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AUGUST 15, 2012 @ 11:23 PM


Hello there SG land.

If you're a veteran of this place, or have at least been around for over what has most likely been 2 years, you might remember a time when I used to blog often and in depth. I used to really give a little piece of myself and my life in almost every blog. I gave you guys an idea of who I really was as a person and I always got really flattering messages and comments about how much people loved my blog and they felt like they really knew me and were connected to me because of it. Well, I've been very hesitant to put any emotions out here anymore. Not because of anything any member ever did, just because of events in my life and the kind of person I have become which is now very personal and withdrawn. I've learned to keep my life to myself and, to be honest, I tell very few people about what goes on with me. I'm not necessarily closed off; if I were to sit down and have a one-on-one conversation with any one of you I would be more than willing to share with you an answer to any question you had. The truth is I don't have time to do that on SG, and on top of that I feel kind of guilty writing about my own life here. Why should all of you care about my joys and sadness when I can't return the same empathy?
I'm not really sure what I wanted to gain with what I've just written. I suppose what I'd like is to be more open with this community on this blog again but usually when I do sit down to write what I'm feeling I end up getting it out and deleting it without posting. I hope I don't do that with this...
But regardless, for those of you who felt that connection to me, I would like you to know that even though I haven't been sharing I have been constantly striving to better myself in all the ways I can. It's been a struggle and the improvement a person can make with oneself will never ever be complete but perhaps a neverending hobby can keep life interesting.
I find myself being more bluntly honest with people, perhaps when it's not necessarily the nicest thing but I prefer not to adapt to a social norm I don't agree with. How can one better the world if they can't better themself? I think a general lack of honesty and a constant need to "beat around the bush" or "sugar coat things" is what is making today's population so neurotic.

However, that's not what I came here to write about. I came to be selfish and use this blog to jot down my thoughts and to hopefully help myself get past a problem I've been having. They say writing is therapeutic, right? So why not if nothing else has worked:
My current issue is one of commitment. I have been without a long lasting romantic relationship for over three years now. I've dated around a lot and I've met many fantastic people, both men and women, but I have not been able to make that commitment to staying with anyone for more than a couple months. Originally I was not bothered, I was playing the field, I was enjoying my single life and I was finding out what I really wanted in my life and in another person. Well, after all this I believe now that I may have found what I want. Alas, I have rejected it before due to my fear of giving up what I would call my "freedom". I've been reading up on the fear of commitment and I feel like I have a logical view of all this in my head but I rarely talk about it. I never set myself up to HAVE to commit. I feel like the less people I tell, the easier it is to escape when I get nervous. So hear it is. I'm putting all this out here now so all of you who read this knows and if I'm still doing this in a year or two years or even three then I'll still just be running scared. It's not an excuse anymore. The first step to fixing your problem is admitting you have a problem to begin with, right?
So here we go, fingers crossed for not fucking up. I appreciate you sticking through my inner monologue if you've made it this far.

Now that I feel that this weight has been lifted more off of my chest than the typical metaphorical shoulders, I can give you what you may have expected, as it's all I post lately: photos!

I've been drawing more:
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And then Comic Con came and went to stay with Venom and her met her super sweet pup who reminds me of a giant version of my Delphi:
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Unfortunately I don't have all my SDCC photos on my computer but I have enough to keep it interesting:
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zoom imagezoom imageTristyn
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And photos I've stolen from others:
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And then life went on and I did some shooting:
zoom imagezoom imagezoom image Found this photo of my grandma when she was young, probably about 1920's.
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zoom imagezoom imagezoom image Made a new friend at Chipotle. Haha

And then I started moving:
zoom imagezoom imagezoom image And probably the dumbest thing I've ever done.

Did some babysitting:
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Found some old stuff:
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Did a shoot for a friend: zoom image
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And then the lovely Sash's wedding:
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And then an amazing day with Antigone, Blackcentr, Venom, Radeo, and Lauren.

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And then I got tattooed. zoom imagezoom image
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And then I went to a polaroid exhibit featuring Radeo and Sawa.
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Which brings us to this morning:
zoom imagezoom imagezoom image A pillow I made a while back for Hume26
And my adorable niece, who just turned 5 on Sunday, wearing my heels.
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NOW. IMPORTANT NEWS.


IT'S SHARK WEEK.


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Some randoms:
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And this made me lol hardcore:
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And now for the modeling stuffs I said I'd been doing:
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And finally:

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Yup. I think that's it. And do you know why I don't blog often anymore? That took me about 3 hours to do...
I hope you enjoyed!
<3 Kemper

PS. And I'm finally getting my right shoulder cover-up started tomorrow! Can't wait!!!! For more immediate photos, follow me on instagram @kemperfidelis

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Tactical

Tactical

I'm lost
August 2009

AUG 15, 2012 11:33 PM

you are so incredibly sexy and awesome, its nice to see more in depth posts from you, working on yourself is always important, i'm not really good with being connected over the internet but it is always nice to hear what you are up to and your musings kiss

Your blogs do it every time, i read and have something to say then i see your pics and can't remember wtf i was going to say lol curse your gorgeousness

R3X

R3X

USA
April 2008

AUG 15, 2012 11:34 PM

I hope you keep at it, with the self-awareness and drawing. Blunt honesty will go a long way. It's amazing how quickly unscrupulous folk will disappear. It certainly made the quality of my life more enjoyable now that the riff-raff are in my rear view. Yes... RIFF RAFF.

Also...
Sweet sequin-ish brows, bro.
lulz @ Lt. Dancat
Ass N Titties FTW.

Kieve

Kieve

SUICIDEGIRL

Colombia

AUG 15, 2012 11:38 PM

Wow! This blog was amazing, I haven't read any of those blogs that you talk about but I would love to. I really love your work, and I think you're one of the most beautiful girls of the site. I love this blog btw. kiss

Maineville

Maineville

Corona, CA
February 2009

AUG 15, 2012 11:39 PM

Just because you don't blog about your life doesn't mean that you aren't growing as a person sometimes not hearing from you can show that your finding out who you are as a person and experiencing things at your own whim keep up the journey and when you do blog makes things more exciting cause you have a lot to share.

Lovely pics you are just extremely gorgeous and always looking forward to your return blog wink

eRock06

eRock06

Torrance, CA
August 2011

AUG 15, 2012 11:41 PM

I find you and your life interesting, that's why I follow you. You get to some awesome things with some awesome people. I don't blame you for withdrawing, especially if a blog takes 3 hours to do. That's a lot of time. None of us should "require" that of you as you don't require that of us. You're still awesome, with or without constant blog updates. I follow you on IG which is more of an "instant" view of what you're up to in life.

As for being more introverted, I can't blame you. Exposing yourself emotionally to a bunch of strangers is tough. Hell, it's tough doing that for family and friends. When it comes to change, I can only quote Ghandi: "Be the change you want to see in the world." What that means to you, I don't know. But it's a thought that I constantly keep in the back of my head as I try to figure out my way through this life.

Speaking of change and changing, I saw some friends that I grew up with at a memorial service today. I hadn't seen them in over 15 years! One of the girls told me that I haven't changed since we were kids and all I could think of was "I hope I have. I hope I've gotten better as a person, as a human being." Of course, I didn't say that, but then I felt kind of guilty for returning the sentiment. In looks, yes, she hasn't changed. In life, I hope she's grown and if we stay in contact, I'll get a chance to see the differences.

In the end, make the changes because you want to, not because they're required. If people like you, they'll like you no matter what. I know that my thoughts and opinions don't mean, much, but they're all I have, so I wish you the best of luck with you and yours!

Keep being you!

Kurosune

Kurosune

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

AUG 15, 2012 11:49 PM

This blog is BEYOND epic. Seriously, hunny, thanks for sharing so much of yourself with us. <3 It's a-okay. kiss And you look amazing in a lot of those pictures! When your hair was flipped over one of your eyes, it really dawned on me: You look like Jessica Rabbit. And SHE is a fucking babe, just like you! Hope all goes well, honey! Whatever changes you make, for better or for worse, will all in the end help you. No worries, hunny! Kisses! And it was great seeing you at Chloe's when Dwan was in town!

kiss

Fische

Fische

HOPEFUL

United Kingdom

AUG 15, 2012 11:55 PM

Lovely photos, and it's always refreshing when people on here share something of themselves. I get why people don't do it more. But it sounds like you know what's going on relationship-wise for you, and it sounds exciting!

mentalrage

mentalrage

United Kingdom
March 2006

AUG 16, 2012 12:00 AM

Love this blog and I have to say you're definitely not on your own when it comes to not wanting to commit to something if it involves giving up what you perceive as your "freedom".

I'm pretty much the opposite most of my blogs are all about broken thought and scattered emotions, maybe it's a form of therapy just writing it out a form of exorcism if you will. Then I sometimes feel embarassed at what at what I've written and judgements people will make since they don't really know me.

Love the photo's the usual mix of sexy, cute and funny always puts a smile on my face.smile

lamesauce_nox

lamesauce_nox

San Bernardino, CA
February 2008

AUG 16, 2012 12:01 AM

I enjoyed reading that smile I would hope no one would be so selfish to think you intentionally don't give a shit about the rest of us. And we read about you and your life because we're fans of YOU. kiss

Lothar27

Lothar27

Elizabethtown, KY
July 2012

AUG 16, 2012 12:06 AM

I've been attempting something similar myself with opening up in my blogs on here. I'm normally what I think of as a "private" person and having an outlet somewhere has been quite helpful to me, at least so far.

I'm basically doing it here because I don't know anyone personally so I don't think I can get myself into too much trouble. wink

I hope you find a way to work through what you need to do, whether it's on here or otherwise.

Ositobonbon

Ositobonbon

El Paso, TX
June 2012

AUG 16, 2012 12:11 AM

They say that before the snail makes love it must first find another snail. Keep it secret keep it safe.

furble

furble

United Kingdom
March 2011

AUG 16, 2012 12:14 AM

The good thing about this place is there's people here who are nice enough to care without expectations. And not just cos you're such a feast for the eyes, I'm no oil painting and people care about me.
So share when you can, feel the love, use it to fuel new growth.

bepps

bepps

Ontario, CA
April 2003

AUG 16, 2012 12:20 AM

Hell yea! Shark week!!! Also, what nox said. biggrin

Ceres

Ceres

SUICIDEGIRL

Canada

AUG 16, 2012 12:22 AM

you're such a stunning woman. I'm sorry you're going through some struggles. I hope it starts to get better soon! <3
love

ericwine

ericwine

Charlotte Hall, MD
January 2007

AUG 16, 2012 12:27 AM

Is Vader holding Lucas' head in that tattoo? lol
YOU look even more beautiful than before. Sooner or later you'll break some kind of record. biggrin love
I'm glad you're having fun, and hanging with awesome SGs. The picture of you and Bob made me say out loud, "the droids reunite!" wink
I do sometime miss your old blogs - they made me feel I knew you better than I knew anyone else around here, other than maybe Meow, and that was from friending her on Myspace (!) long before joining here. (You also commented back once in a while too! tongue ) I do understand where you're coming from about why you don't do them anymore, though I do care about your "joys and sadness" whether you can "return it" or not, and so, I suspect, do other people who follow you on here. kiss
Writing IS therapeutic (in fact, I thought one reason you wrote so candidly about yourself to begin with was to let things out before they became a problem, as much as to share the joys and successes). Though you mentioned a boyfriend fairly recently (I don't recall if it was here or your Facebook page), it sounds like you're single again, just because you're venting about it. Your fear of committment is something you need to work through - if you're still doing it in "two or three" years like you mentioned, you might consider counseling to help you work through it. On the other hand, maybe who you want is the person you (a) need more than your freedom and (b) lets you have your freedom, to still be you. (People sometimes forget (b) and the relationship fails.)
Your drawing is pretty good, like your photography. Remember, art is therapeutic too.

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