Sex after surgery.

I had to have a hysterectomy a few months ago, tumors at 33, yay. I always heard women say sex sucked after, like they couldn't orgasm. So not true. It's gotten better, not worse! The only thing is, he can't, you know, bump my cervix anymore. I don't have one! I really liked that dammit.
Anyone else? It's a little thing I didn't realise I'd miss. Tell you what I don't miss...PERIODS! YAHOO! Happy happy joy joy.

I'll tell you, after having to go seven weeks with no nookie....daaaamn was it good. Like having your virginity re-instated. Thankfully, Kevin doesn't mind the scar...he calls it 'landing lights'

Anyone else go thru this?

WOW. Cool. Good for j00.

My mother and grandmother both had hysterectomies at an early age. I can't help but feel there's one in my near future. I know I never ever want children so this isn't a terrible deal for me. I'm kind looking forward to it in a sick way.

My friend had a hysterectomy a few years ago and swears her sexy drive is worse, i.e. she can't get enough now.

Yup, me too. I really never wanted children. I'm the oldest of four, I've already raised three kids! So, it really wasn't a blow when the Doc said they couldn't save anything. Frankly, it was a relief to have it done. The tumors were making me miserable. As my freinds say "They took out the baby factory and put in a playground!"

I've faced so much resistance from doctors when it comes to not wanting children. I'm 28 and I've felt this way forever. I wanted an IUD and could not find a doctor willing to give me one because it might damage my future fertility. Unfortunately I cannot take birth control pills or any hormonal treatment. I wanted perhaps to get my tubes tied and they refused. It's insulting to be treated as a child. I want to take some control of my body and be responsible when it comes to not reproducing. I almost want a tumor at this point, which is sick and deranged and bings on a whole list of other problems. In short, I hate doctors.

awww.. I'd miss the cervix bump too but yay!!! no periods! no preggo scares!!

I actually find this to be a very uplifiting and happy thread. Thanks for sharing it. I'm not joking either.

THanks Fridge babe! That was the idea really. Blame my doctors and the nurses at the hospital. THey were all so intent on my being miserable because I'd never have kids, the sex would suck, yada yada yada...and it's just not like that! I was really happy about it. No more tumors, no more pain, No cancer(and that was the big worry)no kids, no periods and really amazing sex for the rest of my life!

Sign me up! I really think they try to make you unhappy about having a hysterectomy and that's just wrong. Like anything else, there's always a bright side! or in this case, a sex any frigging time of the month I want it side!

And no menopause when you're 50, right?

I wish! LOL They managed to salvage one ovary so I wouldn't have to go through menopause now. I still have menopause to look forward to. I did get a sneak preview after my surgery though. It took my lone, little ovary a few weeks to start working again so I had some lovely hot flashes! Not looking forward to years worth of those!

There's hope. I had a vasectomy at 30. The doc asked if I was sure . . and went right ahead with the procedure. Some are enlightened more than others, I guess.

Not really. Men have always been able to get vasectomies without nearly the amount of resistance women get asking for their tubes tied.

In all fairness I realize the procedure is less invasive in men. However, to be denied an IUD repeatedly is shocking to me. It appears many doctors would rather see young women come in for an abortion than give them proper birth control in the first place. I have had condoms break or come off before in a monogomous relationship and it terrifies me. I do not want to have to think about a possible abortion.

What kind of an oppressive town do you live in, hotcurry?

Los Angeles.

I definetly have to agree with the condom breaking it scares the living shit out of me. It happend once when i was with a girl and I nearly ahd a heart attack she didnt get pregnant but still ahhhhhhhhhh. I would like to get a vascetomy though because I have NO desire to have kids ever ( casue i dont thik i could morally or financully support one and id rather not have them grow up in tha kind of enviroment). I have however asked about a Vascetomy sevral times to around 5 differtn doctors and none of them would give me one csue im so young ,,what a friggin jip.

WTF? How is that possible? I thought LA was the Liberal superhaven of the USA!

Doctors saying no like that make me so mad. It reminds me of when my principal in a discussion of my future (lofty PhD goals, we didn't have a guidance counselor at the time) adds "but don't you want a family”…

The whole childbearing assumption drives me crazy! Its always “you are too young to know what you want” or “wait till the hormones kick in”. Also the fact that they make you go to a midwife here, what the fuck happened to gynecologist? It’s a stupid thing to get annoyed about but it annoys me. Parents in law pressuring and basically every woman you meet with the comments and the pressure because of this idiotic baby boom going on in this country. I hate it, kids are the worst part about my job and I wish they had to be kept in doors and out of public places.

Sure I may want a kid one day but what is wrong with preferring pets or having the money to buy cars first and pretty much every other material thing you can think of? I am only having kids if I can afford to chose the sex preferably as well as have someone else carry it for me and breast feed and a nanny etc etc. Why does that make me such an evil person? Fuck it.

Sorry for the rant.

A IUD if inserted correctly will never give you any problems short or long term. However you have to change it every couple of years.

It actually has less of a failure rate than SOME (not all) tubal ligation procedures long term and less complications.

No doctor (in the US at least) can refuse an elective procedure if it is indicated and the patient is at no/marginal risk, is at the age of consent (or above it ) and is mentally competent so go back to the doctor oyu have been to and tell'em you want the procedure anyway despite all the risks and that you understand what the risks are.

Where I work at the moment they have special consent forms that explain all the options etc. It might be the same in the US.


disclaimer: I am not medically qualified in the US and I give this advice with no gaurantee that you will not have problems as a result of or despite following it .

With regards to the hysterectomy I've head of loss of some of the intensity of sensation during sex within the actually vaginal vault. Is any of it true ?

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Well, I can and have been denied access to an IUD. Docotrs are probably banking on (and rightfully so) my laziness in fighting it. I'm not going to go through the hassel of a legal battle. But not being able to take hormones has turned me into a paranoid gal when dealing with sex.

I had a vasectomy three years ago, then got divorced. A couple of women I've dated have been quite negative about it (being vasectomised!). One of them to the point where i was investigating a reversal (£2000!!) I think it IS easier for us, my ex's mate was nearly 40 with 3 kids and she still had to jump through hoops to be sterilised.

[Edited on Dec 01, 2005 by solipsistic]

This may be a stupid question, but have you tried Planned Parenthood?