So, if what I am writing about here doesn't connect with you, because you have never said or heard a racist joke, because you haven't accepted a stereotype, because you haven't dressed up or been at a party with racist costumes, or sat idly by, I guess I am not writing to you. But I have a hard time believing you haven't participated or enabled racism, sexism, or homophobia.

Ignorance is not a defense. The ability to be ignorant, to be unaware of the history and consequences of racial bigotry, and misogyny, to simply do as one pleases, is a quintessential element of privilege. The ability to disparage, to demonize, to ridicule, and to engage in racially hurtful practices from the comfort of one's segregated neighborhoods and racially homogeneous schools reflects both privilege and power. The ability to blame others for being oversensitive, for playing the race card, or for making much ado about nothing are privileges codified structurally and culturally.

It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn't share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear "I just want to be friends" and "you're like one of the guys" and "you're like a sister to me" just as often. But you'll never hear a woman complain that guys just don't appreciate a Nice Girl because we're taught it's our own fucking fault when we're rejected -we aren't pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren't sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn't wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we're "too tomboyish" or "too butch" or "too feminine", or we're "not their type", or we're otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.

But when we're not interested in someone, we're vilified. We're the bitch that led them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn't want to date them, the bitch who doesn't appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.

And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn't obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn't appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn't deserve my love or my pussy.

'Politically correct' is just a term assholes came up with so they can dismiss people who have the nerve to want to be respected. Demanding not to be stereotyped is not political correctness, it's a human right, and you are not some hero for refusing to respect people's right to be treated like humans.