SEX - How many is too many?

How judgemental!

Well, #4 doesn't ask at what number they become bad people, it asks when you're happy with them as a sexual partner. For me it comes down to a question of compatability.

For example...

I'm 33. Thinking back on my life, I can imagine a world where I had some special powers. I can imagine a world where every time I've really, truly wanted to sleep with someone it had somehow happened. In that world, I might have slept with 2 dozen people. Maybe. The number might not even be that high.

And that's in this perfect fantasy world where there's no guilt and no consequences and no time restraints and everyone says yes all the time. In the real world, my number is much, much smaller (and I don't have a problem with that).

But then I can also look at someone and see that they've had sex with 50 (for instance, just pulling a number out of my ass) people by my age, and even assuming some genitally charmed life where everything has worked out perfectly for them, I have to wonder why they even wanted to sleep with all those people. I don't have to think they're bad people to realize that those high numbers indicate that they view sex much differently than I do and obviously want something very different from the act than I do. And that's a good enough reason for me to say I wouldn't be happy with it

1. 18

2. 10

3. 3

4. idc. as long as it's more than none.

Thank you for this honest and enlightening answer

My ex girlfriend was always a friend we'd hang out with. She'd have *higher* moral standards and would *never* be caught with someone like me. She would repeatedly exclaim that too. Wich bummed me really, because I kinda fancied her already. By some leap of faith we had a couple of really intimate talks wich led to us falling in love. She realized it doesn't come to numbers really but to *connection* (wich you also pointed out). But also that the number of partners and the view about sexuallity doesn't have to stand in the way of an honest relationship. I'd tease her about it too

So in my view, I somehow do, sometimes, get judged by #4. But it seems kind of shallow. Because there's WAY more to a person than the people they've been with...

I'm for them.

1) 25
2) I count 10... some may count it as more, some may count it as less... as sex before women can tend to have various definitions.
3) 11
4) i wont be their first... too much damn responsibility, at least 1

1. 22
2. 9
3. 6
4. I don't care, and I don't ask.

1.22
2.2
3.2
4.don't ask, doesn't really matter.

1. 30
2. 3
3. 15
4. One or more just so long as she isn't a bore.

(That just sounded too chauvinistic to have been said by me, but there you go).

Ah hell, who am I kidding anyway? I average 1 partner for every 5 years I've been "having sex". I guess I can't afford to even care about the last question. I should be happy just to be having any sex at all.