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Jeckyl The drug in me is you...

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NOVEMBER 15, 2012 @ 06:45 AM


Hello hello everybunny!!

I suppose it is now time for that long overdue update I promised.

Where to begin…

Well recently my sister had her traditional wedding.
This is a bit confusing because they're not technically married yet. In western culture, we'd say they’re engaged.
So let me try explain the process of African marriages to you.
Generally, the process of trying to get married can take up to a year. But, because my sister married a German and it costs a lot to fly his family down here, they condensed the procedure into 3 days, omitting a few of the normal traditions.

In African culture, when a man wants to marry a woman, he pays what we call "lobola", or "the bride price".
This is basically his way of thanking her parents for raising her.
It’s generally set at 12 cows. The value of each cow is determined by the quality of the woman he intends to marry.
So, some examples of things that would make a girl more expensive would be how well educated she is, if she comes from a good family, if she's well-brought up, and if she’s a virgin.
The virginity part is a big deal.
If she lost her virginity to the man she's marrying, he's made to pay "damages" for having sex out of wedlock.
Things that would make a girl cheaper would be if she has children, if she's uneducated or if she has a questionable reputation.
My parents didn't really charge my brother-in-law for my sister's worth because it'd be too expensive.
Another reason for paying lobola is to see how ready the man is financially for marriage. The reasoning behind this is that if he can't afford to pay lobola, he won't be able to afford supporting his new family.

So that's lobola, the first step.
The man's uncle’s come over to the woman's house, to meet her uncles and they start the negotiations.
Taking all the above mentioned factors into account, the agree on a price. Once this has been paid to the family, the couple is considered to be married.

The second step is that we call "ukhuhlabisa wabakhonyana".
Please, don’t try to pronounce that.shocked
It's basically a celebration welcoming the new groom into the bride's family.
Traditionally, a sheep is slaughtered and you invite the bride's entire extended family over to meet the new groom.
The groom's family guys blankets for all the elders of the bride's family and these are presented to them in a traditional ceremony.
Both families are supposed to wear their traditional gear.
Once the blankets have been given to the elders, the bride's father is presented with a coat and a hat (I've no idea why) and the bride's mother with something of their tradition.
Then the groom's family calls out the bride (who is supposed to remain unseen the entire day up until this point) and present her with their traditional wear as a way of showing their acceptance of her into their family.
After that there's yet another celebration welcoming the bride into the groom’s family where this entire process is repeated for the groom’s side, we skipped that.

And then FINALLY there’s the official marriage celebration.
Now we somehow managed to condense this entire process into 3 days, I've no idea how.confused
My favourite day by far was the "engagement party".
My sister wanted the best photographer so, naturally, we got the ever lovely Talamia.
The pictures came out so great!

This is our new family

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My new siblingsbiggrin

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And the happy couplelove

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Aren't they just adorabubble?blush


After the wedding, my sister and brother-in-law went to Cape Town for a week and our families went on a little holiday up north.
It was unbelievably hot!!!!

But I had a great time with my new siblings, whom I happen to love very dearly.

My new sister and I got these matching bracelets.

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We did a lot of hiking and saw so many beaituful places, it was mindblowing.
The natural world is such a beautiful places, it almost makes me want to cry.

This is Mapungubwe

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And, my favourite, Blyde River Canyon..

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I was so sad to see my new family go but I know I’ll be seeing a lot of them in the very many years to come.

While we're still on the love vibes, I'd like to give you this weeks serial killer feature:

Killer Couples!!


SPOILERS! (Click to view)

I hate cliché's so I’m not going to bore you with Bonnie and Clyde. That's such a yawnfest.

Here's my top 5 killer couples of all time.

1. Paul and Karla Bernardo
Because nothing says "I love you" like a fresh corpse.

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Story snipet:
Paul was very annoyed that Karla was not a virgin when he met her. It was, therefore, from his point of view, her responsibility to make it possible for Paul to take the virginity of Karla's pretty younger sister Tammy without her knowledge or consent. Once Karla accepted that logic, the rest was easy, even the idea of videotaping the whole thing seemed to make sense to her. After all, videotaping was a way to remember important events.

2. Fred and Rose West


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Frederick Walter Stephen West (29 September 1941[1] – 1 January 1995), was a British serial killer. Between 1967 and 1987, he alone, and later, he and his wife Rosemary, tortured, raped and murdered at least 11 young women and girls, many at the couple's homes. Rosemary West also murdered Fred's stepdaughter (his first wife's biological daughter) Charmaine, while he was serving a prison sentence for theft. The majority of the murders occurred between May 1973 and August 1979 at their home in 25 Cromwell Street, Gloucester.

The pair were finally apprehended and charged in 1994. Rose West was jailed for life, in November 1995, after having been found guilty on 10 counts of murder. Fred West was never convicted of any murders, however, as he had committed suicide while on remand 10 months earlier. Their house at Cromwell Street was demolished in 1996 and the space converted into a landscaped footpath, connecting the street to St. Michaels Square.


3. Michael and Suzan Bear

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This guy was hoooooooootttttlove
But mostly I admore the love between these two. Awfrown

James Clifford Carson (aka Michael Bear Carson) (born 1950) and Suzan Barnes Carson (born 1942) were serial killers reported to have been active in several countries and regions in the late 1970s and early 1980s - particularly, in the San Francisco Bay Area.

They were involved in the counter culture movement. Their crimes emerged from a shared missionary philosophy to exterminate individuals they believed to be "witches". The pair reportedly kept a list of targeted individuals including celebrities and political figures such as Johnny Carson and then-president Ronald Reagan.

4. Charles Srarkweather and Caril-Anne Fugate

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Granted Caril was young when this happened but her abandonment of Charlie makes me hate hermad

Story snipet:
In 1958, nineteen-year-old Charles Starkweather was desperate. Desperate to marry his jailbait girlfriend. Desperate to make some money for himself so he wouldn't be broke every day of his life. Desperate to get out of the Nebraska town where everyone had figured him for a loser.

He and Caril Fugate embarked on a murder spree that horrified the country. This was the country that had elected Eisenhower and Nixon for a second term in 1956 and where the FBI's J. Edgar Hoover was firmly entrenched as the national policeman. This was also a country that was undergoing unsettling cultural changes. Frightening and offensive symbols of rebellion emerged and thrived: Elvis Presley, James Dean and the whole rock 'n roll culture focused on a new generation that challenged the status quo of the sterile 1950's.

5. Mira Hinley and Ian Brady



I'm not really a fan of their MO but that tape of the screaming girl?
Legendary.In a bone-chilling kinda way.

The Moors murders were carried out by Ian Brady and Myra Hindley between July 1963 and October 1965, in and around what is now Greater Manchester, England. The victims were five children aged between 10 and 17—Pauline Reade, John Kilbride, Keith Bennett, Lesley Ann Downey and Edward Evans—at least four of whom were sexually assaulted. The murders are so named because two of the victims were discovered in graves dug on Saddleworth Moor, with a third grave also being discovered there in 1987, over 20 years after Brady and Hindley's trial in 1966. The body of a fourth victim, Keith Bennett, is also suspected to be buried there, but despite repeated searches it remains undiscovered.



At the beginning of my last blog, I left you all a piece of a puzzle.
I realize that some people thought I was telling you all that I’m crazy but I wasn't. O.o
Anyway, here's another piece...

Personality theories: The study of personality is based on the essential insight that all people are similar in some ways, yet different in others.For example, all people learn, yet people learn different things, in different ways, and to different extents. There have been many different definitions of personality proposed. Most contemporary psychologists though would agree on the following definition:
Personality is that pattern of characteristic thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that distinguishes one person from another and that persists over time and situations.



That's it for mow.
I love you all!!kiss

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HowlingWolf

HowlingWolf

Mexico
July 2011

NOV 23, 2012 06:31 PM

Happy birthday pretty baby!!! Hope you are doing well and enjoying life. Hugs and kisses to you.

ron4164

ron4164

Ponchatoula, LA
January 2007

NOV 23, 2012 08:37 PM

Happy birthday!!! smile

Toxic

Toxic

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

NOV 23, 2012 10:38 PM

Happy birthday!

Sugar_Serpent

Sugar_Serpent

United Kingdom
April 2012

NOV 24, 2012 12:24 AM

A traditional African marriage sounds fascinating! Can't believe I didn't already know about them, seeing as I'm South African - but thanks to your blog, I've learned something new today. biggrin

Lunar

Lunar

SUICIDEGIRL

South Africa

NOV 24, 2012 01:22 AM

Hope you had a good party xx

ToWriteLove

ToWriteLove

USA
November 2011

NOV 24, 2012 07:08 AM

Happy Late Birthday! I know we don't know each other, but you seem cool so figured I'd wish you one. ^_^

Arroia

Arroia

SUICIDEGIRL

South Africa

NOV 27, 2012 06:45 AM

Awesome blog, thank you for this little cultural insight. I've been living in SA for a few years now, but I still have a lot to learn. And they really are an adorable couple. smile

It was so lovely meeting you, I hope we get a chance to hang out again sometime in the future. Feel free to steal any pics you like. wink

Wolfman524

Wolfman524

USA
March 2012

NOV 27, 2012 11:20 AM

Thank you Miss Jeckyl...

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