questions about open relationships...

I just went through this as well. I ended a 5 year relationship with someone who I still care for deeply. The breakup wasn't just about the lack of sex either, for me it was her inability to communicate with me that really did it.

I also tried to push her to get help, talk to someone, see a doctor, no dice. If she doesn't want to do it, she's not going to do it. I know how fucking frustrating it is being with someone who you love, who is not interested in expressing it physically (especially if you are as horny as I am). You have to weigh out what is more important, being with her, or sex - it seems as though they never regain interest. I contemplated cheating many times but could never do it, she's too good for that crap. You're in a little different position and it seems as though she is pretty liberated. However, I agree, it's probably a test on your faithfulness to her. Thing is we don't know her as well as you do... good luck!

sadly there is a second option to what might be happening...

My former roommate was a highly disturbed person who was loving careing and totally wonderful... till she got bored with the person she became very distantand would try to get a guy to leaver her so he would be the bad guy in her eyes... it is always possible that is what is happening and the she just is too chicken shit to break it off so she is tring to give you and out.

but she would have to have serious issues beyond a hurt libido

Whenever you bring a 3rd person in you are asking for drama. If you have problems now- this is just gonna fuck it up more. Some couples can handle it.. some can't. I would say if she is not there and not taking part in the sex then she is going to have feelings of jealousy. Why don't you (if you love the girlfriend) stay by her side and work through the rough patches? If you love her you do not need sex that badly- you should want sex with her that badly!

...just my two cents. Every couple (person) is different. Hope it all works out for you

actually, this is exactly the real situation Im in. I thin she just told me to see other people to make her feel better (somehow) But I dont feel right having sex with other people. you and I have more in common with that then you think