You ask a very tough question. I have had a similar though not identical experience. I'm going to think on it a bit and then see if I might be able to offer some help. Be well until then.

Self destruction...... Drugs, alcohol, car thievery........... Lots of people are doing it!

Brandie...it is not easy...but know this: if your man doesn't treat you like a queen now....he will not down the road. Healing your heart will still take time, but you can do better. Your true love is still out there...

What gmon said. The good will never outweigh the bad. Lying once is troublesome enough, but the deception with the additional conflicts doesn't bode well.

If he keeps doing this and you're still around, of course he's going to believe - maybe not consciously - that he can ALWAYS get away with his behavior. As long as he displays a small amount of affection every now and then.

To be blunt...

It's a cycle.

He shows interest.
You get your hopes up.
He stands you up.

There is time apart...

He shows interest.
You get your hopes up.
He stands you up......

You can't possibly heal if you keep putting yourself in that situation and expect a different result.
We always want what we can't have at the expense of what might already be within reach.

Try to spend more time with just you and your son. It's not right to you our your son for you to be feeling this pain from someone like that. For one , you desever better than that and two, your son is seeing your reactions and i'm sure it upsets him, So, tell that fucker to kick rocks !! And your to old to play high school games and his loss. Luv ya dear.

And this is when some bitch won't leave you alone !

to be very blunt kick him to the curb and move on the second you read this from what you have described this is a person that is taking full advantage of your feelings and will not stop doing it .if you want your heart to be pulled in every direction at once then by all means stay with this guy but i dont believe that to be the case so please cut him loose and move on.i am sure the right one for you is out there but you will never know if you continue to hold on to an obiously bad relationship

Just remember how much you've BOTH changed. Oh, and the fact that you deserve to be treated like a goddess, not like a little puppy. Him stringing you along will just mess with your self-esteem, woman, and NO sex or relationship is worth that!

You need to realize you deserve better and be treated with the upmost of respect. You are an amazing woman, the kind we all wish we could find and are jealous of the men when they do find them. Focus on what matters, your son, job and all that good stuff. You won't be single long.
Also when he is old and gray he will regret the opportunity he had for an amazing thing.