does he "need" to finish?

a curiosity for the more active public. mainly meant for the girls, but you guys can join in too.

does he need to finsih? I sometimes don't. Its nothing personal or anything but, its just one of those things that isn't that important to me. I am so much more concerned with the other party, trying to make it a wonderful experience for her. I love four play and intercourse equally, and it feels amazing to me, but sometimes I just dont get there! so how important is it? do you girls get like us guys sometimes and feel inadequate? Someone once told me that, and it bothered me, cause it wasnt that at all. it just doesnt work that way for me sometimes.

thoughts?

another hang up I have...

my personal situation-
if it's anything BUT intercourse (oral sex, handjob, whatever) and I don't finish at least SOMETIME, I am not a happy camper.
If it's intercourse, generally I don't care or not if I finish.
but I always want her to finish.

not sure why, that's just the way it's always been

Its the milk without the cookies, the peanut-butter without the jelly, the peaches without the cream(no pun intended), the Tango without the Cash. You cant have one without the other.

I don't always reach orgasm during sex either. I'm relieved to know I'm not the only one. I always want to come, but yeah, sometimes it just doesn't happen. As long as I've made her happy, I'm usually cool with it and don't necessarily need to orgasm. Well...not immediately.

Just like Agent Smith said .... "It's the purpose that drives us ....."

I need to finish... makes me happy

i too am really more concerned with her finishing, if i dont finish every time, it's not as big a deal to me. it REALLY bothered my ex though. i think the guys she was with before me were all minutemen or something. if i didnt finish every time, she would get really sketchy and start to talk about how unattractive she must be and such...

[Edited on Aug 18, 2005 by scott]

I think you're trying to impress chicks. It's fucking mission critical, man.

[Edited on Aug 17, 2005 by FridgeMagnet]

meh..I rarely finish. She never complains.

well, again this was more for the ladies. I know how lots of guys feel. Doent mean I should feel a certain way, I'm just curious how important it is to the other party.

i agree. it's mandatory.

if you don't, and you don't explain it properly, it can make a woman feel like it's something wrong with her. i've had that happen to me. the truth was, it was a lot to do with her. sorry.

i always finish. it's just one more way of saying, 'look what you do to me baby'

i of course put all due thought into her cookies and coffee.

right....

ladies?

what a goofball.

I don't care if it takes all god damned nite, I will finish or I will not be able to walk in the morning. I try to make sure she gets her rocks off, but in the end what the fuck do I care. It's all about me.

it was the sounds she was making

eck

i just couldnt get mr. happy to give up his special sauce.

apparently a bunch of these guys do

no, no..

they're just concerned about, ya know, "her pleasure" and all. that's all they think about and stuff. yup.

[Edited on Aug 17, 2005 by goofball]

Has Mortal Kombat taught you nothing?

heh. maybe.

but i am still curious about a lady's answer. if the guy (con or not) doesn't want to experience the perfect package of pleasure, does it bother the woman's self-image or anything of that nature? wanna know.

I love the lack of ladies in this thread.

I like for him to finish. I suppose because we girls think it's so super easy for men. Like if they could master jerking off to completion from the Sears Catalog when they were 14, why can't being in my pussy make them cum?

Granted it is situational, when you were 14 you didn't have job stress, three jack and cokes in your system or someplace to be in the morning. Sometimes your mind and body aren't in the game. I try to take these things into account. But as strongly as you feel that you must provide an orgasm for the girl, I feel that I must provide an orgasm for you. It's difficult to believe the act is completely satisfying if you do not achieve one.

Now that is sacrifice...

thank you for your insight. I guess its the lack of partners i have in total. One spanned a good 11 years. Maybei should rephrase what i meant to say, once i do get to that level of comfortability, then it doesnt stop. I can time it just right etc. I guess its just the first few times for me. i agree with it being a two sided thing, I feel the same way when the girl doent finish, but sometimes its not about that, sometimes its about the other person.

Interesting question, bravely asked. Certain males (me) can go for long, long, long, and often discern that the woman just wants to be done ... so we finish, or seem to. This might be the flip side of women "faking orgasm," I dunno.

that's the impression i got from the women i've been with. thanks for your input.


me



ps-

as you get older your penis is less sensitive. this is because of sexual experience and jacking off with what Dan Savage calls "an iron grip" or something like that. i could go off all over a JC Penny swimsuit collection when I was 14 because each touch was like an electric shock. know it takes some work to get there. and a knife blade, i guess.

[Edited on Aug 17, 2005 by goofball]

[Edited on Aug 17, 2005 by goofball]