Help getting sex! - confidence

Any advice on gaining/appearing to have confidence? Apparently you need one of these things to get laid....

We don't know nothing about helping people gain confidence... we just strip it away... sorry.

Alcohol. But not too much. And a really, really drunk girl.

You're lucky you got this thread started on the day that two other n00bs decided it was time to start penis size threads. Otherwise you would have been buried under a bunch of posts way more sarcastic than mine.

I always find developing a thick skin helps with confidence. So just get insulted a lot by a bunch of sarcastic Intarweb assclowns... if only you could find a bunch o them somewhere

I'm having a REALLY hard time deciding which thread to start with and how horribly mean I should be...

Start on the penis sizers, these dudes have GOT to learn.

A lack of confidence is normally caused by a fear of failure or rejection. In effect, you want to win too much. If that fits you, you basically need to change your thinking to stop minding if you loose.

Try small steps to improve your confidence. Whenever you meet a girl, for example, when you buy your shopping, just say something nice and be friendly. The aim is just to have a friendly exchange and get her to smile. You are not aiming to ask her out, just to be friendly and to make her smile. If this does not work, you won't loose self esteeme.

If you change your behaviour to be friendly by default and to get smiles of girls, you can gain extra confidence and also get used to the fact that it does not matter if you don't win every time.

I've tried... oh how I've tried. It's like teaching astrophysics to monkeys. Really, really dumb monkeys.

I've changed my mind.

Start here!

Oh fuck that. The whole Silliness board makes my blood pressure rise to unhealthy levels.

So... much... STUPID!!

Fair play.

I will deal with him myself...

you either have it or you don't.
ou have to learn to accept who you are, deal with the body you have been given, or change it to suit your personality, and be comfortable in your own skin.
once you are proud of who you are, then the confidence will show.
remember, if you fake it, sooner or later it will come out that it is all just a show, a lie, and nobody likes a liar,

First things first, forget about appearing to have confidence. Find your confidence, and the appearance will take care of itself.

Secondly, confidence is not something you create, it's something you find.

Seek out challenges and prevail. Find difficult situations and overcome, rather than hide from them. Get in a fight that you can't win. A black eye or a cracked rib hurts alot more than being turned down by some chick, trust me.

Third, lose the fear. Whether it's fear of defeat, fear of rejection, or the biggest one of all, fear of the unknown, find some way to get over it. Confidence when you know you'll win is cheap, having the balls to "go for it" when the result is uncertain, well, that's pure gold.

Finally, your search for your own confidence must be a journey you take for yourself. Forget girls, and forget getting laid. All of that is just a fortunate side effect of something much more important. If you live your life acting a certain way to impress women, people will thing you're a colossal dipshit, and they'll be right

Best. Advice. Ever.

Realize what your best qualities are...and personify them. Strive to bring those qualities out with confidence. Use your strengths to help yourself and use your weaknesses to frustrate yourself into action. Because in the end..what do you have to lose?

Confidence is three for a dollar at Wal-Mart.

I think I'll stick with the permanant mental scarring thanks all the same.

What you said was true though...confidence comes from within etc etc.

Read a book called Feel the fear and do it anyway, it's all about pushing your boundries. Could be useful.

I'll sell you some of mine. I have enough for about 5 people.

"Super Confidence" by Gael Lindenfield.

[Edited on Aug 08, 2005 by dem_z]

Ignore all these people. Self-confidence is directly proportionate to penis size. Get a bigger penis.

But that would make me over-confident??

Perhaps you already are.