MfM threesome-How to?

My boyfriend and I have recently discussed having a threesome with another guy. He is comfortable with this, but states that he doesn't want to hookup with the guy, and that he just wants to be there/involved. So I'm going for a MfM...both guys are dominant, while I am the submissive one. I'm trying to figure out how to approach possible partners. It seems that many straight guys aren't so keen on the idea of a threesome with another guy involved, but if both guys are only doing something with me, there should be no problem, right? Many guys that I would want involved are not exactly homophobes, but they aren't super gay friendly either...which makes me think that they would feel insecure about being naked/having sex with me in the presence of another man. (My BF is comfortable, but potential third person might not be as much.)

I'm wondering if anyone here would know how to approach someone (a friend - not a stranger), someone that I know is sexually attracted to me, to be involved in group sex with another guy, with the understanding of no sexual contact between the two men...? Has anyone had a similar experience? Is there any way to approach someone without making it seem like I am asking them to participate in homosexual activities (which I'm totally cool with, but many straight guys are not)?
Also, what positions/simultaneous acts work best in this situation to give both males attention?

[Edited on Oct 22, 2005 by Xandra]

Guys are odd creatures.. I was asked half assedly once to be Involved in something like that. But turned the idea down dispite finding her very attractive.. and seeing her bf as being potentially attractive.. But he wasn't someone I'd want to see naked and figured it might be more of a turn off.

so in the end it's going to come down to what the guy thinks of your bf... and how much shareing is going to go on...

Is it going to be top and bottom, is it going to be back and front, one at a time... those are all factors that the boys have to figure out. in the End though the boy has to not be turned off by your bf.

I dunno if I was rambling too much by meh.

Edit
if you have a boy in mind like you say.. just ask him... by yourself without your bf... and tell him what is what.. and then let them discuss things for a day or so...it'll either turn them both on or one of them will end up being against it.

[Edited on Oct 22, 2005 by Kaziklu]

Best way to do this? Find someone on Craigslist. That way you can avoid any sort of awkward questioning with friends/acquantances.

The same way that oh so many relationships begin... truckloads of alcohol.

yeah...if youve already got a idea for the guy....just talk to him alone...that way theres no pressure.

I always find it romantic if at the start of the night the men call their holes. If there is a disgreement in which both male suiters call dibs on the same hole they should ro sham bo for it.

Oh my god, that's just hot!!

I'm in a similar predicament. I think we would both actually prefer another girl, but either sex is OK. We are trying to figure out how to approach someone, too.

i think you should maybe find a male that is bi and get to know them...that way no one will be unconfortable

That was pretty fucking funny.

I don't know this bo sham bo game... I'll grab subrosa and you can teach it to me...

(I can't even in good concious say something like that without a disclaimer.. I'm a sad pathetic excuse for a male.. why did I have to be male.. grrrr)

The only time I've been in something approaching a threesome it involved myself and another guy focusing on making a girl feel as much pleasure as possible in a limited amount of time. By all accounts it worked out very well, and we avoided entirely that whole 'Guys touching' problem.

Ro sham bo---
--- now you know

Just the same as the old game Rock, Paper, Scissors. Two to four people start with their hands in a fist, standing in a circle. Then, at the same time, count to three, Ro, Sham, Bo. On three they hold out their hands in a certain way. Either in Rock (a fist), Paper (flat hand), or Scissors (two fingers making the peace sign). Rock beats scissors, scissors beat paper, and paper beats rock.

I figured..... I was being silly.. I've been bombasted today for being way to proper... it was a poor attempt

You're kidding right?

We all know that the proper way to dual it out is lights out with massive erections wrapped in glow-in-the-dark condoms, Star Wars-style.

I sense something. A presence I've not felt since...

Does cleavage count?

[Edited on Oct 23, 2005 by Jeff_Fries]

The wobbily H and the eifel tower are both classic MFM positions.

R.I.P. John Ritter.

The alcohol seems like a method that may work I'd rather it be a friend.. and I have a few people in mind. I'm just tno sure how to ask. Obviously, in private...but....

How'd I get pulled into this? Not that I'd MIND getting pulled into hotcurry...

Per say.

This will end badly. Don't do it.

every body know you.. and you have a reputation and it was an easy enough name to be playful but obviously not serious.

Fair enough.

The name you are looking for is FreakPirate. FreakPirate.

This isn't a porn site, so I hope I can list it. If not, just delete the link.

Check out LoveVoodoo.


It is a community of swingers, polyamorous, straight, bisexual, gay, etc people on there - mostly looking to meet people.
I know the owners of the site and they are really nice.
You might meet some single guy looking for the same think you two are.
Good luck.