Being taught or teaching

Would you rather be in a relationship(or in a hook-up situation) with someone who can(and does) teach you a few things sexually, or would you rather do the instructing?

I have to say both situations have their appeal for me.

well I dunno shit, so I'd rather be taught

I'd rather be taught. I'm an eager student.

BINGO! I agree with Thistle 100%. It is also VERY important, me thinks, that the people having all the sex actually talk about what they like and are into with the other/others. It still seems like people are afraid to talk about sex with those they are having sex with.

I vote Yea on this matter, even though I always end up doing the teaching

I agree with both of you but I don't think that this is about not knowing what you are doing but rather being in a situation where either you or your partner has something new to teach the other, and communication would definitely be an essential part of this process. Student or teacher? Both appeal to me but it's been a while since I've been the student, and there is still so much to learn!

Um, karma, right? I just figure, if she doesn't know what she's doing, its better I just patiently explain it to her, and hope that that way I'll get the same thing back the next I time I'm fucking up; That way, when we stop sleeping together and move on, she'll know what she's doing and I'll have saved her next lover from more bad sex. Kind of makes you feel good inside, in an extraordinarily self-absorbed, shallow way .

Plus, sex is like anything else--people have talents and weaknesses; I've gotten great blow-jobs from women who then insisted upon doing that, "pull-your-dick-off" rub back and forth motion (as opposed to straight up and down) when they were on top of me. Or, I was born with CP, so putting the ol' pelvic thrust on paint-mixer-jack-hammer setting takes me a lot more energy than guys with "normal" muscle tone...which is why I put more effort into figuring the cunnlingus thing out...of coarse, the uretheral stricture that comes w/CP also makes it so that I take a lot longer to ejaculate...but there you go, strengths and weaknesses. The point is, if she can make me see God when she's on top of me but insist upon showing how great a job her dentist does when she goes down on me...well, maybe I should just avoid getting blow-jobs for a while.

[Edited on Nov 09, 2005 by deBreard]

Taught.. I think, Either would be ok I suppose...

I don't want to be with a complete novice, but in the ideal situation we're both complete pervs and can teach each other stuff

~Trilo~

When talking about likes and dislikes it's always an interesting twist when you introducing sex toys or kink into the conversation.

these things aren't mutually exclusive. if i found one or the other to be true I dont think the relationship would last long

um. ok never mind. ignore what i said up there, this is HOT

Well, I think that if one is an attentive lover, each person you are with teaches you their style, individual tastes falling into a myriad of variety as they do. That's part of the adventure of a new lover. And the same can be said of teaching someone about your own particular sexual style. If those two styles find away to mesh well, great times for all.

However, I think that this question is geared not toward so universal a notion of sexual mentoring... This is a smaller subset, that of sexual innovation, ideas that are somehow novel and foreign to one's repertoire thus far. In that vein, I am always curious to know about anything I have yet to try, but I SWOON at knowing that something I've shared with someone else was a first for them, and so special to their sexual well-being that - regardless of whether or not the relationship is lasting - they will always hold a fond memory and kind thought of the time that was spent together.

Whichever one that allows me to get the sexxxing.

well i like both!
but i like to teach more

Yep both ways here.... I like to know that the other person likes and dislikes.... ya know like if I am playing with his balls and he just isnt digging it then I would like him to tell me what he wanted me to do. The same is true for me.... if a guy is doing something I find un pleasing I want to tell him how to please me....not just sit there unsatisfied! lol

Communication is my penultimate priority in a relationship. Hierarchical roles of teacher and student should be flexible and traded intersparsedly in the relationship, or more serious roles like submissive and dominator/trix may be assumed by the couple.

then what is your ultimate priority?

Eternal love, man.

when she's inserting the blowfish into my ass, I'd like to think that she's done this before.