Warning! I am about to make a status update that some might consider controversial. But please understand that I just spent today working a double shift and, with nobody interested in having a conversation, I was just looking up an incicent from last year called "Elevatorgate." The topic in question has to do largely with the topic of feminism and what is considered making a woman a sexual object.
Within this scandal, a feminist youtuber talked about an incident where a guy asked her if she'd be interested in joining him for coffee and conversation. She considered the man to be making a sexual object out of her, and her loyal fanbase agreed with her and cheered her on. On the other side, her video encountered criticism for making a mountain out of a molehill. The guy probably just wanted coffee and conversation. As well, its a double standard to call the situation a problem of sexism, when similar situations happen with different sexes in different roles of different situations. For example, I as a man have had a couple of instances in my life which were a little more severe where I was the man being aggressively pounced on by a woman to my discomfort. As well, I've had uncomfortable experiences which involved gay men I was only trying to maintain a respectful friendships with, who had no issue asking me unwanted personal questions, despite my protests for them to be respectful. Would these experiences be an example of men facing sexual discrimination? Very likely not. They are just unwanted actions of disrespect that cannot be generalized to gender-only politics.
The whole issue of feminism and gender politics I find quite interesting. I personally find that it is counterproductive to take a black and white stance on the issue either way. As a man, I find it offensive when I find double standards in the norms for interactions between sexes. Like, how it is still expected for men to make the first move with a woman they find interest in, for it is considered skanky and disrespectful for women to do so, but if the man turns out to not be the woman's ideal cassanova, he's a creep for having the nerve to muster up the courage to talk to her. So, either way, he either stays silent and never knows if this woman might like him as well or he makes the first move, as society expects, and then gets shot down, humiliated, and considered a horrible person.
As well, as a man, I feel anger and empathy on behalf of many women and what the world thinks of them. For example, if a woman or young girl is raped and impregnated, there are many, especially other women, who would call her a whore and think that she should be forced by law to carry the fetus of the rapist to full term. And I can only imagine how patronizing it must be to live in a society that idolizes the dark ages and considers them to be nothing more than the property of men. And when men who sleep around are studs, but women who do so are sluts. You know, the typical double standards.
But, ultimately, issues vary, and I realize that the smart decision is to never be one-sided on these issues. For no one is always right or always wrong. That's my thought for the night. Peace.
Within this scandal, a feminist youtuber talked about an incident where a guy asked her if she'd be interested in joining him for coffee and conversation. She considered the man to be making a sexual object out of her, and her loyal fanbase agreed with her and cheered her on. On the other side, her video encountered criticism for making a mountain out of a molehill. The guy probably just wanted coffee and conversation. As well, its a double standard to call the situation a problem of sexism, when similar situations happen with different sexes in different roles of different situations. For example, I as a man have had a couple of instances in my life which were a little more severe where I was the man being aggressively pounced on by a woman to my discomfort. As well, I've had uncomfortable experiences which involved gay men I was only trying to maintain a respectful friendships with, who had no issue asking me unwanted personal questions, despite my protests for them to be respectful. Would these experiences be an example of men facing sexual discrimination? Very likely not. They are just unwanted actions of disrespect that cannot be generalized to gender-only politics.
The whole issue of feminism and gender politics I find quite interesting. I personally find that it is counterproductive to take a black and white stance on the issue either way. As a man, I find it offensive when I find double standards in the norms for interactions between sexes. Like, how it is still expected for men to make the first move with a woman they find interest in, for it is considered skanky and disrespectful for women to do so, but if the man turns out to not be the woman's ideal cassanova, he's a creep for having the nerve to muster up the courage to talk to her. So, either way, he either stays silent and never knows if this woman might like him as well or he makes the first move, as society expects, and then gets shot down, humiliated, and considered a horrible person.
As well, as a man, I feel anger and empathy on behalf of many women and what the world thinks of them. For example, if a woman or young girl is raped and impregnated, there are many, especially other women, who would call her a whore and think that she should be forced by law to carry the fetus of the rapist to full term. And I can only imagine how patronizing it must be to live in a society that idolizes the dark ages and considers them to be nothing more than the property of men. And when men who sleep around are studs, but women who do so are sluts. You know, the typical double standards.
But, ultimately, issues vary, and I realize that the smart decision is to never be one-sided on these issues. For no one is always right or always wrong. That's my thought for the night. Peace.