What the hell do you say to this...

SMS i recieved from a guy who i met off the internet a few days ago - "Sorry to seem weird. Just at work so just thinking. Was just wondering if it would be worth asking you out on a proper date. Something more romantic with class."

I told him i dont want a BF/Relationship or anything and he basically just asked me out on a "date" without directly asking.

Why is he even bothering? Is he trying to win me over by inviting me out or something?

Should i just lie and say i'm les to get rid of him...

Just be honest. Don't lie to him. Tell him you aren't interested again. He'll get the point.

Going on a date doens't mean you are gonna marry the guy, going on two or three dates doesn't make you an item. Let the guy buy you dinner or take you to a movie, but if you don't like him like that or are afraid he'll put the moves on you then tell him to go blow himself.

What do I say to this? I say the guy needs to grow a set of balls and ask you out on a date...like a man. What he did there was pussyfoot around the issue, being passive about it. He's saying "I'll ask you out on a date only after you confirm that you do, in fact, want to go out on a date".

I'd respect the guy if, after you said you weren't looking for anything, he went for it and took a chance anyway. There's honor in seeing something you want and giving it a shot regardless of the consequences. If he said "I know you said you weren't looking for a boyfriend...but I like you and I'd like to take you out". Even if your answer was "no thank you"...at least you could respect the guy.

What he did was the act of a 14 year old boy...and just shy of "If you like me...check this box".

I say...hold out for a guy with balls enough to ask you out properly.

*Edited because Pygmy is smarter than I am.

[Edited on Mar 14, 2006 by Cash]

email him "no"

Cash, per usual, is correct.

"SMS?"

Some Might Say?

Wait...I just realized......not only was his approach lame....but it was in the form of a TEXT MESSAGE!?!??!?!

Here's what you should do. Walk up to him, pull up your shirt and show him your tits. Give him a good, long look...then tell him:

"Real men get to touch them...little boys will have to settle for a peek"

I replied saying I’m not interested in going further with him or anyone for that matter and he hasn't replied hmmm

Yea it was a text message.. Some people call it SMS as well

is it a new zealand thing?
or am i just that unhip?

Haha well we call it txt, UK people call it SMS and i wasn't sure on what people from the USA call it.

Text messaging is cool...
Not to ask a girl out on a date though!
Can you say tool?!?

Its text messaging over here but SMS is technically correct. I work for a cell phone company so both apply just fine.

Wrong.

It is the way of the future!

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Er ... so, er ... "if you like me, check out my box" works with the ladies, then?

Yep and then he doesnt even have the balls to txt back and say well thats ok , we can just hang out some time or something.

yes... back on topic.
sorry.

he's a coward.



edited to add: i suppose i need one of them there cell phone doo-hickeys in order to sms someone and so on.

[Edited on Mar 13, 2006 by Meaney]

Well, if being a passive aggressive little twerp means girls will flash their boobs at me, I'm going to start sending out a lot of "Well I was just sitting around at work wondering about the possibility that I might contemplate the idea of maybe asking you out ..." text messages.

I use this for pretty much all of my communications needs now, myself.

But seriously--if you aren't at least open to the possibility of something developing, don't listen to this one.

Good call... I'd have replied back with either "No it's not worth asking" or just plain "No."

I wouldn't be bothered by his lack of courtesy to say that's OK we can just hang out, because it seems to me he already skipped a bunch of common courtesies.

~Trilo~

lame. be honest, but firm. just tell him you're not into it.
no use leading him on... it just wastes his time and yours. but don't lie.