Staying with your cheat?

I try not to cheat, but sometimes it's hard ( no pun intended). For me, seeing the cheat reminds me of what a loathsome shit I can be. I prefer nuking my bridges over burning them.

This is it exactly... It sucked and I wish I had been mature enough and not-fucked-up enough to have handled it differently, or realized that it was going to suck, but I wasn't, so it was. Shit.

I'm currently with the one I left my last boyfriend for. We weren't doing much by way of cheating, pretty much just a lot of snuggling, but emotionally it might as well have been cheating.

The overlap between the two relationships was a year ago this month. I recently realised that the idea of even looking at other boys with the serious consideration of being with them had stopped for me. Yay monogamy! That feeling never came with the ex in this situation, nor with any of my other exes, for that matter. But then, I never pretended that wasn't the case, either.

This is it exactly... It sucked and I wish I had been mature enough and not-fucked-up enough to have handled it differently, or realized that it was going to suck, but I wasn't, so it was. Shit.

1, no
2, ?
3, ?

NEVER been the other woman . . . but been cheated on by almost every man I ever cared about. I've always wondered if redemption and remorse was REAL or just a way for them to gain forgiveness.


[Edited on Aug 25, 2005 by hostileintent]

No way I would ever cheat on someone.. nor would I stay with someone who cheated on me.

Dated someone while travelling who neglected to tell me (for the first three weeks) that he had a gf of three years back home. I was horrified to have been the other woman without even knowing it but i was in love...horrible, I know. She broke up with him, and I moved across the country to be with him, and here we are over three years later.

Since I'm here in public and she's never going to see this, I'll be honest. It's real, in my case. I don't think I deserve forgiveness. I don't think she should ever need to talk to me again. I want her to, I want her respect, but I can't ask for it. And it's not pride, it's that I did something that betrayed all the many years of trust she gave me, and I don't deserve forgiveness.

I've never cheated in any way shape or form. I have been cheated on however by two or three girlfriends. If anything, it's made my morals all that much stronger, I'd never put someone through that, and now, when entering a relationship, I make it very clear that communication is key, and if at some point they feel like cheating, respect me enough at least to break up with me first, then do whatever you like. I'd much rather get dumped then be cheated on.

Ohhh, the Cheat is not dead....I'm so glad the Cheat is not dead...

StrongSad, I didn't know you had rhythm!

Haha. This is funny. It's kind of like listening to my pretentious fuck of a friend who stopped talking to me because I got a divorce and she couldn't understand my decision. She said she'd never get a divorce- she'd do whatever it took to make her marriage work. She got married and divorced within three years of writing me off as a friend. You can't know what you will or won't do until you're there.

It hurts to be cheated on! I found out that in a 10 year relationship that it went on for 7-8 of them. PAIN!!!! I still ache from it, but I'm over it now.

I owned an adult entertainment business and never cheated once, everything was done mutually, at least I thought it was.

I have never actually cheated...but I have always believed in this rule of people being able to change.

just a thought,

maybe when someone confesses to being a cheater, you should casually say, "oh thats ok, everybody cheats SOMEtimes".

the reaction and yelling might just be worth it. when they ask you who youve cheated with, respond, "nobody, yet."

yup, that would be healthy.