Sigh.. everything changes so fast sometimes.
Background knowledge:
I moved out when I was 14 because I had a terrible home life. I live with my grandmother. I left behind four siblings. Their house caught fire last month and one of my sisters lost everything. She's 17 as of yesterday. She stayed with her boyfriend until my dad found out and called the police.
So, as you can probably guess, I received a phone call this evening to see if I could drive the two hours to pick her up. I did of course. Now we're trying to figure out the right thing to do. We've cut it down to three ideas:
1. I get an apartment near her school so she can finish out the next year and a half of school and graduate while maintaining her connections to our family, her friends, and her job. I would lose the chance to move far, far away as I have been planning. I could however enroll in college online as I will be grounded for the next two years. I don't feel qualified to raise a teenager, even for a short while, however I can understand and relate to her and this seems to be the best chance at giving her the future she deserves.
2. We move into a three bedroom apartment (me, her, my grandmother) and I will be obligated to help out. Still losing my chance to move far away, although I won't have the burden of covering all the bills. I do not want to live at home forever - or at all ever really - and just wait for things to change.
3. I jump ship and tell her goodluck and give her my room at my grandmothers and struggle on my own. Only worrying about myself has always worked out well for me and I don't owe my family anything for abandoning me the way they did. I wouldn't have to feel guilty if I mess up, only guilty that I didn't try.
Tuning to my horoscope:
Background knowledge:
I moved out when I was 14 because I had a terrible home life. I live with my grandmother. I left behind four siblings. Their house caught fire last month and one of my sisters lost everything. She's 17 as of yesterday. She stayed with her boyfriend until my dad found out and called the police.
So, as you can probably guess, I received a phone call this evening to see if I could drive the two hours to pick her up. I did of course. Now we're trying to figure out the right thing to do. We've cut it down to three ideas:
1. I get an apartment near her school so she can finish out the next year and a half of school and graduate while maintaining her connections to our family, her friends, and her job. I would lose the chance to move far, far away as I have been planning. I could however enroll in college online as I will be grounded for the next two years. I don't feel qualified to raise a teenager, even for a short while, however I can understand and relate to her and this seems to be the best chance at giving her the future she deserves.
2. We move into a three bedroom apartment (me, her, my grandmother) and I will be obligated to help out. Still losing my chance to move far away, although I won't have the burden of covering all the bills. I do not want to live at home forever - or at all ever really - and just wait for things to change.
3. I jump ship and tell her goodluck and give her my room at my grandmothers and struggle on my own. Only worrying about myself has always worked out well for me and I don't owe my family anything for abandoning me the way they did. I wouldn't have to feel guilty if I mess up, only guilty that I didn't try.
Tuning to my horoscope:
DEC 05, 2012 03:22 AM
You should do what is best for everyone involved. If they will not appreciate your contribution and effort, it may be best to abandon them. Don't sacrifice your freedom to the ungrateful. If they need you and love you, you should stay. It will be an opportunity to repair relationships and, in the long run, reap limitless future rewards. I wish you the very best and I hope it turns out well. 
