Stood up, whats up?

To begin with, I did a search on this, didn’t notice anything that stood out.

I work at a auto repair shop, myself being a 22 yr old man, working there for about a year.
The parts shop we get our parts from hired a new parts driver and she was rather cute been talking to her off and on for about 3 months when ever she delivers parts. Talked about her horses, dogs, and other small conversation pieces, eventually we talked about where we both lived at, ends up she only lives a few miles from me, but she was bad at giving directions and I never really figured out where she lived, but supposedly only about 2 miles away.

So today we're talking, and I find out about what car she’s driving now, told me all about it what style and make it was, I told her to come by and show me her car, and afterward we could go to a movie!
She seems excited, and seemed like she really did want to show me her brand new Mazda (blah), and she seemed excited about going out with me, this was in the morning time. She said she'd meet me at the shop after work.

So the day rolls around, I’m excited, first date I’ve really been on that wasn't with friends or double date, so I’m alone at the shop, boss went home early, I leave early to get ready, but I leave a "Be Right Back" sign in the door, take 25mins to get ready and back to the shop I go! waiting.... waiting... 1 hour.. waiting.. hour and one-half... waiting.. Two hours I decided maybe I can find where she lives by what she's told me so I can at least confront her about standing me up!

Drive around 30mins being bummed out, rejected, and generally crappy. Unable to find any house that even looked like what she described.

So after driving for so long, I give up, go and fuel up my car, thinking about going to the bar.. But decide I’d rather be happy and go, then be depressed and drink myself stupid and try to drive home.

Now I get to wait for her to deliver more parts and find out, what happened!!
I was at the shop the whole time, and I left a sign saying I’d be back!!
Maybe I didn’t hear something she said... maybe she got scared, or into a wreak.
I'll wait and see...

But I want to know, how were YOU stood up? And what horrible experience did you go threw? What did you do?

(this post brought to you by, Zenhov the noob)

-Zenhov

Edit: spelling, and missed a comma


[Edited on Aug 11, 2005 by Zenhov]

Mr. Zenhov? I'm sorry to have to give you the news. We did everything we could to save your thread, but there was nothing we could do. It died on the operating table. I'm very sorry for your loss.

Maybe she has a normal attention span?

[Edited on Aug 13, 2005 by hoisin]

Sorry to inform you, this wasn't a date and you weren't stood up. People say they'll do things all the time, "I'll call you" or "we'll hang out sometime", but unless there was an implicit agreement between the two of you to meet up at a certain place at a certain time, she probably didn't even know you were waiting.

Also, I'm pretty sure driving around aimlessly looking for her house to "confront" her would have given out the creepy stalker vibe pretty hardcore, eliminating any chance you'd have with her. It's quite likely that even if she did want to do something with you, she probably had other stuff to do and it slipped her mind. Next time, ask for her number, and confirm something with her at a set place and time.

yeah, i'd have to say. stalkeresque. VERY!

I need 150ccs of awesome, STAT, or I don't think I'm going to survive from reading this bad boy.

Don't be a stalker, join the Dating Sucks Group, pick up some tips

intreuging.

woah here she comes, she's a man eater

When the hell did this thread come back to life?! i thought it got lost with my other sock.

Yeah that does seem a bit stalkerish, but she came back to the shop and talks like nothing happened, then she says we should meet up sometime?...

And Gwen, i had a mullet from when i was 5 to 12 yrs old.. i've had enough mullet shame in my life, Never again!

Ok...so she talked like nothing had happened...did YOU ask her what happened? Did you explain that you though there were plans to hang out and you waited for her? Hopefully if you did, you left out the part about driving around looking for her.

Look...if it happens with her once...it could really be an honest mistake. Maybe she forgot...maybe she got nervous...maybe something came up and she didn't have your number with her....whatever....once can be explained away, so don't necessarily count her out.

Now...about the impulse to find & confront her. I'm not saying this to talk down to you or insult you...just to offer a little advice. Real men let it roll off.

It had been over a month before she came back to the shop, and i didn't say anything about it, i figured if she just wants to be that way about it.. Its not worth the drama to bring this up, when pissing her off could cause problems with my employment.
Yeah i realize that was "way way" to stalkerish, and i realize that, and glad i didnt confront her, i was just hurt since i don't honestly get a chance to go on dates.

I'll just let the first time roll off like nothing happened, if she does it again, then i'll just sign off, and expect nothing from her ever.

Well in the mean time she found herself a boyfriend(which she didnt have before) who she says "Isn't happy with".. So i'm just playing the waiting game for awhile.


Thanks for not chewing my newbie ass alive..

My guess is that maybe she did something impulsive (like agree to meet up with someone she didn't know very well) and then chickened out. I have never stood anyone up but I have definitely impulsively agreed to something that a couple of hours later, alone with my own thoughts I have thought "What the hell was I thinking?" Beware the stalkerishness thought, because if a girl is having doubts that is exactly the sort of thing that would make her glad she didn't show up.

I think you have only one remedy here. You must pee on her. Multiple times if possible, but pee you must, and I mean now.

This is the solution.

Because there's no problem life can serve up that cannot be solved by peeing on people.

Um, August 13th?

Got a problem with your roommate? Just pee on him while he's passed out..

Got a problem with your food? pee on that waitress, she'll be pissed off at the chef.