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OCTOBER 3, 2006 @ 05:36 PM


If you found out some things that your new crush did in her younger, crazier years, should you hold them against her....So here's what happened....My new crush and I were talking and she told me about some things that she did way back in the day....She was a little tipsy and when this happens she become a chatter box...It really threw me for a curve....I knew that she was no angel but I didnt realize the extent of the situation...I asked her if she would still do some of these things and her response was, "No, well I dont think so"....She could tell that I was uncomfortable with what she had said and immediately wanted to take that moment back....I really like this girl and I hope that something becomes of this crush....I just dont know what to think...Im trying to be open minded and base my feelings on who she is today....I dont know what to do..... mad
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Phoenixgirl

Phoenixgirl

I'm lost
May 2006

OCT 03, 2006 05:41 PM

you cannot change what she did in her past, and you should not be angry because it was before you and had nothing to do with you.

saturnz_return

saturnz_return

United Kingdom
March 2006

OCT 03, 2006 06:06 PM

the fact she wanted to take it back shows she cares for you.

only look backwards at the good times......but not for to long.......try and always look forwards, but not to far forwards. you can't change the past and especially not someone elses past.

jesus! i'm starting to sound like my dad smile

saturnz_return

saturnz_return

United Kingdom
March 2006

OCT 04, 2006 05:18 PM

yeah i'll make sure i wash the superman pants before you get them back........hope you didnt mind me borrowing them wink

HunterSMencken

HunterSMencken

Vienna, VA
July 2006

OCT 04, 2006 09:24 PM

The past isn't the future. Nope.

Look for the humor in the situation until you're okay with it.

Volkov

Volkov

San Antonio, TX
OLD SKOOL

OCT 05, 2006 04:36 PM

sounds like a very "Chasing Amy" moment. genders notwithstanding and it's not like they are central to the point.

my theory is that someone's past should be of no consequence, unless it somehow begins to make some sort of impact on the now.

like that time my ex got unexpectedly by FBI agents. yah. I totally didn't cover her bail.

Cheech

Cheech

Portland, OR
January 2003

OCT 06, 2006 02:01 PM

Without specifics, I can't say, but then 1) what bothers me might not bother you, n vice versa, 2) you clearly didn't want to mention what was mentioned, and I respect that; I'm just not sure what to say. I'd also add that- this is one of those cases where I don't think it matters what advice anyone has. This is really about how comfortable you are.

PaoloDeSade

PaoloDeSade

Hillsboro, OR
November 2004

OCT 08, 2006 01:20 PM

Past is past, I've done stuff in the past that I'm not terribly proud of...hope no one holds it against me in the future.

Loslope

loslope

Vancouver, WA
September 2004

OCT 22, 2006 12:46 PM

Put yourself in her shoes, as if you had discussed things from your past. It may be that those things don't bear on the other person. Not their time, not their business...unless it was axe murdering kids or something equally horrible. Then you may ineed hold her in disdane. wink

n8tvegrl

n8tvegrl

Bend, OR
February 2004

DEC 05, 2008 06:13 PM

Come baaaaaaack!

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