I'm afraid to show my boyfriend my vagina.

I'm in a bit of a weird confidence lacking spot. Me and my boyfriend/bestfriend have been sexually active for about a year now, I've been naked in front of him, but I kind of cover myself a bit with my hands because I'm a little nervous about myself. Another thing is that if he asks me to bend over with my panties down, I freeze up and I'm automatically afraid to do it because I feel uncomfortable all of a sudden. It's not like there's anything wrong down there or anything, I'm just afraid of showing him. I don't know why it bothers me so much because he goes down on me all the time. I just want to let go about worrying so much but don't really know how. I've been trying but it's getting to the point where sometimes it gets in the way during sex. What's something I can do to just open up and not freak out so much?

Have you ever spent time looking at your own genitals? In a mirror?

you need to overcome it.

There is nothing wrong, like you said, he has been down there rootin' around and stuff. I think what you need to do is let down that wall of fear that you have built up and realize that your boyfriend/bestfriend actually digs you and you really have nothing to worry about.

easier said than done.

Perhaps even talk to him about it.

This.

btw, has this ever happened with anyone else or just your current boyfriend?

Haha all the time and I think it looks pretty good, but then when he asks me I just freeze.

And yeah... I have talked to him about it. I think I just need to push myself into it.

Yeah, that's definitely part of it. I need to stop worrying.

Why don't you start off slowly. Why don't you take a photograph of your vulva in private, then have the two of you look at it together, clothed, while describing the picture verbally to each other? Keep the picture in your hand, so you're controlling how and when he sees it. That could be a starting point for you to hopefully overcome your fear.

After you do that, and after you've expressed your concern to your boyfriend, ask him if he'd be willing for you to examine his genitals in a purely non-sexual, fully lighted environment. See then, if you can return the favor, so to speak, while he's looking at the picture you previously took, again in a non-sexual environment.

Take it slow, keep it light and fun, and communicate your feelings. I'm sure you'll be able to get past it.

I'm going to try this. Thank you very much for your help! Ill let you know how things go.

All good suggestions so far. Talking and honesty can fix almost anything. You can do it.

or just go into a webcam chat room and start exposing yourself to random guys.

That would work on me.

hahahahaha

Here....just show it to me and I'll explain to him what it looks like.

My ex was like that , she would cover herself. I can tell you where I was at with that... she's the one I love, and with that comes the desire and interest in everything that is you - each and every part of you, hiding or being insecure about any thing that makes you, is pointless. It does have to come from you and you do have to comfortable with who you are, every part of you.

That being said, you need to get comfortable with yourself as well, in order to move ahead with this.
Start small and silly, take pictures of yourself (feel free to delete), and as others suggested, take a mirror out and sit and get to know your body.When and if you are ready, send your BF a shot, just to get past that initial awkwardness, and trust me - he'll love it.

Women get a real short end of the stick, many are brought up being taught that it's dirty and slutty if you are comfortable with who you are, and that can be be a lot to overcome, but take your time, have fun with it and you will. It's just a body part and it one of the many things that make women sexy, beautiful and just all around awesome


and wow i just realized how old the post was .. oopsy

That's how I roll.

The female genitals are possibly the most beautiful thing in the world. You shouldn't be ashamed of how yours looks.

Very Cute.

I found this productive....

If he hasn't seen it, I am guessing he hasn't kissed it.. I recommend over coming it because you are missing some of the good parts..

you sound ernest in your desire and that is key. you have to want to break down this wall to have a hope of getting past it. everone's advice here, yes including Psyche's, sounds good to me. but i would save her suggestion till after you both overcome this barrier. good luck.

Way to stay classy, MDF.

I am from NJ.

yeah...but NORTH Jersey...not REAL Jersey.