"I've been following you and watching you for these last few months and i've decided i like you enough to give you the opportunity to take me out sometime. Now it doesnt have to be anywhere fancy but if you dont say yes i may stab you to death"
MiseryLovesCmpny said:
My recommendation, for what it's worth is to simply go up to her and say hello, strike up a brief conversation and pretend you care (this is simply to garner interest; Dr. Drew says that it turns women on when men listen, and I find this to be mostly true), then ask for the digits. Eye contact is very important, and you want to smile often. Unless your missing teeth. That would probably be bad.
When asking for the digits I'd go with what other people said: "Would you like to go out sometime?" "Would you like to grab a drink sometime?" "Could I give you a call sometime?" Notice that these are all fairly open ended questions, as I find it's better to give someone some breathing room. Also, you don't seem so desperate. Screaming "friday! What about friday?!" Can be a little too intense I think.
Step 2, you take her out, listen to her talk about all her scummy boyfriends, pretend you're better, then sleep with her. Step 3, sneak out of her apartment, never talk to her again.
I don't think I've asked anyone out. I have however, asked many people for their numbers (sometimes out of want for friendship, and sometimes out of want for friendship and banging). I've found that having a normal, human conversation with people gets the best results, rather than of any sort of prepackaged "date formula." Only once have I ever been turned down, and I was like 14 years old.
Really. Treating people like people works.
*edited to add: I just remembered, I have sort of asked someone out (sort of). My birthday was near, and while discussing it with this guy I knew, I told him, "Hey, you should take me out for a drink for my birthday." He was happy to oblige.
i had a "crush" on a girl at work and i got to know her a little then i took the: "wanna head to a bar after work" approch and it worked... next thing you know i was out with her
"I've been following you and watching you for these last few months and i've decided i like you enough to give you the opportunity to take me out sometime. Now it doesnt have to be anywhere fancy but if you dont say yes i may stab you to death"
I've used something like this only I tend to repeat, "It puts the lotion on the skin or it get the hose again."
MiseryLovesCmpny said:
My recommendation, for what it's worth is to simply go up to her and say hello, strike up a brief conversation and pretend you care (this is simply to garner interest; Dr. Drew says that it turns women on when men listen, and I find this to be mostly true), then ask for the digits. Eye contact is very important, and you want to smile often. Unless your missing teeth. That would probably be bad.
When asking for the digits I'd go with what other people said: "Would you like to go out sometime?" "Would you like to grab a drink sometime?" "Could I give you a call sometime?" Notice that these are all fairly open ended questions, as I find it's better to give someone some breathing room. Also, you don't seem so desperate. Screaming "friday! What about friday?!" Can be a little too intense I think.
Step 2, you take her out, listen to her talk about all her scummy boyfriends, pretend you're better, then sleep with her. Step 3, sneak out of her apartment, never talk to her again.
xxSAPPHiRE said:
Um... just say "do you wanna go out with me sometime?" ...
Yeah, maybe easy for you to say little Miss "I'm too shy..."
I lack the tenacity to be so bold...
I'm too shy to say something first to a sexy girl, however I would ask her out if we got to talking.
I personaly don't lack the tenacity to do this, but I have found it doesn't work unless, like you said, we have already been talking.
To be honest. I find that the best results I have are when I find someone I have an imediate connection to. If I'm wondering if they like me too then I'm already off to a bad start.
aheeb said:
Okay what is a good way to ask a stranger or a acquaintance out? just looking for new ideas and i searched the boards and nothing came up.
Don't use a line.
Talk to them and be honest. If you use a line most girls think that your just trying to get into their pants and brush you off. While if you actually talk to them, tell them that well whatever, you think they're pretty and interesting...they'll be more into going out or giving you their phone number.
"I've been following you and watching you for these last few months and i've decided i like you enough to give you the opportunity to take me out sometime. Now it doesnt have to be anywhere fancy but if you dont say yes i may stab you to death"
When meeting a brand new person, among a group of people:
1) Be sure the only available chair is next to you.
2) No other guys should be in proximity.
3) Engage in stimulating conversation.
4) Make sure she can't find her phone.
5) Offer to let her use your phone to call hers, now you have her number.
6) She calls her phone, now she has yours.
7) Leave shortly afterward.
8) Prior to leaving, say, "So, now you've got my number. Feel free to call."
And if she says, "And you've got mine too. " Then, you're in the clear, and you can then:
9) Call her.
Okay, so it wasn't exactly a strategy, but that happened to me once.
Rosscoe
I'm lost
March 2005
MAR 08, 2006 11:38 AM