Sex Slave

Has anyone ever had the feeling that maybe being submissive is what you are missing and being dominate is just not what you want?

No. It took me a long time of trying both to realize where my true passion lie.

Sometimes, yes.

hard to say unless you find a true submissive, or a true dominator to feel the extent of the possibilities

I've found that I am a true submissive and I'm so unhappy unless I can be dominated. My husband sees this as total disrespect of my feminine role as wife and partner. We are at an impasse. Any suggestions?

+100

Rock on!

Or Al will come over and do it for him.

ive always known i was much more submissive by nature, and i enjoy that role soooo much... but every once in awhile, i like to switch it up

its good giving and getting spankings

It's a deal!

Yes spankings and being told what to do! I like being told what to do to please. I really feel powerful and sexy knowing that what he tells me to do is really doing it for him.

mmmm exactly!!! i like being told... getting off on getting him or her off... and i adore when im not even asked.. when he just does... but spankings are still the hottest...

Yeah.

Give em a break too though, cause seriously, these days boys are being raised more and mooe as girls; and the natural male tendencies which males and females have to attract them to eachother (like, on the Id level) are discouraged and called bad.

+1

I think I'd pass out! I'd want to obey Al instead of my husband! She's just too gorgeous!

Being a sub can be difficult. I find it hard to locate a man who will throw me around the way I want. *sigh* My ex wouldn't do it at ALL, and the current boy isn't nearly rough enough with me.

Al is the only feminine woman I have ever thought about submitting to. The whole 'dead girl' thing...

oh no, I've said too much...

Ohh I completely understand. My husband treats me like a China doll. He thinks I'm fragile and will break. He won't even spank me hard enough to get a red mark. So frustrating!!!!!!

I hate to say this, but you can't really change his nature. Sure you might convince him to "act" the part, but chances are he wouldn't ever REALLY become a dominant. True subs and true doms are commanded by a fetish, most "normal" people like role-playing but don't NEED it to be sexually satisfied. I can sympathize, but our roles are reversed. I am dominant by nature but my hubby is not a sub. He tries to act the part sometimes...but it's almost worse than not trying cause it reminds me of what I've had in the past.
It could be that your hubby has a hang-up that he could get over with the right encouragement. Maybe if you tried explaining to him that what you need in the bedroom doesn't reflect on what you need the rest of the time? That you like the rough treatment in bed, but you don't want anything to change otherwise. Hopefully he can realize this and give you what you need. Good luck honey!

Eg him on, toss out comments, be a smart-ass earn that spanking. Don't totally piss him off but get him riled up he's more likely to get rough the way you like it if you push his buttons a little. I know I get rough when I think my lover "deserves it" in that special way.

I give my man nipple cripples to get into trouble.

Reading List for this guy:

Sade: Philosophy in the Bedroom
Anne Rice: The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, Beauties Punishment, Beauties Release...
Masoch: Venus in Furs
Reage: Story of O

If after all of that, he still doesn't get it. You're just gonna have to whoop his ass.

It really depends on how you define the roles of dom and sub. If, as you mention in another post, you want to be spanked hard enough to leave red marks, then I would see that as something I could do, because it gives you pleasure. But if you wanted to be the sort of sub whose subservient in the day-to-day relationship, then I could understand your husband's concern.

The way it works in my mind is that as long as the dom/sub roles are purely sexual, then I have no problem doing whatever turns my partner on. It's only when it spills out to the rest of life that I get really uneasy.

Personally I think being dominant and rough is just a way to play around. It doesn't mean you are asking to be disrespected all the time. You're asking for a flavor for your sex life. If that's what you want then doing that for you is intimate and respectful!

He can do the cuddling and pillow talk after he's abused you.