that that was possible; I felt like I was being friendly to a new teacher who is young enough to want to go out and socialize. (I don't know her very well, but I've never heard about her going out; and as far as I know there's no boyfriend in the picture.) Do you think she purposefuly was puffing herself up in front of these girls? How can you think hanging out with multiple people would be a date? What in the everlovin' fuck, people?
I feel miffed, because I'm kind of an introvert myself, and it takes a bit extra for me to be social; and then it turns around and bites me on the ass.
Am I missing something? Again, any insight is greatly appreciated. Sometimes I overlook something that's staring me in the face.
