sodome i love the bi-weekly mutual head-shaving ritual my sweetie and I have developed. #thewhitehairsarethetoughest
How does one distinguish between such groups? Is it about choosing members based on shared interest, compatibility & trust rather than just shared interest? Is it about foregrounding product over process? Might it be about how clearly the planned group actions are delineated, or about how much personal hunger individual members have to accomplish the stated shared goals? Can a group become more action-oriented through the efforts of a few members? Can that change survive a shift of membership?
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MAY 09, 2009 07:12 PM
I think that when you yourself are serious about something you tend to gravitate towards others who are as well.
I think that trust and commitment are the corner stones/ building blocks.
It's a bit like my job. I can run through a call with a guy in 5 minutes, and that is from start to finish with him cumming all over himself, but I can also milk that same guy for 35-40 minutes when I feel like it.
It's about the commitment. The desire to see it through and the pleasure you get from it at the end. For me that is the nice fat pay check, for him it's the sticky mess on his hand/belly/table/you get the idea.
Also, if it is something that a person is a part of simply to get things done, I have found that they are less apt to talk about it in front of people that have nothing to do with it. All of my friends know what I do, but very few of them bring it up for more then a few minutes when we hang out and then it is usually to hear a funny story or to check up on a certain caller.
On a side note, I find your profile picture sexy as hell.
