That's a good, provocative statement. I started to say that I disagreed with it, but as I wrote my reply, I had to concede that you were right.
I might question its cynicism, suggesting that sex and love were being exploited like that, but you have to concede that women often dress in a way to arouse sexual attraction in other people and men often tell a girl anything, feigning commitment, to get her into bed.
One thing I would suggest though is that both sides ultimately want both sex and love; that the difference between them is the role that sex takes in the process.

That's a very true statement.

thats an interesting quote and i do think its true and it goes both ways!

Adults don't use each other. Sex is something they do for fun, or spirituality, or connection, or desire. Love is something they do because it happens, or because they try to make it happen. The "love" that you use for sex isn't love - it's lip service.

am I hopelessly naive to believe that if it can be used, it's not love? I think if you'd said affection there would be some truth in it, for some people - but definitely not all

I don't remember Sexus - I remember leaving Tropic of Cancer on the family coffee table when I was a teen, much to my mother's consternation I think I was only reading it because Orwell recommends it in one of his essays

ya know, that generally speaking, i think your statement of how men and women view sex is true, for better or worse.

are you crying from not having a car or feeling trapped?

ps i changed my settings, i'd be honored to be yr sg friend!

I think that statement about sex is true about 50% of the time. The other 50% of people really do have sex to transfer feelings that cant be put into words.......feelings that are on a higher plane.....that we can only share or express thru sex. Thats when it occasionally is awesome! I am older now and if I look back....lets say the last 100 times I had sex........50 was at that level.....the other 50 was like you said...for a certain purpose. I guess we just have to learn to enjoy when that pure unexplainable sex happens.
You will only feel "trapped" if thats the way you are thinking......go read The Secret and "untrap" your self. Get out of that apt and walk if you have to. Its getting quite chilly here too...but I love this weather. Good to see you post on this site again.

you would love my philosophy of sex and love class. sex, i think, is a very gendered experience.

and the sex in a relationship that is based in love, respect, and attraction is MINDBLOWING! There is nothing better... I have plenty of experiences to contrast with this statement, so I have some knowledge regarding both. Sex doesn't need love to get off, and if getting off is good enough, then good for you. But if you really want to be satisfied physically, emotionally, and spiritually, then be patient and wait, you will KNOW when the connection is real and not fabricated for conquest... in fact, there will be no doubt, and no better sex either...