loosbrew said:
I always ask if it happened, and if it didnt, my second question is, "well what do I need to do?"

im not afraid to admit that I dont always know what she wants.

this is what i like to hear from guys. a positive attitude goes a long way. thumbs up, man.

you want a thumb up where?

capitalistfig

Los Angeles, CA

November 2004

AUG 19, 2005 08:29 AM

My ex and I worked out a system. We'd fuck. She'd come. I'd be on the cusp. She'd inform me it now hurts. I say "it's okay." And she'd smile, and I roll over and go to bed.

Man the sex was so hot.

In her defense, in the beginning it was fun and really good. But in 6 months she led the charge of taking care of me. Thoough, I could probably count on my fingers how many times I finished at her behest.

cop_n_blow

USA

July 2004

AUG 19, 2005 08:37 AM

hotcurry said:
Granted it is situational, when you were 14 you didn't have job stress, three jack and cokes in your system or someplace to be in the morning.

hey, pimpin at 14 ain't easy.

Dagny2

St. John's, NL

January 2005

AUG 19, 2005 09:20 AM

I really like making him finish. He's very attentive and we're really communicative about what we want, and he always does such a good job on me, that the first thing I want to do when I finish is to do the same for him. If he doesn't get off, even though he obviously has enjoyed it all along, I do feel bad.

An ex of mine put all the focus of sex on him finishing, so I figured (up until I had a normal, caring partner) that that was the important thing. I still kind of have trouble digesting my needs and preferences being important to someone else. Especially because he is so caring, I want him to enjoy himself as much as possible.

So.. maybe even if he doesn't "need" to finish, it's my preference that he does, if at all possible.

[Edited on Aug 19, 2005 by Dagny]

Myra

SUICIDEGIRL

Germany

AUG 19, 2005 10:02 AM

capitalistfig said:
My ex and I worked out a system. We'd fuck. She'd come. I'd be on the cusp. She'd inform me it now hurts. I say "it's okay." And she'd smile, and I roll over and go to bed.

Man the sex was so hot.

In her defense, in the beginning it was fun and really good. But in 6 months she led the charge of taking care of me. Thoough, I could probably count on my fingers how many times I finished at her behest.

Whoa