Since Calgary, I've been out of touch with lots of friends. I tried to keep in contact with any many of the close friends as I could and at least facebook-poke those I didn't see all the time. Unfortunately my friendships waned and I felt very disconnected from everyone when I eventually returned. Granted, there had been lots of change happen over the time I was gone
two couples close to me both got pregnant around the same time.
The births happened over the April/May months and things have been significantly different ever since. I never get to see these individuals any more without a new-born attached to their hip (or breast). Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against kids - or parents - it's just that they have seemed to loose their sense of self and now define themselves as "parents".
It's the same beef I have about people defining themselves by the job they do. You are not your job. You do your job - and I believe should take pride in it and do it well - but you are not your job. I've always thought it was odd that people used their jobs as their defining characteristic - even if that job is not worth being defined as. "Hi, I'm Jim. I work at McDonald's." Is McDonald's who you are Jim? What are your likes and dislikes? Your favorite colour? Your favorite author? I'd much rather know those things about you then your place of employment. Granted, if you are working somewhere you love and it is something you are passionate about please tell me. I want to know about things that excite you but over all I'd rather know about the person not their profession.
So, when you have a kid, you are not the kid. Nor are you a parent only. You do not stop liking reading comics because baby Ricky is now in your life. You might not have as much time with your comic collection as you did before because your priorities/responsibilities have changed, but that doesn't mean your love for them has diminished.
Therefore, when we have some social time together, please for the love of gawd talk about something beyond your kid! Not that you have to pretend that baby Ricky is not suckling on your teat right now, or that he doesn't exist entirely, but that not every conversation is about "that cute thing he did today" or the colour/texture of his excrement. I wouldn't talk about my poo to my closest friends - too much information is too much information no matter what size/age of person you are! I've been laughed at by my new-parent friends for not wanting to hear about that topic, which I personally don't understand. If you were really into collecting stamps and I was not, I thought it'd be logical that you wouldn't spend all your time telling me about your collection and the kewl piece you picked up today. Not that I wouldn't want to hear about things that were special to you, and I'd love to hear about things that were passionate about and your great collectible finds in moderation but the key word there is MODERATION. Don't talk my ear off all the time about interests that aren't mutual. And I'll do the same for you. I am a big wrestling fan - I watch it every week and following the plot lines and big moves and analyze it with other fans. However I know that these new-parent friends are not wrestling fans. So, out of respect for them and our friendship I don't talk about who Swantoned who and who's number one contender for the World Heavy Weight belt and how so-and-so totally got robbed by not getting a chance at the title.
The more I hang out with these friends the more I'm noticing that they may not be as good of friends as I had once thought they were
And that's very sad, seeing as one of these couples I've known for a good decade now.
It's sad when things come towards and end.
But who knows? Perhaps we'll be able to hang out again when the newborns aren't so new.
Arrr!
The births happened over the April/May months and things have been significantly different ever since. I never get to see these individuals any more without a new-born attached to their hip (or breast). Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against kids - or parents - it's just that they have seemed to loose their sense of self and now define themselves as "parents".
It's the same beef I have about people defining themselves by the job they do. You are not your job. You do your job - and I believe should take pride in it and do it well - but you are not your job. I've always thought it was odd that people used their jobs as their defining characteristic - even if that job is not worth being defined as. "Hi, I'm Jim. I work at McDonald's." Is McDonald's who you are Jim? What are your likes and dislikes? Your favorite colour? Your favorite author? I'd much rather know those things about you then your place of employment. Granted, if you are working somewhere you love and it is something you are passionate about please tell me. I want to know about things that excite you but over all I'd rather know about the person not their profession.
So, when you have a kid, you are not the kid. Nor are you a parent only. You do not stop liking reading comics because baby Ricky is now in your life. You might not have as much time with your comic collection as you did before because your priorities/responsibilities have changed, but that doesn't mean your love for them has diminished.
Therefore, when we have some social time together, please for the love of gawd talk about something beyond your kid! Not that you have to pretend that baby Ricky is not suckling on your teat right now, or that he doesn't exist entirely, but that not every conversation is about "that cute thing he did today" or the colour/texture of his excrement. I wouldn't talk about my poo to my closest friends - too much information is too much information no matter what size/age of person you are! I've been laughed at by my new-parent friends for not wanting to hear about that topic, which I personally don't understand. If you were really into collecting stamps and I was not, I thought it'd be logical that you wouldn't spend all your time telling me about your collection and the kewl piece you picked up today. Not that I wouldn't want to hear about things that were special to you, and I'd love to hear about things that were passionate about and your great collectible finds in moderation but the key word there is MODERATION. Don't talk my ear off all the time about interests that aren't mutual. And I'll do the same for you. I am a big wrestling fan - I watch it every week and following the plot lines and big moves and analyze it with other fans. However I know that these new-parent friends are not wrestling fans. So, out of respect for them and our friendship I don't talk about who Swantoned who and who's number one contender for the World Heavy Weight belt and how so-and-so totally got robbed by not getting a chance at the title.
The more I hang out with these friends the more I'm noticing that they may not be as good of friends as I had once thought they were
And that's very sad, seeing as one of these couples I've known for a good decade now.
It's sad when things come towards and end. But who knows? Perhaps we'll be able to hang out again when the newborns aren't so new.
Arrr!
One last try?...
So, here I am...AGAIN! Miss me?
this time Satan has all my moneys for a year long membership. perhaps I'll actually use this account this time? counting on it!
i've been missing blogging, and i think i'll keep this one active.
partially because anyone i'm having troubles with in my life FOR SURE in not on here - unlike facebook. and partially because i miss the blog appy here more than anything. it's awesome!
so, i'll get to my first installment right now:
over the last year and a half...
- gots a bf (he's beyond awesome!)
- moved away (to calgary)
- 8 months of hell later moved back
- was a bum for a month over x-mas
- got employment at IDL
- had ups and downs about job due to crazy owners
- almost uped and quit a couple of times, but now am nicely settled in and ready to rock.
- going back to school in the fall (only a few weeks away!) -- very excited!
- had my best friend from high school get married couple of weeks ago. so happy for her!
- went to connect. it was very memorable! defiantly year-changing.
- went through the beginning of the year 100% drama free -- now there is enough drama/excitement to keep me interested and there will only be more as time goes on.
- just started Krav Maga classes last week! so fun! can't wait till my next class!
and now that you've been caught up i'll leave it there. next installment soon!
glad to be back!
arrr!
So, here I am...AGAIN! Miss me?
this time Satan has all my moneys for a year long membership. perhaps I'll actually use this account this time? counting on it!
i've been missing blogging, and i think i'll keep this one active.
partially because anyone i'm having troubles with in my life FOR SURE in not on here - unlike facebook. and partially because i miss the blog appy here more than anything. it's awesome!
so, i'll get to my first installment right now:
over the last year and a half...
- gots a bf (he's beyond awesome!)
- moved away (to calgary)
- 8 months of hell later moved back
- was a bum for a month over x-mas
- got employment at IDL
- had ups and downs about job due to crazy owners
- almost uped and quit a couple of times, but now am nicely settled in and ready to rock.
- going back to school in the fall (only a few weeks away!) -- very excited!
- had my best friend from high school get married couple of weeks ago. so happy for her!
- went to connect. it was very memorable! defiantly year-changing.
- went through the beginning of the year 100% drama free -- now there is enough drama/excitement to keep me interested and there will only be more as time goes on.
- just started Krav Maga classes last week! so fun! can't wait till my next class!
and now that you've been caught up i'll leave it there. next installment soon!
glad to be back!
arrr!
well, i was going to cancel my account cuz i just haven't been around here at all and from the looks of things no one else has either...
but it says my account is complementary... wah?
i guess i'm not paying to be here. that's good to know!
so i guess i'll be around here a bit more. perhaps i'll even update with real news now and again... we'll see what happens...
~Minx~
but it says my account is complementary... wah?
i guess i'm not paying to be here. that's good to know!
so i guess i'll be around here a bit more. perhaps i'll even update with real news now and again... we'll see what happens...
~Minx~
Well I'm alive.
I'm managing at the porno-shack. I love it. I have the control that I've never had before. Every job I've had before this one I've had the responsibility of the/a manager but just not the title or pay. Now I have it all! Yay!
I miss everyone so much.
It's weird not having anyone to hang out with. I'm use to having a dozen people I can call up at the drop of a hat to hang out with. Now, I hang out with my BF and/or my co-works. Yay ?
I am looking forward to "Girls' Night Out" on Wednesday. We are going to one of the local watering holes and going to watch male strippers! Tee-hee. I'm giggly like a school girl. Tee-hee. Penises are funny.
Sorry this post wasn't exciting.
My life sorta just involves work and more work and then some sleep and then back to work.
Speaking of which, I should get back to typing shit up for work
TTYL!
<333
I'm managing at the porno-shack. I love it. I have the control that I've never had before. Every job I've had before this one I've had the responsibility of the/a manager but just not the title or pay. Now I have it all! Yay!
I miss everyone so much.
It's weird not having anyone to hang out with. I'm use to having a dozen people I can call up at the drop of a hat to hang out with. Now, I hang out with my BF and/or my co-works. Yay ?
I am looking forward to "Girls' Night Out" on Wednesday. We are going to one of the local watering holes and going to watch male strippers! Tee-hee. I'm giggly like a school girl. Tee-hee. Penises are funny.
Sorry this post wasn't exciting.
My life sorta just involves work and more work and then some sleep and then back to work.
Speaking of which, I should get back to typing shit up for work
TTYL!
<333
Well I've officially hooked up my own computer now to the interweb, though I don't get to visit it as often as I'd like too
I do have a new job. I got the call just before I went to go hand out resumes on Monday. That's right, I got hired BEFORE I handed out any resumes I got hired back at the porno shack. I'm a smut peddler yet again! I'm assistant managing the 32nd Ave. NE location, and so far so good. The super awesome part is I'm getting stupidly good money for it too. And since I'm living for free (no rent, no bills) almost all of it can go to school and saving for my trip to Ottawa this summer.
I'm super happy. It's been good. I've even met a couple Calgarians that I think I'll get along with just fine. I really lucked out in that department.
I'm looking forward to going to the Everclear / Mariana's Trench concert on Monday.
What are you looking forward to?
I do have a new job. I got the call just before I went to go hand out resumes on Monday. That's right, I got hired BEFORE I handed out any resumes I got hired back at the porno shack. I'm a smut peddler yet again! I'm assistant managing the 32nd Ave. NE location, and so far so good. The super awesome part is I'm getting stupidly good money for it too. And since I'm living for free (no rent, no bills) almost all of it can go to school and saving for my trip to Ottawa this summer.
I'm super happy. It's been good. I've even met a couple Calgarians that I think I'll get along with just fine. I really lucked out in that department.
I'm looking forward to going to the Everclear / Mariana's Trench concert on Monday.
What are you looking forward to?
i am alive.
Calgary is awesome. i go job hunting tomorrow. i don't have permanent access to internet yet, but it'll all come in time...
i want to go to Trailerpalooza. why does it have to be on whilst i'm out of town for the first time in, er, FOREVER??!!
but i may be able to go to see Satoshi Tomiie when he comes here at the end of may... that'd be pretty kewl if i could pull that off...
that's all my news for now.
I'll hijack a computer again soon and give you a proper update.
take care all
Calgary is awesome. i go job hunting tomorrow. i don't have permanent access to internet yet, but it'll all come in time...
i want to go to Trailerpalooza. why does it have to be on whilst i'm out of town for the first time in, er, FOREVER??!!
but i may be able to go to see Satoshi Tomiie when he comes here at the end of may... that'd be pretty kewl if i could pull that off...
that's all my news for now.
I'll hijack a computer again soon and give you a proper update.
take care all
Well, things are going. Not exactly as quickly as I originally planned, but going none the less. Packing is WAY behind schedule, and my final project is falling into place slowly but steadily. Man I hate being sick. It took me out for a few good long days during this crunch period and that's what set me back. Bah humbug.
Okay, and minor rant:
If I'm working on a project and its due in a week, I am obviously STILL working on it. (there is always room for improvement, even if it was 'done') The thing isn't painted, nor is any of the pieces in it finished. No, it's not F'ing done! So, please, Miss Professor, DON'T send me a message telling me about all the things that SHOULD be done. I'm getting there! I have a friggin week! Oh, and maybe you should tell me BEFORE I'm 70% done, that you don't like half of what I've done. Maybe. Because you know what? I don't have the time to do that now. You know why? Because we only have a week! And re-doing a final project that we've been working on for the last two months, in a week is NOT happening. Fuck off. The same way you should have told the other girl in the class that her project what not feasible before last week. Who gets to start over? She does! Why do you insist on being such a big retard? Gawd!
I love my major, but the design professors sure know how to be royal jerkoffs! Sometimes "our" design really is "their design in our writing". I understand the phenomenon of professors wanting you to regurgitate information, but I NEVER thought that would hold true to a DESIGN class. How do you regurgitate an original work? WTF?
Alright. So back to the ballgame. I have costume renderings that won't do themselves
Take care!
~ Minx ~
Okay, and minor rant:
If I'm working on a project and its due in a week, I am obviously STILL working on it. (there is always room for improvement, even if it was 'done') The thing isn't painted, nor is any of the pieces in it finished. No, it's not F'ing done! So, please, Miss Professor, DON'T send me a message telling me about all the things that SHOULD be done. I'm getting there! I have a friggin week! Oh, and maybe you should tell me BEFORE I'm 70% done, that you don't like half of what I've done. Maybe. Because you know what? I don't have the time to do that now. You know why? Because we only have a week! And re-doing a final project that we've been working on for the last two months, in a week is NOT happening. Fuck off. The same way you should have told the other girl in the class that her project what not feasible before last week. Who gets to start over? She does! Why do you insist on being such a big retard? Gawd!
I love my major, but the design professors sure know how to be royal jerkoffs! Sometimes "our" design really is "their design in our writing". I understand the phenomenon of professors wanting you to regurgitate information, but I NEVER thought that would hold true to a DESIGN class. How do you regurgitate an original work? WTF?
Alright. So back to the ballgame. I have costume renderings that won't do themselves
Take care!
~ Minx ~
Goodbye Regina
Hello Cowtown!
This little Minx is leaving soon for a summer adventure. Going to city of cowboys/girls and going to earn some dough before returning for school
My best friend is going up there for work and I'm going to go with him and live in Calgary for a few months. It's defiantly going to be new. And defiantly going to be scary! I've never lived anywhere else beyond Regina, major scary!
So, I'll probably be AWOL for the next bit as I finish up school and move my stuff over to my friend's place for storage whilst I'm gone. It's going to be nuts!
I will be having a going away party before I go on the weekend of the 20th/21st. Not sure which day yet, the Friday or the Saturday perhaps both? I'll keep you updated as best I can.
Till then I have big essay due tomorrow that is fighting back anyone know enough about Antonin Artaud to write a paper about him? Anyone? Common! You know you wanna
Take care
~ Minxy ~
This little Minx is leaving soon for a summer adventure. Going to city of cowboys/girls and going to earn some dough before returning for school
My best friend is going up there for work and I'm going to go with him and live in Calgary for a few months. It's defiantly going to be new. And defiantly going to be scary! I've never lived anywhere else beyond Regina, major scary!
So, I'll probably be AWOL for the next bit as I finish up school and move my stuff over to my friend's place for storage whilst I'm gone. It's going to be nuts!
I will be having a going away party before I go on the weekend of the 20th/21st. Not sure which day yet, the Friday or the Saturday perhaps both? I'll keep you updated as best I can.
Till then I have big essay due tomorrow that is fighting back anyone know enough about Antonin Artaud to write a paper about him? Anyone? Common! You know you wanna
Take care
~ Minxy ~
How to Get Your Girlfriend to Play Video Games
You are part of it!
iGeneration
La la la la la la la la
Download this Song!
cable guy comes tomorrow. i hope it's not jim carey.
time for bed, i have a big day ahead of me tomorrow. lots of reading, wallpaper to remove, house to clean, D&D to play... man, i live the hard life...
Come to Diva's on Saturday! 8pm doors open :: 10pm show starts. $10 at the door! (at the Owl @ the U)
i can't wait for the 17th! dessert HO! mmmmm...
take care all!
~ Minxy ~
UPDATE: Cable guy came today. High speed interweb kicks ass! man how i missed it! yay!
You are part of it!
iGeneration
La la la la la la la la
Download this Song!
cable guy comes tomorrow. i hope it's not jim carey.
time for bed, i have a big day ahead of me tomorrow. lots of reading, wallpaper to remove, house to clean, D&D to play... man, i live the hard life...
Come to Diva's on Saturday! 8pm doors open :: 10pm show starts. $10 at the door! (at the Owl @ the U)
i can't wait for the 17th! dessert HO! mmmmm...
take care all!
~ Minxy ~
UPDATE: Cable guy came today. High speed interweb kicks ass! man how i missed it! yay!
SG programmers: SUCK MY BALLZ!!!
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to elaborate: i hate this new site with it's "FLASH EVERYTHING". yes, it's shiny, but not a well design at all. i can't post simple links with out if fucking up and crashing or adding character where there were none... or whatever! fuck!
therefore ---> start sucking.... I'm waiting!
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to elaborate: i hate this new site with it's "FLASH EVERYTHING". yes, it's shiny, but not a well design at all. i can't post simple links with out if fucking up and crashing or adding character where there were none... or whatever! fuck!
therefore ---> start sucking.... I'm waiting!
