I'd tell him all this. No point you sitting around aggravated and annoyed (with good reason) while he remains oblivious to the whole situation (it sounds as if he is).

Be assertive about it. Tell him that you're not trying to be "clingy", but that you'd like some sense that he realizes that you do, in fact, exist.

It's really not much to ask for you know, don't feel bad about it.

Oh, and slap him up the side the head for good measure. Maybe it'll knock some of the monitor UV rays out of his brain.

You are not overreacting.
I am the female equivilent of your boyfriend.
Its scary how serious I am.
And I feel for you so deeply,because I have a first hand view of what that does to a relationship.
I am a selfish person who ended the best thing I might ever have,because I suck.
You should go out with my Ex.
He would feel your pain 1000000000%.
Plus,he is really cute,fantastic in bed and wants nothing more than to lay in bed all day cuddling and making love.
Pfffft.
I'm evil.
Wow.It really is SCARY how similar our situations are right now.
Fucking eerie.
Hope things end up for the best sweetie.
You deserve it.
@millions of hugs@

It sounds like he's taking you for granted. Maybe there's something he's going through that he's not telling you. In any case you have to draw your boundries. Set days that he can play on his computer endlessly, but also set days that you two do something together with the computer off limits. Make it clear that the current lifestyle is unacceptable to you. Not in an angery manner, just in a matter of fact manner. If he cares about you he'll listen.

love for young siv
you described me a year ago
i was like your boy, minus the sex drive thingy. i moved in with my girlfriend and she turned into an old lady. made dinner ate, watched film, i tried to touch her, she said she had to work early, i gave up. i played games and did photoshop. it was sad. i don't think i will ever move in with a girl again. so i feel your pain. i just need a little affection and attention, and she had neither. hope you feel better. get out of the house.

oh is your camera 5.0 mega pixels?
i need to know

I had, literally, the EXACT same thing happen with my ex a few years ago.

He was really, really depressed and in complete denial of it. The games were his escape method. I almost left him because of it. We only stayed together because my moving out date got set back a few months and in the meantime he managed to pull himself out of his depression on his own.

(Of course, we still broke up last month, but the two events were unrelated for the most part.)

I don't have any advice. Good luck. It's made me permanently wary of boys who play any video or computer games at all, although the games could just as easily be gambling, drugs, sex or alcohol, it's all the same demon in different shapes.

Lameness.

That's a shitty situation, kiddo. You aren't being ridiculous at all from the sound of it. I've been a video game junkie before, I've gone on long video game benders by myself or with friends. But I've also been in a love relationship with some wonderful women, and never have the two really mixed.

Love is a responsibility and a commitment, not just an emotion or a get-out-of-jail-free card. Video games or love? Hmm... if it's a tough choice for someone, then that is someone I would have no interest in being close to. Friends, fine. But I wouldn't expect a girl to stay with me if I treated her like an accessory to be put aside when I feel, especially if it's for something as pointless as video games. They're fun and interesting and rewarding sometimes, but whatever. They're fucking video games.

Well, I'll stop there. I was about to go ranting off incessantly and I probably would never come to a close, so I'll just stop.

Your man is fucked right now. If he doesn't recognize that soon and do the right thing, then he's not someone who will make you happy. That means you'd have to move on, and that ain't easy or fun.

Sorry hon. Love to ya. Good luck!

To be honest I think the best thing to do is tell him your concerns, I agree with your concerns, it seems to me that he should be giving you some more attention. I hope you get things sorted

First things first.

You need to sit your boy down and talk with him about this as soon as possible

It's obvious that he's ignoring you, and you need to tell him this. You need to find out the reason why.

He could be totally ignorant of how you feel ignored. Both of you aren't used to living with eachother. I'm sure that when you were living apart, he felt that playing videogames for 24 hours straight and ignoring other human beings was an acceptable way to spend time. Heck, when I was single, that's what I did too.

If that's true, you need to work out some ground rules, try and work out a schedule of videogame time and non-videogame time. That's what me and my significant other do.

Or, he could be freaking out about the stresses of living with someone and is avoiding dealing with it by retreating into videogames and being antisocial.

In that case, you need to let him know that it's not the end of the world to have doubts about things. Christ, you should have heard the long, melodramatic conversations I had with my g/f when we moved in together.

Or, and I hope this isn't true, he's a moron who's not ready for a serious relationship and is just taking you for granted. If you sit him down and say you're not satisfied sexually and emotionally, and he still doesn't care, then unfortunately you need to dump him.

You're a smart, beautiful woman and you should be with someone who realizes that, not someone who's more amused by videogames.

Good luck.

gee, you should talk to Eris; she went through a similar thing only recently...

Didn't read anybody elses post to this. But here is mine.

A) find a man, not a boy.
B) I am a man.

And a photographer. Artist. Student. Lover of brunettes. Get the hint. Oh, and I really like Dr. Pepper.

your reaction sounds normal to me. i think your man just needs a wake up call to get him out of his safe little routine.
do something to shock him???

That sucks. You definitely need to talk it out with him. Find out what he is thinking. Relationship counselling, maybe? I was guilty of that to a certain extent with my ex. A part of it is that I am very introverted. Dating was fun, exciting, a chance to escape from the household drudgery and the occasional night over was pure joy. Having someone around all of the time (and depending on me for transportation, paying bills if our joint account came up short, etc.) was a drain on me emotionally and after a few months I found myself withdrawing from her to try to recharge, regain my personal space, etc... Ultimately, neither one of us could change enough to work it out, but we're best friends now.

(btw, in Spot 1019's world, it would be a bus full of clowns from the circus on their way back to the hotel.)

He's definitely taking you for granted...ironically I've been spending a bit too much time with the computer myself. So I'm going to go in the other room and jump my gal now. I agree with most of the posters here, let him know exactly how you feel and hopefully he'll pay more attention to you. You're a supa gal!

Hi, I've never posted to your journal before...but I read it a lot and I think you're a fantastic person.

I had a relationship just like yours. My boy would rather play video games or play with his Legos than spend time with me. At first I thought he wasn't attracted to me anymore and I went through this "I hate myself" phase. But, then I finally got him to talk with me openly, and I found out that he was really depressed about some stuff that was going on in his life, and that is how it affected him. I would say that you need to have a talk with him, and make sure that he knows whatever he tells you will be ok...it might upset you, but you want him to be honest. Anyway, that is my 2 cents.

yeah, you guys need to talk, definitely, and seriously. he may just not be good at expressing himself about one thing or another and just be retreating into the computer womb tube. imagine that? a guy who is bad at communicating...