If you're in a friends with benefits thing or even if you're "just friends" but you pretty much act like you're dating and then other person told you in the beginning that at some point they wanted more but even months into it you're still not willing to be anything more, guess what, you're the selfish one, not them.
If that person gave you time to "figure things out" or to "find yourself" or whatever bullcrap line you gave them and after months of them waiting you still don't change your mind, you're the selfish one, not them. All that person wants to do is be with you, they want to call you theirs, they want forever.
Also if some one says something like that "I'm just not ready yet" or "I just don't want anything serious" then its more than likely one of three things.
1. There is some one else and they want to see if anything will happen with that person first.
2. They are only interested in physical things either because they are shallow or maybe you're just good at them but they don't really like your personality.
3. Lastly because this person is just lonely for now and you're better then having nobody but they don't want to make things official because as soon as something better comes along they are gone.
I was involved in a situation like this. In the beginning she told me she wasn't ready for a title yet but soon. Three months later she sleeps with another guy out of the blue (because technically we weren't together, even though she pretty much lived with me at that point). I told her then it's all or nothing. I wanted her to be my girlfriend and for us to make things official or else that was the end. There were things about "us" at times that made me feel as though she was using me, however her being willing to be in a real relationship would have shown me otherwise. So what did she do? Ditched me and went into the same type of thing with another guy in literally less than a week later.
After a few months went by she came back. Didn't last long this time though, lol. I knew how it would end, I told her what was going to happen. She told me I was wrong... Sometimes I hate being right. But it's cool. Like I said before, I know one day a girl will fall for me and I'll make sure that she's the happiest girl ever =)
Have a good day SG people
If that person gave you time to "figure things out" or to "find yourself" or whatever bullcrap line you gave them and after months of them waiting you still don't change your mind, you're the selfish one, not them. All that person wants to do is be with you, they want to call you theirs, they want forever.
Also if some one says something like that "I'm just not ready yet" or "I just don't want anything serious" then its more than likely one of three things.
1. There is some one else and they want to see if anything will happen with that person first.
2. They are only interested in physical things either because they are shallow or maybe you're just good at them but they don't really like your personality.
3. Lastly because this person is just lonely for now and you're better then having nobody but they don't want to make things official because as soon as something better comes along they are gone.
I was involved in a situation like this. In the beginning she told me she wasn't ready for a title yet but soon. Three months later she sleeps with another guy out of the blue (because technically we weren't together, even though she pretty much lived with me at that point). I told her then it's all or nothing. I wanted her to be my girlfriend and for us to make things official or else that was the end. There were things about "us" at times that made me feel as though she was using me, however her being willing to be in a real relationship would have shown me otherwise. So what did she do? Ditched me and went into the same type of thing with another guy in literally less than a week later.
After a few months went by she came back. Didn't last long this time though, lol. I knew how it would end, I told her what was going to happen. She told me I was wrong... Sometimes I hate being right. But it's cool. Like I said before, I know one day a girl will fall for me and I'll make sure that she's the happiest girl ever =)
Have a good day SG people