So I was just down in Wellington over the weekend to help console/cheer up my friend who has split with his partner of 12 years (as mentioned in my previous blog). He's doing a lot better than I'd expected. I feared he might've hit the bottle or the bong harder as he was already a very heavy user of both but instead I've found him having given up the weed entirely and cutting back (albeit marginally) on the drinking. Over the past 3 weeks he's been through some really rough patches and dark places, not even being able to sleep for the first week, but due to having some awesome mates who live close they've all supported him through well so far. He's talking openly and honestly about everything now, admitting his faults and his contribution to their relationship's failure but also realising that this is a change to move forward gain some perspective and self awareness and move forward. He's doing well.

I cancelled my account with the swing site that his ex and new lover turned up on as I could see they were constantly viewing my profile.. made me feel very weird indeed.