What does the BF have to say about the situation? Does he not consider YOUR feelings? Now this is just me, but after five years if I wasn't considered significant enough in my mate's life to be fully accepted by her family, I'd politely decline the invitation to attend their little consolation get together. Second place is just first loser, you know? Respect has to be earned, it's never freely given.

i mean, my bf is the reason we have their 'consolation' get together. i just dont understand them. and theyre such miserable people. i hate talking smack but i cant handle them sometimes. its just completely unfair. i just dont think they fully appreciate each other. and holidays has always been an argument. i mean i went from no invitation at all to any occasion, to this. so its a plus, but i almost want to be like, well dont bother coming to our house for xmas in the future. i just feel on top of it, his mom is going to complain about having multiple dinners too.
ive not been invited to weddings, as well. the whole idea blows me away because i come from a big family, and we always invite peoples boyfriend/girlfriends to our dinners, even if youve been around for only a week. and i told him that. this whole 'we cant do anything' pisses me off. you just choose not to ruffle any feathers in your twisted, old fashioned, christian family values shit parents. but i just dont get why they complain then, that they have kids who still live at home, if they dont want girlfriends over. the whole situation in itself is a fucking disaster.