why should i feel guilty?

Note to self... never ask anyone who has a terrible body image and a loads of prejudices and misconceptions about nude art and photography what to do when you're in a bit of a personal moral quandary about these very things. Ironic, considering all of the sex this very person has had. How can she be so repulsed by the human body but still have been drawn into that loser's bed/car/couch/etc for so long? Weird...

Anyway...

The issue of late has been my sexuality, what it means to me, how it factors into my modeling, and coming to terms with everything. Just a few minutes ago, i was feeling guilty about the fact that i want to see this girl i know naked, and i very likely will never get that opportunity, due to recent developments. Why should i feel guilty about that, seriously? I'm a man, after all. Isn't that part of my wiring? The aforementioned friend with the extremely negative preconcieved notions said that it has to do with my morals or something. If so, then what does that mean for me as a model? Or as a photographer? Or for others in the same positions?

Is the implication that for one to be moral, they should be asexual? That there should be no draw toward the opposite sex (or the same if that's your thing) or the sight of an individual you're attracted to? Doesn't that go against nature?

So i'm all kinds of conflicted now. I feel guilty about being disappointed that i'm not getting something that's a completely natural thing for me to want. That's like feeling guilty about eating when you're hungry. And in the end it just makes me feel all kinds of stupid, because at my age i shouldn't even be dealing with a guilt issue like this.

Comments? Suggestions?

Yeah. Screw professionalism. You're a human before you're a model photographer. Just wanting to see someone naked doesn't mean you're being unprofessional or amoral.

if you want to see someone naked thats fine.
Acting on that desire inside a work environment isnt...

So unless you start hitting on models theres no issue


[Edited on Aug 23, 2005 by Lior]

Feel guilty for wanting to see someone naked? Never. Bringing it up on said persons wedding night or in front of their current lover, maybe. I don't think one should feel guilty for wanting to see another peer naked. People tend to misuse words like moral and natural. Moral is all in the mind of the beholder; what is moral for some is immoral for others. If you brought it up to her that you wanted to see her naked and got a bad response, that just means she is not interested in you seeing her naked. What she said in response could have simpe been because she was uncomfortable.

Others who like to cast moral aspersions are probably not worth much thought.

We were talking about me seeing someone else.

Dude... I wanna see everyone naked.


Yes, even MisterSatan.

i want to see everyone naked. all the time.

you're thinking about it too much.
you're gonna get an ulcer if you don't be careful.

Have you been outside recently!? There are some people out there I'd rather gouge my eyes out than see naked.

You don't even have to leave the house. Just turn on the teevee. Karl Rove? I see him naked, there goes my capacity for erection for the rest of my life.

Ok, I thought you were saying you wanted to see her naked. Gotcha, then disregard the last few sentences.

Thought crimes!

Is this person you want to see naked going to be in a photo shoot with you? I think if thats the case then be professional about it....otherwise, so what if you want to see a hottie naked!! That's human nature, and nothing to feel guilty about.