on three different occasions i messed around with guys who (i didn't know at the time) had girlfriends. and, of course, when i'm chilling and having a good time with them and it's leading up to us fooling around, none of them ever had the balls to stop it and say they had a girlfriend. it never went as far as sex, thankfully, but each time i was pissed the next day when i found out the truth. granted, i knew i was not gonna have a relationship with any of them. i just wanted to have fun that night. but i still felt horrible cause i empathized with their girls. also, i felt decieved and used.
guys (and girls) can be dicks.
sidenote: never been in a relationship, so N/A for me.
I have had 3 marrried women make advances at me, and 1 of them i may have made out with. im not proud of it, but for some reason only married chicks like me. I guess im the nice guy they fall for while they are being neglected somehow? who knows.
I have been both the cheater and the one cheated on.
I've cheated in most of my relationships. When things go wrong and I can't handle them I make careless and cruel choices. I don't regret cheating for the most part which makes me feel like a heartless whore however I regret breaking one persons heart who I was actually in love with. I will never justify my actions and believe that the person who cheated on me and hurt me the most was part of the karma I earned for what I did to those people especially that one boy in particular.
I've been on all sides of cheating. I cheated on my b/f in high school with a previous b/f. Then he in turn cheated on his g/f after me with me. And I've had 2 b/f's cheat on me. It's funny that when they start cheating they start accusing you of cheating.
I wold never cheat on my b/f now and I know he wouldn't cheat on me. I just have no desire to have sex with other guys. But I do have the hots for a few ladies, and he's ok with that.
i've never cheated but then again i've never been in a relationship longer than a year and a half. if i get bored and start contemplating sex with other people i usually end the relationship.
its funny that some people think that marriages can be saved by cheating, with a prostitute for example. thats kind of the whole premise behind that show Hung in a way.
NEver been cheated on. Never cheated (never will either). I have come right up to the edge with someone who would have been cheating, but I waived it off. That one still feels like the one that got away.
I personally abide by the belief that humans are polyamorous, and were never meant to be monogamous. With that said, you shouldn't ever lead your partner on if you never intend to be monogamous. You should instead keep the relationship "open", or engage in a "poly" relationship with a discussed set of boundaries set. Back when I was hypersexual, I specifically chose to date a guy who was into cuckolding for this very reason--so that I would have the freedom to experiment with the hedonistic lifestyle I so desired.
Have I fucked other guys while I was in a serious relationship with somebody? Yes. Was it cheating? No. We had an agreement, and sort of lived by "the more the merrier" policy.
I think about 75% of my relationships I've kept open.
poeticdesires
Baltimore, MD
June 2005
FEB 19, 2006 10:08 PM