The Heartbreak Aftermath

So what do you guys do after someone you love breaks up with you? What do you do to pass time or get your mind off of it? I need suggestions.

drink drink drink.... find someone to fuck

Ok, that didn't work... sorry, without the advice of Stephen Heintz of Acid Zen Wonder Paint I am NOTHING.

Go here.

I know you're a girl so the whole wiener thing doesn't work, but I'm sure you could work something out.

[Edited on Aug 11, 2005 by sickmachine]

I talk to my friends...I drink...I spend time alone wrapped a duvet with his cologne between my breasts and cry...I remember that there are other people out there...I play our music over and over and try to make myself hate it...

I suffer...

And then I move on. This is what I realised after my relationship with someone ended, then started again years later, and then ended once more (and maybe its really cheesy...but somehow it manages to make me smile):


1 second of pure love

is worth

thousands and thousands of seconds of not having it...or waiting for it...

or losing it

that one second duration of a kiss (even tear-tasting)....

is worth a year of tears

it amazes me...

because when you are in it

in that year of tears

you don't always remember the kiss



but when the day comes when you are out of it



you take that kiss



and it is immortal and everlasting and perfect



it makes me so happy

its always worth it



it takes your breath away



[Edited on Aug 12, 2005 by BeckyJane]

I'm going through this now. I go to class, go to work, and do basically nothing else. Basically I'm just kind of numb to everything.

That's not really helpful.

I have been spending a lot of time at Barnes & Noble, drinking Starbucks and reading magazines. So, you know, I guess I'm catching up on current affairs.

Whatever you do, Don't diliberaitly put on your songs or sad break up songs.... Don't get drunk without hiding any phones from yourself or you will be doomed to drunkenly call him making matters worse.... and Don't take any time out right now to go through the box full of every last momento and card he's ever given you....

Do Go rent funny movies that you can't help but laugh at..... Do demand your friends finish an entire container of your favorite ice-cream with you..... and Do put on that one skirt that makes you feel hotter then all the rest even when you have nowhere to go.....

[Edited on Aug 11, 2005 by Britney]

I threw myself into my job (which ironically was a big part of why we broke up). I hid everything that reminded me of him, except a few choice items, which actually I stashed just last week. I remind myself of the problems when I start to miss him and want him back. I talk to him occasionally (as a friend). I bitch and whine to my friends how I'll never find another guy like him, which inevitably leads to them trying to get me a date with their best friend's brother who is just awesome or their cousin's friend's cousin who has one stupid little thing in common with me.

OK, the point is: throw yourself into something. I chose work 'cause hey it's money and it takes my mind off it.

Go crazy stalker style and move into their attic without their knowing. Drill holes in the ceiling to watch them through, and then late at night while they sleep start going "woooooooooooooo..." and rattling stuff so they think they have a ghost.

I havent found what makes you get over it yet, because Im still struggling myself. The one thing I HAVE found out though...just dont stop moving. Keep doing stuff.

Personally, since I dont do it a terribly lot, I purposefully went out and got pretty smashed, just because I never did when I was with her.

And usually Id say find somebody else to occupy your time romantically, but I realize how hard it can be to find somebody to fill that void thats left, so instead just keep yourself open and let things happen.

take a night drive around the metro area and back.... it's a waste of gas, but I love my car and I like open stretches of hwy or watch a movie.

[Edited on Aug 12, 2005 by gambitnuitamment]

Spend time with friends and family - as much as possible. They love you and they'll know your need and they'll get to see you more often than they did when you were with someone.

If you'd like other suggestions, please contact me outside of SG.

begin to dislike them severely
makes you NOT miss them




(or laugh. . .a lot. . .I sure hope nobody steals this thread title for a band name )

You know, there's always...



I mean, I'm just sayin'...

Well, even though it just happened last night, I took the advice you guys put out there and kept myself busy and whatnot. Trying to keep myself out of the house. I also kept telling myself I didn't need them. Oh and it was great seeing that guy at the bookstore Anyway, I can't thank you guys enough for taking the time to suggest things. I felt much better after I read some of the posts here, knowing I'm not the only one whos felt this way. Thank you.

I find that works better than anything else,

the same thing just happened to me on my birthday last week and I think my best remedy was drinking beer and hanging out with friends, writing a lot and basically facing it when necessary but overall just trying to feel better. If you want to commiserate you can message me. xo
feel better

Jack daniels if your friend. Never forget that. He's always a good guy.

friends, music, hobbies, books, running, swimming.

Wallow in self pity. Drink. Smoke. Complain.

Do so for anywhere between 2 weeks and 4 years, then move on.

Infact read prozac nation. You'll see that your lifes a million times better than Wurtzel and you'll feel better. Find a new more exciting boyfriend, OR girlfriend that way you can tell him he was so rubbish in bed he turned you lesbian

[Edited on Aug 12, 2005 by starscomedown]