Do girls really like assholes?

Men feel emotions just as much as women do, but we tend to stifle them, just as you said, due to our upbringing. I know, as far as I'm concerned, there is a time and place for any type of emotion. Women just tend to show it more freely because it is acceptable in american society.

All that said, we still basically want those simple things. FUCK, EAT, SHIT, SLEEP, REPEAT.

-Cthulhu

Girls like me and im an asshole, so...

I think "as well as have a spine" is where a lot of good guys start going wrong. Its one thing to be a nice guy who can make decisions and occasionally lead, its another thing to the "Door mat" nice guy where all you are trying to do is please.

only a little. I was born a nice guy but then fell for too many girls when i was younger that walked all over me, i had to become an asshole just to protect myself. Also, most of us have a little more confidence then nice guys and i hear that the ladies are into that confidence thing.

This thread is not what I expected. It's what I dreaded.

Don't speak for all men.

Considering you and i have never had a personal conversation, i am quite sure you have no fucking clue what i want out of a relationship or out of a woman.

I'd like to have a conversation with a girl that actually understands what she is thinking and confident in her opinions. When i talk to a girl and look into her eyes and just see air and the back of the inside of her head, it's an instantaneous turn off. I don't care how good looking they are. You have to figure that if your with someone for looks alone, eventually you are going to age to the point where sex isn't plausible, and the only thing left is good conversation.

While you're life revolves around your penis and your asshole, mine doesn't. Theres this organ called a brain that i am quite fond of utilizing. I am an educated person that likes to get involved in educated conversations. They don't always have to be educated conversations, the random talk about what happened when you pooped conversation is perfectly fine with me, but for the most part i would like to be with a girl that has the drive and determination to constantly improve herself.

So here is what i want. I want a girl that challenges me intellectually. I want a girl that can think on her feet, i want a girl that shows compassion, that cares about other living things, spontaneity is a major attraction, i want a girl that recognizes her flaws, admits them and strives to change them and become a better person, i want a girl that can help me become a better person, i want a girl that isn't afraid to tell me her opinion, even if it doesn't agree with mine and on that same note i want a girl thats willing to discuss and compromise rather than ignore our differences, i want a girl that is willing to say "hey let's go do this" rather than me having to make the decisions all the time.

So while you have pretty much displayed that you know little to nothing about women by making broad generalizations and you have also displayed the fact that you think you can speak for all men by making broad generalizations. There is more to me than a mouth to eat, a dick to use to fuck, an asshole to shit and my sleeping patterns.

I am nice to the people that deserve me being nice to them, if you choose to be an asshole to me or my friends, i won't strike back with violence, i won't have words with you, i will blatantly ignore you as if you don't exist on my planet, because for what it's worth, you don't.

Abraham Maslow, he disagrees with you.

i wish there that more women like you were to be found.

You hang in there, ridenasty. Just keep being a nice guy and I'm sure you'll find the girl for you...ridenasty.

Sly.

not for me... especially when it's sticky from shit.
if it were clean, surreee, but when does that ever happen. the ass is better than the asshole to me.

That's a very mindful post. I likes it.

you know, i feel like i have to say a little something. I was a self-pitying "nice guy" who decided to eventually act like an asshole to get girls. It worked, to a point. but you're never going to be really happy until you realize that if someone doesn't like you for who you actually are, you're going to be playacting a role your whole life. one day you wake up hating the person you're laying next to and wondering how you got there in the first place. Since then I've just quit the acting and I am just myself. you find what's good and interesting about your life and what your passions are and share them with other people. If you're lucky you'll find a lady who actually likes some of the things you're passionate about.

it also doesn't hurt if you can make a girl laugh.

good luck, but it takes a real rock bottom to change behavior some times. just don't get discouraged and be yourselves ok?

guys, i allow people--women especially--to walk all over me, and never actually voice my thoughts or feelings except on an internet forum. why doesn't some hot chick magically notice me, even though i spend a lot of energy trying to not be noticed, and intuitively understand what a great guy i am? why don't they just come to me, why do i have to risk something by going out, meeting people, and getting to know them?

most of the 'assholes' that girls date aren't actually assholes. oh, there are certainly a few, but most of the time, the 'assholes' are just guys who know what they want and know how to ask for it. the only reason you think they're an asshole is, they stole your girl.