The Heartbreak Aftermath

Don't drink too much. I have friends who became alcoholics in this way (losing someone they loved and drinking themselves into oblivion). If you can manage it don't drink at all.

DO try something new that you didn't have time for when you were with them, and DO throw yourself into something positive. Volunteer somewhere, get an EXTREMELY part time job doing something you like, create something beautiful, spend more time with family, find your cause (because everyone believes in something) and do absolutely all you can to help it.

or do what I do...travel. Go some place you've never been and explore.

Whiskey.

Yes, I highly recommend Bushmill's. However, don't pass out. I almost pulled a Hendrix the other night.

seriously. cling to any little thing that pissed you off while you were together, think how much its repetition would get under your skin and how glad you are not to be with such a gross/weird/arrogant/whatever idiot any longer
i'm beginning to be slightly repulsed by the thought of my recent ex
WOOHOO

lacunainc

but seriously though...
find new hobbies, hang out with friends, make new friends, take some time for yourself to do things you enjoy or weren't able to do when you were with them, do things by yourself and finally, rebound and find someone new.

listen to girly music. cry. and paint.

This happened to me way back in December, and I recommed the following, since they helped me cope:

• Drink


• Smoke


• Cry


• SPEND LOTS OF TIME WITH YOU FRIENDS AND FAMILY


• Buy a gym membership and pound the shit out of the cross-country machine


• Play Solitare for Windows Vegas Style for hours at a time


• Listen to music *all the time* (bonus points if it was a band you've always liked, and he hated)


• Shop


• Blow all your money on plane tickets to take a three week vacation to go visit your best friend


• One word: anti-depressants


• Therapy


• Pick up a million and a half shifts at work.. it makes you feel better, gets your mind off things, and you earn lots of $$$


• Have sex with his best friend


• Say mean things about him outloud, even if your the only one who can hear you (ie: "He's a bipolar drama queen just waiting to come out of the closet."

They all helped make me feel slightly better. I still struggle though, sometimes I still cry when I think about *him*.... love sucks, but we should all be thankful we've experienced it

If you need someone to talk to though... yo I'm here baby

[Edited on Aug 12, 2005 by Kateness]

Once you're prepared to take any of the advice people are offering here, you've already passed the worst of it.

Otherwise, do whatever the fuck you want. That's not dismissive - that's what you should do! Create situations that are obligation free, and go kinda crazy. Yay!